Topic: Fear Of Public Speaking (Read 260 times)
be naturally, dont let nervous take over among all your emotion, more practice
If you have a fear of public speaking, you should practise in front of the mirror. It's the best way train you voice and your speaking. And the more you speak in public, even if you don't succeed in it, the better your skills are.
When it comes down to public speaking nothing takes the place of practicing and preparing, so don’t forget to write out your script points. And watch yourself in the mirror the night before your speech paying attention to your facial expressions.
A very useful post, not just for public speaking, but socializing in general.
I hate public speaking! Since may childhood when I failed during my public speech I have enormous fear of audience! That is why I quit piano, it was impossible to become a professional without playing on a stage
Thanks for sharing those. That's very useful for those who have fear speaking on public.
I am an introvert and I do not like speaking in public. However, I was able to stand in front of the crowd because of conviction. Most of the time, people get scared talking in front because they are afraid of what people might say. But if you do have a reason to stand before them and you need to get a message out, you will just be surprised that no matter how good or bad you are as a speaker, you are able to touch people's hearts because they can feel the sincerity of what you are saying.
I have other problems man.
Basically I can speak in public, I can talk with groups of people without feeling any pressure.
The problem is when I talk to a very very attractive person when I feel that my brain shuts down. But that's just for the first 10-15mins I get to know that person. I'm fine after yet I would love to not feel that way...
Basically I can speak in public, I can talk with groups of people without feeling any pressure.
The problem is when I talk to a very very attractive person when I feel that my brain shuts down. But that's just for the first 10-15mins I get to know that person. I'm fine after yet I would love to not feel that way...
When I'm at school and there's a seminar (a time when you have to answer to the whole group), I fall through the ground.
I don't know what to do with it, nothing helps
I don't know what to do with it, nothing helps
I will keep this in mind, thank you~! To be honest, I grew up as an introvert. I really hated public speaking, even reciting in class makes me shiver and have an anxiety attack. Although now, I can say that I am a really changed person.
I dont mind answering questions in class any more and I am not that awkward around new people (I was before, horribly). I think it's part of maturing or growing up, you just have to face your fears. This may be quite weird but I think of it this way now: there are billions of people in the earth and they might have gone through this at least once, so why must I be afraid?
I dont mind answering questions in class any more and I am not that awkward around new people (I was before, horribly). I think it's part of maturing or growing up, you just have to face your fears. This may be quite weird but I think of it this way now: there are billions of people in the earth and they might have gone through this at least once, so why must I be afraid?
Hi everybody I would like to share some insights that really helped me get over or manage should I say my fear of public speaking. In my job speaking in public has become more and more important and to be quite frank, it scared the living daylights out of me.
There were a few techniques I learned and deployed that have been extremely beneficial.
1) Anxiety Management
"85% of people fear public speaking and the other 15% are lying"
Understanding that the anxious feeling you get is little more than your body telling you what your about to do is important. Try greeting your anxiety as soon as you start to notice it creeping in. No...actually greet your anxiety, sounds daft but it works.
"Hi anxiety, this is me feeling nervous, I'm about to do something of consequence"
Another technique I use for anxiety is re-framing the situation I see myself in as an opportunity and not a performance. There is no wrong way to do it. Look at it as a conversation: Start with questions
Use conversational language
Be in the present moment (reciting tong twisters before speaking in my fav)
2) Dare To Be Dull
"Aiming for perfection prevents perfection"
There is nothing wrong with wanting to do your best however in the case of public speaking putting yourself under too much pressure can lead to you thinking about what you are going to say next instead of what you are currently saying.
Your mind will get in your way, we are rational beings and its a skill developed over thousands of years! In the case of public speaking this takes you out of the moment. Try a game at home where you point at an object and call it a name other than what it is ie..pointing at a bottle of water and calling it a cat. Notice how you stockpile words or name things in themes (this is you getting in your own way and not being in the moment!)
3) Tell A Story
"Responding in a structured way increases processing fluency by 40%"
A good story has structure, a good story helps you understand what the author is thinking. If your aim is to help the people you are speaking to understand your thoughts, tell a story. Have structure. This technique helped me the most!
PROBLEM/OPPORTUNITY > SOLUTION > BENEFIT or WHAT > SO WHAT > NOW WHAT
These structure techniques help me formalise what I am about to say and in what order and it also helped people understand a hell of allot better!
This may not be for everyone but once I found out the about it really did have an impact of my confidence to speak in public. Having said that I still get that sick to your stomach feeling before going out but let me tell you that following these principles has really helped me manage the whole process. Id love to hear other peoples techniques below!
Thankyou
There were a few techniques I learned and deployed that have been extremely beneficial.
1) Anxiety Management
"85% of people fear public speaking and the other 15% are lying"
Understanding that the anxious feeling you get is little more than your body telling you what your about to do is important. Try greeting your anxiety as soon as you start to notice it creeping in. No...actually greet your anxiety, sounds daft but it works.
"Hi anxiety, this is me feeling nervous, I'm about to do something of consequence"
Another technique I use for anxiety is re-framing the situation I see myself in as an opportunity and not a performance. There is no wrong way to do it. Look at it as a conversation: Start with questions
Use conversational language
Be in the present moment (reciting tong twisters before speaking in my fav)
2) Dare To Be Dull
"Aiming for perfection prevents perfection"
There is nothing wrong with wanting to do your best however in the case of public speaking putting yourself under too much pressure can lead to you thinking about what you are going to say next instead of what you are currently saying.
Your mind will get in your way, we are rational beings and its a skill developed over thousands of years! In the case of public speaking this takes you out of the moment. Try a game at home where you point at an object and call it a name other than what it is ie..pointing at a bottle of water and calling it a cat. Notice how you stockpile words or name things in themes (this is you getting in your own way and not being in the moment!)
3) Tell A Story
"Responding in a structured way increases processing fluency by 40%"
A good story has structure, a good story helps you understand what the author is thinking. If your aim is to help the people you are speaking to understand your thoughts, tell a story. Have structure. This technique helped me the most!
PROBLEM/OPPORTUNITY > SOLUTION > BENEFIT or WHAT > SO WHAT > NOW WHAT
These structure techniques help me formalise what I am about to say and in what order and it also helped people understand a hell of allot better!
This may not be for everyone but once I found out the about it really did have an impact of my confidence to speak in public. Having said that I still get that sick to your stomach feeling before going out but let me tell you that following these principles has really helped me manage the whole process. Id love to hear other peoples techniques below!
Thankyou
good topic because I had Anxiety issues during a public speaking and I knew many had the same problem so you information are very helpful
Great information even I was afraid in the beginning but after practice it was ok
The key to non-extemporaneous public speaking is to have confidence in your words.
It means practicing the entire speech you are going to give several times to a mirror and then to a small audience (friends and family) several times before taking it live.
It means practicing the entire speech you are going to give several times to a mirror and then to a small audience (friends and family) several times before taking it live.
Public speaking call for courage and boldness with these one can not conquer this challenge. Manifold individual avoid speaking in the public due to the fear of errors and thereby ending being anti-social beings.
feel insecure or high in shame 
Thanks dude, very good article and this help me a lots.
thanks dear, great tips to eradicate the fear to speak with public.....
I still can't understand this problem. Most likely this problem is not even a problem unless you stutter. In that case you really have difficulties communicating in public but this is a completely different topic.
Great tips . Most of these things said are much easier said than done. To me , i believe that as you go on to speak in public, self confidence comes by itself. Although you would make mistakes from start
I don't fear when i come to the public speaking but i can't look straight in the other's eyes in the first meet, but if their is pretty than it's different. Why im being so weird like that ? 
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