the reason why people refer me to a list of wallets is because they do not trust any one of the wallets themselves
No, it's because different wallets are better for different purposes. If you need a very secure and entirely trustless wallet, you can download Bitcoin Core on an airgapped PC.
If you want convenience and everyday spending, you could try a software wallet (Electrum is the most trusted of those wallets). You could also try an online wallet if they have decent systems like multisig wallets (BitGo and Green Address for example).
If you want cold storage, Electrum has a cold storage feature, or you could try a paper wallet. Hardware wallets are a good hybrid which are convenient for ordinary usage, but are also sort of a form of cold storage and offer additional features such as hidden wallets and separate accounts to try and preserve your privacy. Personally I use a TREZOR, and I have tried using Electrum as the interface for it.
The reason that it's a problem for you is because BTC has an open source and free ethic in which everyone doesn't have to use the same wallet. As long as there are intelligent people reviewing the open source code and there doesn't appear to be anything illegitimate, the wallet is safe and they can have a variety of different features.
and one of those problems is that the wallet is hard to get to work, and involves trying to find your way through a minefield
For me it took about zero minutes, or at most one, to start with an online wallet. I later took up a hardware wallet.