Look at the Ethereum fork. Perfect. Two sides have a difference of opinion. Neither will budge. It is a full impasse.
We need a bitcoin hard fork. Bitcoin BU and Bitcoin SegWit. after some time, one side will be better than the other. The network will be stronger and the impasse and killing will be gone.
Hard fork is like a revolution. It's good if it's the bringer of a new (and better?) world.
If it does a significant improvement it's good. There are 2 keyword here:
significant and
improvement.
Hard forks should be however rare, because if they are too many they become a sign that the coin is not mature yet.
Hard fork can make the price drop. Some are scared of that.
Hard for can split communities and
both may lose of it.
Somehow the politics around Bitcoin always made us believe that hard fork is bad for Bitcoin, they will hurt at least the public image of Bitcoin. I am not sure of the actual reasons behind the scenes.
Imho Bitcoin could use hard forks now and then. Major change, new major version, name it: hard fork. One this year, ope in 2 years from now, then 4 years, 8, 16, .. you know the opposite of halving
Now BU and SegWit. This is not only a significant improvement, it's an ideological split. I don't like it. I didn't like it with ETH either, and I never had ETH, so I am not involved.
The biggest power of Bitcoin is the impressive hash rate behind it. You want that diminished. Why?
From my understanding BU can split away at any time. Not even 51% needed. Just mine > 1MB block, accept it, and bang! The block is accepted by one chain and not by the other. There's the risk that a few times the BU network could resync with main chain (and miners will lose the fee), but at some point the split will happen. You want that, mine on BU pools, support it and increase its hash rate, giving it more chance to happen.
SegWit 95% approach is... too soft.
Maybe somebody will end this war. Somebody proposed 2MB + SegWit, to somehow make everybody happier. I still believe that such smart people can do it good.
TL;DR: Hard fork = good. Community split = bad. My 2 satoshi.