Topic: Getting Married with Bitcoin? tips, ideas, discussion - page 2. (Read 4960 times)

treat it just like a credit card.. where you both in the same account, both using the same pin number, but at the end of the month you explain to each other what each payment is for, or to have the discussion before spending each time... (bitcoin version is simply using the same private key, no multisig nonsense)

but even if she is the loveliest girl in the world always have a hidden stash..

if she was able to live her own life with her own money before being with you, then she obviously gets an income to support her lifestyle. so the need to access your funds should not have to be a big issue..

EG if your both earning 25k each a year.. then when adding it up and then dividing it in 2 its the same... (obviously) so needing to swap funds is negligable amounts

the way i see it.. whatever bank savings or assets she has before marriage, is hers.. whatever bank savings or assets you have before marriage is yours.. but then when married., the NEW household income that comes in each pay day/week/month AFTER the wedding is shared

and also have the conversation that because income is shared, she can't suddenly retire... not only because of money arguments.. but because if retired she will become lazy and fat and no longer have the hot body that you married.. so make sure she doesn't give up work, purely to stay in shape

Hi Crazy_Rabbit,

It was nice meeting you at Bitcoin 2013.

Might I suggest you give her nothing or only a little bit so she has some skin in the game. It raises a red flag to me that she asked about what you were going to do with YOUR bitcoins after you guys get married.

I am a landman and I figure out ownership of mineral rights under property for oil & gas wells. I am very well versed in the laws surrounding community property. First of all, what state do you live in? Community property laws vary from state to state. It is likely that after you are married, any income you make she is entitled to 50% of it. However, it seems your Bitcoin stash was acquired well before marriage, so these coins are yours and only yours to decide what to do with them.

As stated earlier in this thread, no matter how much you love this girl and think she's so awesome, a large percentage of marriages fail. You should be apprehensive to hand much of your money over to her. Certainly you should not give her access to 100% of you Bitcoin savings. Any amount that you give her access to could be litigated as community property, even though you acquired them before marriage. Meaning... if you give her access to 100% of your Bitcoins, expect her to take half if you happen to get divorced.

Again, I suggest you give her a small amount so she has some skin in the game and can appreciate the ebbs and flows of the Bitcoin price fluctuations, and get her more involved with something you are clearly passionate about. I think it is important for significant others to share in hobbies, as it only brings people closer together. Just don't go over board with it man, be smart. I know you think you'll never get divorced, but shit happens.

Take care,

Ch

If you share your ownership with a 2 sign multisign, she can decided not to sign your transactions and you would have lost everything. She would have lost everything, too.

You are not ready to get married if you are not ready to transfer all the coins to her.

I'm not- so whats the best way to share everything? A multisig wallet? Keep in in mind this is something I don't have any intention to spend till it's worth a bazillion. (which will be a long time)

EDIT: Maybe I wasn't clear enough, but there are **NO** issues in the relationship. So I'm not asking this out of distrust or worry, but rather, we think it's an interesting discussion to have now since people are just starting to have it for the first time. Bitcoin is unique the ownership being tied to something that could potentially live in your head. How do you share ownership without out giving potentially complete ownership, etc... multisig? a trust?

First a foremost, congratulations!

Stash 3/4th of the coins in a paper wallet or something. And only let her have access to the other 1/4th. Act like that's all you have. NEVER let her know about the other 3/4ths.

50% of marriages fail. There is a chance you will end up loosing them 5, 10, 20 years down the road. And whatever she gets, she will spend right away.

Congratulations!  Best wishes for a lifetime of love and happiness.

Why would you go through the hassle of getting married and then divorcing?

Everything's so beautiful before this dumb engagement, after which you feel so imprisonned, even with the best wife/husband in the world, you just wanna break out, just for the joy of breaking out.

Don't. Get. Married. Enjoy a full life of happiness with your girlfriend, instead.

Damn now I need a new profile pic of a Rabbi Bunny hugging another Rabbi Bunny....

Why you make my life so hard crazy_rabbit? 

Don't fight her on this.  Give her half the bitcoin right now.  If you fight her, you'll end up giving the lawyers half and her the other half.  Just hand it over, say you are sorry, and promise to never do it again.  Now go back to work and hope she leaves you alone.  

People change, situations change.

If it is something that is bothering you, talk it over with your future wife. If necessary, contractually sort out an agreement that makes everyone happy.

You already identified a potentially issue, may as well deal with it.

it is really simple, bitcoin is like anything else that represent wealth, so if you love your wife to be which I suggest you do as you are getting married soon, you are already willing to spend the rest of your life with her and build up a family, so you are changing your life.

so if you will have problems in your marriage which will lead to divorce, she has the right of half of what you both own, Bitcoins are one thing that she will get as well the same like getting a car or house or.... the only thing is if the end of the relation gets ugly it will be hard for her to prove that you own any bitcoins, it is easy to erase any trace of transaction.

but honestly do not think so much about this, you will destroy your marriage before even you start, if you think that she is the right one for you, than sharing your wealth is one part of sharing your life with her.


in my case, I have 2 kids of my own and we take care of another two kids, if we are going to ever divorce I will split everything I have with my wife to the last penny as she was a great support for me, and she allways gived her hand to pick me up when I was down. so she deserve it.

I am actually thinking about the worst case scenario, in case of my death, I wrote a paper with guide of how she can get to the wealth, even if it will be hard for her ( not so much technical) I made sure that she can get help from friends that I trust.

      

A also agree You and only You must control the coins. They are Yours. If You plan to live together, spend them on house, education, kids.

It's good she did not dismiss Bitcoins in first place. Bu it is really possible that she told Bitcoins are crap in 2012 and when divorcing in 2023 she will ask majority of your wealth that came from these bitcoins.

Why incentivize her to split up with you? Keep the bitcoins for yourself. They can be "both of yours", but retain the keys. Then spend some of them on a mansion when they are worth $10,000.

If my girlfriend hadn't bought any herself, started acting entitled to my bitcoins, and wanted her own private key, I'd get scared.

I'll echo Phinnaeus Gage:
Treat them like an inheritance. It's yours in name.

That she was "supportive" is meaningless, unless by that you mean she wanted you to buy bitcoins rather than buying her birthday presents, or taking her out to dinner.

If You ever stumble upon thought that You are going to divorce with this girl in future then don't get married in first place! Find someone You are going to be together till heath death of Universe. Or at least when NTFS filesystem timestamps overflow.

Bitcoins must be your little secret. It is nothing wrong to hide your source of income. At least my friends think i'm cleaning dust out of computer cases and tighten laptop screws.

Treat it exactly as if Bitcoin didn't exist, and you inherited a shitload of fiat during your relationship prior to marriage. Spend enough of it, and slightly more, to keep her happy in the nest that she desires.

BTW, does she have a sister?

And tell her you personally know TMIBTCITW.

You're asking this on THIS forum?

Here's a good conversation topic. I'm looking forward to getting married to a wonderful woman in the next few months. She smartly brought up the topic of how we should handle my bitcoin once we are married. She see's it as being legitimate shared property, and while it's kind of 'mine', the truth is she has been enormously supportive of me in bitcoin since the beginning.

So, without any of the misogyny that this crowd can sometimes stir up how should one plan for the future with bitcoin? Best practices? Keep in mind, I know all the things that can go wrong with marriage, but telling my future wife I'm hoarding all my bitcoin to myself (and thus negatively altering her impression of the type of man I have) in the event we divorce is probably a worse idea for my life-happiness then coming up with a plan now to how we will hold it and store it as a mutual asset and running the risk of divorcing and splitting it. For the record, I've known her long before bitcoin was even invented. So no, we didn't just meet at the bar after I starting boasting of the $2 days, and lets skip the jokes about women inventing a new form of "mining". (Unless the jokes really good).


I'm looking for tips, ideas, etc....  Keep in mind this might make a template for future lawyers dealing with marriage, divorce, etc... so really constructive ideas would be helpful.