Topic: Dealing with low self-esteem - page 2. (Read 340 times)

This could be partly true, generally we have to try to confirm to what society creates
as the norm and this can be difficult for people with low self esteem but it's not necessarily
the cause.

The early years of a child's development are crucial. Teaching children to be able to deal
with problems such as bullying for example are extremely important, if those lessons are not
learned they can manifest into mental issues and the most serious is suicidal thoughts.

Overcoming the issue of low self esteem will certainly help with positive friends and family
and may need professional help.

The reason you are having this problem is that you are trying desperately to fit in to a general ideology which is growing more and more absurd with each passing day.  For such people it may be effective to kind of wipe the slate clean-ish and get a new intellectual start while analyzing how you got nudged over into your present state.  I'm not saying it will work for you, but it's possibly worth a shot.

I agree with you, one must build himself up, you don't need anyone to do it for you. 
Low self esteem is man made,  it's wasn't given to us by our creator. God gives us the spirit of boldness. But because of oppression and wants. Some humans feels they're not worth something. 

Low self esteem people, compare them with others. They forget that human beings are born with a special gift. If your gift haven't been tapped you have nothing to worry about than try to discover ur gift and deploy it to the world.

When you are 90 years old, with no hair, no teeth, wrinkled skin, dilapidated muscles, withering bones, weak thinking ability and memory, etc., etc.... then recognize that you are the best, lol.

If you don't recognize that Jesus GAVE to you as a GIFT all the goodness and ability that you have, and that He is the answer to getting it back after you have thrown it away, then you are living a lie in your self-esteem.


SOUL Value

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You are already given many gifts when you come to earth and are designed to see things in a certain way. These sights are gifted in their own way and Blind too. Blindness is where the real gifts lie. When you can feel instead of see, you can find anything/everything you desire and fill up on. It gives you fulfillment and peace within. The blindness is eternal and yet can lead and uncover bigger purpose and light to awaken within you. Knowing blindness exists can ensure unlimited success for you and those around you. Be in the blindness.

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Sometimes low mood is one of the factors and it makes one to compares his or herself negatively with someone else. It can make some to even think of suicide because is like you think you are from a different world and things are not going your way.
People with low esteem may feel that guilt that people will stop liking them for doing anything or to maintain a boundary. Unhappy childhood where parents are having one problem or the other can critically affect the child to even relate children around. Sometimes people may even think such children are witches because they act odd.

Yea you need start by seeing yourself as the best, don't think about what people say about you negatively,  See yourself as the best version of its kind and don't feel intimidated by anyone, interact and communicate with people, you know sometimes staying indoors kills someone's self esteem, so coming out and meeting people will also help deal with it,
And I don't think going for cosmetic surgery has anything to do with self esteem, as self esteem has to do with who you are from the inside, while cosmetic surgery has to do with you wanting to be more Beautiful, the truth is before anyone else believes in you you have to start by believing in yourself.

Low esteem means to hate yourself or feeling that people are better than you. It is related to inferiority complex. It is the drive or wish to be like someone else. I believe that people that go for cosmetic surgery or those that try to change the color of their skin have low esteem. High esteem is loving yourself the way you are even in the face of criticism and mockery. Why would somebody want to change his sex or reshape some parts of the body.

The first step to break free from low esteem is to appreciate yourself they way you are.
Second, you must know that you are unique.
Third, you must have the consciousness that you posses gifts and abilities that most people don't have.
Fourth, understand that no-matter how you act or look people would still criticize you.
Fifth you must be strong to withstand criticism, just understand that what people say are their own view and not the general opinion about you.
Sixth, Stay around people that appreciate and encourage you and not those that talk down on you.

     

You just need to have self-contentment and all you need is a contented and secure life which truly no money can buy. If you are contented with any little things you have and you are secure from any dangers every day, then you are contented and you don't need to think about whatever is in people's minds. Just like how the story of the donkey goes, people always have their own opinion about you but that's not really counted because you truly know yourself and you can still make things work without listening to them as long as you know it's the right thing to do.

 Oftentimes, these individuals who deal with low self esteem are usually introverted and try to keep to themselves to avoid being criticised or judged wrongly. Some suffer this hurtful experience right from childhood and hardly share with peeps for fear of not being understood. Some even resort to having eating disorders or stress eat.

 Yeah, before healing takes place, one has to be ready to let go of those hurtful and debasing thoughts. Reading books on how to boost low self-esteem helps. Constantly reciting positive words could also do the trick too.

For one to increase his self steem needs to appreciate himself/herself first. Without that appreciation, you'll be dwelling into negativities on this world and to those words that have been told to you negatively.

A person that can easily be affected by what others are telling him/her will certainly impact their self steem which will turn to be lower.

Don't be affected by what others word, if you're confident of what you are right now then improve yourself and don't let others bother you. As long as you're not stepping in other people and you're being productive with what you do and your attitude, you have to keep it up.

Choosing wrong people to hang out with is pretty much worst thing you can do your self-esteem. Luckily in most cases in life, you can choose your own friends.

But even in healthy relationships you still need to do most of the heavy lifting and emotional work yourself. You need to work hard on yourself and with your feelings for that healthy relationship.

People with low self-esteem often make the mistake of getting hooked on pity as fish out the complementaries from people around them. Occiasionally everyone likes some comfort but for people with low self-esteem that's like heroin. They still need it. Even more then rest of people

But as it takes away their problems and makes them happy, they get hooked, specially when they don't need to do any work for it. (except to hint and sort of beg for compliments), But not by asking, just by insisting how am ugly or loser, etc they think they are themselves.

This however is counterproductive as self esteem doesn't come from inside themselves. They need a another person giving it to them constantly. And in a worst case they don't see how heavy and taxng this behaviour is to their friends. Lifting someone up constantly isnt healthy. If they don't pull their weight, it gets too heavy and those new friends are sadly leaving too.

 Self esteem is the way we regard ourselves, the values we place. Its normal to criticize ourselves once in a while, but where low self-esteem creeps in is where we constantly degrade ourselves or judge negatively.
 Low self-esteem constantly leaves one feeling inadequate; always striving for perfection. This attitude can sometimes push one into depression, hopelessness and even entertain suicidal thoughts.

 I've seen peeps who go out of their comfort zones just to lead a lifestyle which they believe is acceptable by their peers and lose themselves in the process.
 This is so sad as most people dealing with low self-esteem find it difficult to appreciate themselves, always downplaying their positive attributes and abilities, regard themselves as inferior to their peers and so on.

 Although there are ways to help peeps dealing with such a feeling such as
- building positive relationships
- appreciating and complimenting yourself and all that. But it's looking like it's not enough because whether we believe it or not, it is slowly depriving us of active and innovative minds that have been held prisoner by low self-esteem. Your input would be appreciated.