Topic: Gambling Is for the strong. - page 4. (Read 856 times)

The title of the thread is at odds with the story presented. It doesn't seem like this person is strong, but in fact they are weak and lost. If they were strong they would not be second guessing whether that money could have been better spent elsewhere, it seems like they consider it a very wasteful pursuit and wish they never put so much into it. Unfortunately when faced with that scenario, what a real strong person would do is - accept all the losses they have made up to that point are unrecoverable and stop betting entirely if they want to break the habit. If they've made losses and are regretting it, every single new bet is only compounding the longer term problem and will lead to further unhappiness.

His friend won’t be acting like that if he is just an occasional gambler who also gamble at a minimal amount. Surely he’s now regretting all his losses from gambling and wishing he hasn’t done gambling in the first place. In this case, if you think you cannot control yourself over gambling, maybe because you see gambling that can give you great profits or you can earn living from it, then leave gambling for good. Gambling casinos will always have the edge over players, so gamblers should always know that and gamble responsibly.

No matter how we try to account for how much we spend on gambling it is always hard to spend within our limit just that what makes the difference is the extent everyone within the gambling cycle goes about theirs. Regret is for the weak as well, I never regret any amount i gamble with. If i begin to gamble out of control i try avoiding anything bet until i subject that urge to my own will

Not just in this community, I think majority of the gamblers around have some kind of thoughts about their losses and the 'what if' scenario. And I guess everyone losses that we have, it will just crossed our minds. But it's always late and those are regrets and we can't go back and get our money back. So it will always be that question that are going to crossed our minds. So as gamblers, we have to fight it mentally, if you can't then you should stop gambling because it might really hit a toll on you. Or everyday after a big losses, you go to sleep but still thinks of the money that you have lost that night. And then if you are already ok then you can go back to your gambling activities again.

I think people gamble because of 2 reasons only, they want to earn money and get an entertainment. Addiction isn't a part of the reasons, it is the bad impact of too much gambling and caused by gambling with careless way. However, gambling is mostly for entertainment. It is difficult to expect earning regular money from gambling, especially from the luck-based gambling games.

Of course. There are many weak gamblers, those who gamble in careless ways and have lack knowledge about gambling. People who have no good self-control can be categorized as weak gamblers, too. People who become greedy, it is because they don't know well what gambling is. If they know it, they must realize that being greedy in gambling is a big mistake.

Relatively few people will choose the first option to stop gambling and start another business to recover their losses from gambling, we need to recover finances in the least risky way. But if you choose the second option then you better consider that decision because gambling is not a job recommended to recover losses, even if you don't have good self-control in gambling then the amount of loss will increase. But anyone is free to choose any option as long as they have considered their decision.

Gambling has not so much to do with the good or the bad or who is strong or weak. We all have our down sides in life, and some are addicted to gambling. Still others have other problems and/or other addictions. But of course you don't gamble and lose for fun. I don't know if a human's DNA has anything to do with being prone to gambling or not. And there are also people who play poker and gamble just for fun. Then that has nothing to do with a strong or weak personality. Weaker and more susceptible people are more likely to fall back into a gambling pattern.

It's nice bringing up this discussion to the forum, as you never can tell, there might be gamblers like this here facing such an issue and yet don't know what to do, of which any piece of advice given here will likely go a long way to these gamblers.
So for me, I will kindly say that gambling is not meant for everyone, and if you happen to notice it's not working for you, it's better you just give it a break, rather than continue and go bankrupt (I.e lose all your funds).

Secondly, I will advice you that in such case a gambler should try to gamble an amount he/she can always afford to lose, so that in case it doesn't go as planned, you won't get disturbed

First of all, tremendous context to OP narrative story.

 Friend, after the pandemic I was submerged in delivery-pickup, it is almost every day, my wife tells me that it is at the level of obsession.

 Then I thought wow I have spent a few extra dollars that I could have saved, but since I could spend it, it's okay.

 Likewise the bets if it is money available for that, no problema, is like to enjoy hobby.

 For gains you have to move your "skill", really, so, there are loss compensation in many ways, just find them.

He won't came up with a title like that for no reason. Just read the thread contents and you will see why he choose those. Gambling is not for anyone but there are restrictions whether it's in country, religion, and age.

Most of us play gambling with one thing on our mind, and that is to win a profit. We almost forgot that the possibility of losing in gambling is very high and once we lose we just regret it badly. This is what happens to the friend of the OP, that is why the OP thinks his friend is too weak to handle his losses.

If we are on his shoes I think we will also feel the same because the amount that he lose are kinda huge but his friend should not regret it and think that he better put the money on other things because gambling still provides him a different kind of fun and thrill that can't possibly be experienced anywhere else.

I think his friend had already taken gambling as a vice and has some kind of awakening that he is wasting money thus the thinking of regrets and the what ifs.


Still diverting the money to business than gambling is much better.  Who knows, the person might have a knack for business.  So his friend can try, oftentimes people learn things when the situation is on-hand.  Others even discover their hidden potential when they are in the situation.

Many of us here doesn't even have a business or a side project but no we didn't became an addict. It's only up to our control plus each of us must have other things to do in our life. By doing them, we are not heavily exposed in gambling and reduces our chance of becoming an addict to it.

When we gamble, we are actually aware of what we are doing but we only got carried away of that small wins we are getting and in our minds, we said that need to continue to able to find a bigger win. Add in the eye catching graphics and the nice sounds of that slot machines which make it almost impossible to stop playing on them but one is only forced to stop once they have no more in their balance.

It's great that you came back on the right path. Your idea of diverting your attention to staking is nice but you shouldn't be guilty to gamble small. Just practice a self control and you will soon enjoy gambling without problems like the rest of us.

The most important thing for gamblers to realize is that gambling is an activity that carries risks.
I am sure that most gamblers know very well, that the probability of winning that we have is smaller than the ratio of losses that we will get. Gamblers must realize that activities involving this one hobby should not be used as land for earning income.

So, gamble according to your means. that is, a gambler must accustom himself to playing with money that is ready to lose. plus, without having to always chase every loss that has been experienced. in the case of your friend, there is an old saying. that regret always comes too late. I mean, that your friend is sorry for all the money he has lost on his gambling. most likely, that your friend is a gambling addict. So, IMO, your job as a friend is just to advise him. plus, giving him an understanding of gambling. also, telling him to make gambling just part of the fun, without harming himself.

Addicts always have regrets or feel guilty whenever they experience a loss. And when they win or are on a winning streak these thoughts are far from them. As a friend to your friend, speak to him and help him quit gambling because obviously he needs your help. Anyone who feels this way is just an irresponsible gambler who has failed to set a gambling budget.

The thing is, OP's friend is not aware that he is now addicted to gambling and that is not good, if that happens to your friend maybe you should try to give him advice so that he will stop gambling for now or for his entire life because as what you can see, he is slowly having a regret and soon it will turn to hatred or maybe he will go and gamble more often than before because he wants to return what he lose. Everyone might feel this thing but gambling needs a strong emotional capacity as well.

Personally, I consider myself strong because of my many bad experiences in gambling. When I was new to gambling, I made a lot of mistakes, and learning wasn't easy for me. However, I eventually learned how to become responsible in gambling. The first thing we need to know as gamblers is  understanding the risk and our chances because if we understand that, we will know that losses are just part of gambling. We also need to learn how to control our emotions as it can lead us to disaster if we can't control them.

This kind of entertainment is for smart people. Dumb people should not gamble as it can destroy their lives. What happens to them will be blamed on gambling instead of blaming themselves for poor decision making. That's why responsible gambling is highly advised, or else you'll suffer a big defeat.

What the OP is talking about looks like not only his friend has this because my friend has the same thing every time I see him he always stares at his phone very seriously and he gambles.
and suddenly he complains that he always loses and when he won before he keeps playing because he hopes to win again and wants to make up for his previous losses, and also says he wants to work or do business to forget the bets he plays almost every day, and with I totally support him and I also encourage his changes.
and finally not long after he got a job and after spending a month he worked, then he stopped doing the habit of gambling every day and he says he still plays in his spare time or only on holidays. Even then he had to do it by dividing his time for other things.
and I conclude that being busy or working is the solution for gambling addicts to reduce their gambling activities, because gamblers who mostly accept defeat will continue to play because they have no other activity besides gambling and only rely on money from their parents.
and I asked my friend what made him change, first because he couldn't gamble for a while, working from morning to evening cleaning, eating and watching television or entertainment on social media and then taking a break because he felt tired.
and secondly, he regrets, if his hard-earned money is used for gambling and although he still does it in his limited free time and only for entertainment.

and even though my story is not entirely successful, at least it can reduce gambling activity and restore intention, and if indeed the intention is true at least don't experience large or continuous losses and also be aware that gambling is only for entertainment. And gambling will be a little profitable if we don't keep playing and also limit mods and games because luck will spin because if we often play and get wins or luck but after experiencing many defeats.
And if we rarely gamble and when we win or are lucky we still get small wins, because before we didn't play much and also lost.

the first thing your friend should do is take a few months off and stay away from gambling before things get worse. if the effort to stay away from gambling is successful, then you give directions to immediately open a small business or something else that makes your friend more busy unthinkable by gambling.

I give such advice because I have told you many times that I was devastated very badly by gambling and lost all my valuables and all my money. after I realized I avoided gambling and all kinds related to gambling after I could control myself could stay away from gambling I made a business to forget gambling and after that I got married. and after getting married I returned to gambling but always planned a budget for gambling without having to exceed my budget limit. so when the gambling budget is a few dollars for a week and it runs out before the specified time, I will not make another deposit and my wife always reminds me.

so the advice I give is from my personal experience.

In the past, I also often suffered defeats like what your friend felt, after that I stopped opening gambling sites and started thinking for a while. The constant defeats that befall me are not a factor of being unlucky, it's impossible that every time I play I often lose, my friends can win at any time while I very rarely win.

After I watched and studied my friends play, I started to find bright spots in playing. When fighting the system, I have to use reason not lust, reason can control emotions when I'm losing or winning. If you keep playing when you lose or win, there is no balance left because the system is very hard to beat. Stop playing for a while when the position is not profitable, if you continue playing you will lose all of your balance.

That is addiction which is created when a person cannot really think of a side project or business like your friend only when he saw that he had lost that huge amount of money started to think about.I was in such situation in the 2020-2021 as I only cared to hit the spin button on slot machines not caring much what was happening to me and this was exactly as I had no side hobby,every money I made from mining I lost it in slot machines in different casinos.Luckily in 2022 I searched about this option of staking coins to get additional passive income as this was what I was trying to do in the slot machines,trying to hit a jackpot to improve my way of living which is a wrong approach.Since I found that I can stake different coins I keep doing it and every time I got some urge to gamble I deposit in my wallet where I stake coins and add the number of staked coins so I can make more money passively.

Trust me as I have been betting from a long time,it is better to get assured income rather than waiting for that big win.