Topic: Good way to save guard our relationship/marriage. (Read 410 times)

Marriage is indeed a sacred institution ordained by God, but in this current era, it has unfortunately become increasingly susceptible to conflicts over assets. It is essential for partners to have a clear understanding of their commitments and fulfill the criteria of adulthood. Learning and understanding each other's character is crucial, and even when one is right in a matter, choosing peace over pride is important. Love should always guide the way, and suspicions should be set aside for a healthy and harmonious relationship.

 According to the holy book, marriage is a blessing from and ordained by God and it is also written in same holy book that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favour from the creator, and in my own opinion these are steps married couples could follow to save their marriage/relationship from scandals.
• God is the foundation of everything so put God first in your marriage.
• It is said that a couples that prays together stays together, so both couples need to be prayerful.
• Good communication- communication is one of the key to a good marriage, so couple should find time to talk about things and not sleep over an argument.
• Do not keep secrets, learn to share eachothers secrets to avoid future problems.
• Make eachother their both priorities.
• Respect- couples should learn to respect eachother not looking down on or scold eachother in the presence of other family members or friends.
• Setting boundaries and maintaining them.
• Making sacrifices for eachother.
• To maintain a good marriage both parties have to be selfless because being selfish in a marriage doesn't work and cause more damage than good.
• Patience they say is virtue and it also implies in marriage as well, to maintain a healthy marriage couples ought to learn to be patience and tolerate eachother.
• Trust and loyalty is very important as well, to build a long-lasting marriage/relationship.
• Avoid introducing a third party into your marriage, even if there should be one then your parents or spiritual parents should be considered, because there advice could have a positive effect but in case it affect the marriage negatively then disregarding such advise should be considered.
• Every partner needs an encouragement and constant reassurance of love and commitment so it's advisable for couples to encourage eachother not only with words but love and affections as well.
• Apologising to eachother when you're wrong.
• Giving attention to eachothers need other then sex alone.
• A good and healthy sexual life is also important in marriage.
 However, take note that love and commitment plays a very important role in safe guarding a marriage, cause where there's love there's peace and commitment brings forth loyalty.

lets leave God out of this, he has already given us the power to find our wives, he gave wife to Adam he blamed God for it. so he left man to look for wife  and bring it to him for blessing. men must be very observant in choosen their life partner,  don't let emotion and appearance blind you. because its a life time marriage.

the best way to save guard your marriage is to choose your friend as partner, both parties might have understand each other, knowing the likes and dislikes of one another.  there is no perfect marriage, but forgiveness and  endurance one can protect his marriage and relationship.

So many marriages have been in chaos due to lack of understanding,I think that if you don't have any clue of whom you getting married to you should just take a bow and leave or else you might not only be getting married to a man you love but to a man beater as the case maybe or even worst.

Before we talk of understanding,that's where relationship came about,we have to be in a relationship to understand the person we're to spend the rest of our lives with,if not then every other thing is a waste.

I understand what you are trying to say by this list that you have made. You are listing out the types of marriage. But looking at your number 1 list is not correctly placed, you can't say customary court marriage. You missed two types of marriage there, that is custom/court. I believe you called it that way because it is conducted in customary court but it is not called customary court marriage but statutory marriage. This is conducted in the court because it is approved and recognised by government and that is why it is mostly required by government in documentation, travel etc. See how the type of marriage system is.

1. :No, it is called statutory marriage or marriage of the act.

2. :  Yes or you can also call it customary marriage.

3. : Yes or you call it church marriage / Islamic marriage depending on the religion.

What is important in your list is that number 1 there is known as statutory marriage.

Marriage can be viewed from three points of view and its establishment is also founded on the three cardinal marriage institutions which are aside from both individuals involved and this three marriages institution are.

1 customary court marriage which is the government recognize marriage institution.

2 traditional marriage

3 religion marriage

These three institutions set the guideline for the union aside from the individual commitment and agreement between both couples involved.

The institution of marriage is very deep, different and unique to different people. The marriage talk is never exhaustible and what will cause broke up or divorce/separation in marriage A could be totally different from marriage B and C. However, I think the marriage system favours the matrilineal society where women have much power or act as men so they could decide to put away any husband she doesn't want anymore with different excuse. Also the court marriage or marriage under the act. This gives right to women to share part of the estate of the man or estate of the marriage despite the man being the sole provider.

In theory, we can easily say or get how to maintain relationships in marriage. unfortunately, in practice it is not as easy as we say. marriage is not easy at all, but that doesn't mean it will be so complicated, everything comes back to each individual and how we live it. whether it's for men or women. after all, in marriage there will always be ups and downs, not infrequently even storms of problems can hit at any time. which in essence, marriage is not just about me, you, or them. but, us. in essence, both of them have their respective roles to complement each other and how to navigate the household ship, whether joy or sorrow.
as I said, we can get wedding tips by simply surfing the internet. but in practice, it is not as easy as we say and even imagine. however, in the current era, it is undeniable that marriage is no longer a sacred part like in the last few decades.

And they shouldn't marry at first if their characters and attitude didn't click from the start. But this is love, it is unconditional, and no matter what differences both of you as a couple have as long as you've got for each other, patience, and understanding. Then everything will be saved and kept for a very long time. It's best to get a consultation from the elderly couples who have been there and stayed for a very long time and they've just standed with their promises in the altar about being 'til death.

The character of the two people will determine if the marriage will last or not. When the character of the two people does not match I don't their is anything God can do. Marriage is all about understanding, and when their is misunderstanding all the time it means the partners are not compatible in character.

Truth be told, there is no peaceful marriages or relationship, but the ability to forgive and apologize when necessary is important. people must see any relationship and marriage to be everyday building, don't be used to your partner to the extend you won't want to keep doing what attracted them to you at first. we must keep doing what's right and listening to one another.

The way to save guard your relationship is by living in peace regardless of the issues at hand, endurance and forgiveness.

There are many things that can make a relationship to work and it is the duty of the both party to come together and agree of whether they are ready to take there differences or not. Relationship is not a small thing and we need to understand that. Those that are in relationships know that it take a two to come together and from bond that will be build for the future. Love is nit only required for relationship to work, tolerance, perseverance and other qualities are needed to build a strong relationship that will last for long.

        Love, attention and communication are wonderful ingredients of a fine and Lasting relationship.
Relationship is a mutual engagement which requires deep emotional affection (love) which after identifying where your affection is attracted to the next thing to do is to pay attention to it by giving it time to grow while you are still observing the other individual's character just to be sure if you are in love or in lust after that communication comes in to explain to your partner how you feel about them and this aspect must not stop bcs it is through this means one can be able to find  out what challenges are partner is going through in other to know the area our support is needed

The thing is that, marriage is rooted in the agreement of both parties to leave together as husband and wife there after for the union to work,  both need to put in some form of commitment to making their relationship work and one of those ways to make the relationship work is by constant communication between both parties.

Because the place of communication in the success of marriage can not be overemphasised and also trust between both parties because these are the two integral parts of every relationship to work for a long time.

Love alone cannot save a relationship or marriage, it takes understanding and sacrifice in our marriages today. because unlike our parents days respect alone was what it takes to keep their marriage going.

To me a happy home is built on trust, understanding, loyalty, love and forgiveness (thought of adding this because of our current societal behaviour, once a partner makes mistakes, majority of the advice they get is about divorce or revenge ) .

Love alone cannot save a relationship or marriage, it takes understanding and sacrifice in our marriages today. because unlike our parents days respect alone was what it takes to keep their marriage going.

From my own understanding and then my own way of explanation I know very well that marriage is a union and it is because of her character of the two parties that will make a marriage to last very well mentioning the name of God is good in marriage but marriage is being determined by the two parties character so they characteristics of the two parties which showcased how their marriage is going to last or not

We guard our relationship/relationship through good communication between partners because has to be taken very serious as far as relationship/ marriage is concern, through communication we get to find out if our partner is mad at us and even know if their is anything that's is bothering our partner, the ways we treat our partners too can make them stay and love us more.

It is true that God has ordered marriage and that everyone has a fundamental right to marry at a certain age in order to sustain procreation. To my perspective what kills marriage and makes it appear to be a gambling are the societal standards that guide the norms of marriage (laws set by people). If God has established marriage, there are some religions that openly explain the process of marriage and how it will last a long time, but everything is damaged by societal rules.


This is a vital reminder by both genders getting married and not having to be informed before getting married in order to create a prosperous home. Every marriage that lasts and still exists today will undoubtedly have some of these features of positive attitude.