I already told you. To raise the average fee paid. A miner can actually require a minimum of 0.1 mBTC to include a tx in the next block but advertise that it requires 0.2 mBTC
Then just do what you do now: assume that he's bluffing and pay as little as you want.
But then you wont be sure that he will mine it, in the next block.
If you want to play poker with miners - I don't see anything wrong with that.
But the promise is only as for the fee that guarantees a certain service - that's a service they sell.
If you don't want to buy the guarantee to be mined withing in the next block, use your system; set you fee to ten times less and pray...