Topic: Have you consider yourself, the family and gambling? - page 3. (Read 1445 times)

I got your entire idea on this, which i could as interpreted as this, there are things we cannot do without, even though they cost us, we don't mind as long as gambling is one of those things that we found pleasure in doing, but we may try to restrict our children from it because they may get the whole idea wrong and misbehave at the cause, gambling is what we have to understand right before starting, because there are things we have to bear in mind concerning it as well as things to avoid, the kind of mistakes we made, we may not allow our own children to follow after same by doing the wrong things except they are completely independent on their own.

If it is very true, when a person gives himself to the bears by not giving himself to his children, he turns out to be irresponsible, that is why there are now so many youth full of drugs and debauchery in the world that one should not take responsibility , that is a mistake. of parents, when a child or a minor under 18 years of age is under the guardianship of their parents, parents must do more than that of a police officer, they must supervise absolutely everything, because as parents we must have rights over them, and in That is the education they receive at home, the values they should have and above all the things that are framed so that they can be men and women who Contribute to the world, then everything starts from home, if the Children are if they are not given the required Attention , through the web, through friends, they will find it and take it without a doubt, otherwise if we focus on neglecting them, we cannot complain after any kind of thing happens, including tragedies.

Educating children is not from an early age, but when you choose a life partner who you will make your wife and mother of your children, because for a child, home is his first school and a mother is his first teacher. Therefore, before getting married, it would be better for us to be wise in choosing a life partner, because marriage is not temporary but once in a lifetime. But on the other hand, we also shouldn't be selfish, where we want to have a good life partner, but we ourselves don't try to qualify ourselves to be good future fathers too. And if you find that at this time we still have bad behavior, are not able to control ourselves and our emotions well, and still like to spend a lot of money on things that are uncertain (gambling), then slowly get rid of these bad characteristics and behavior, and continue to try to become a better person.

Training a child or children is not an easy task, sometimes what you have planned installed for them is not actually what they will go with. I have seen children still get spoiled with their mentality or their moral upbringing. Children are complex and open minded at some certain stage in their life and also wanting a little bit of influence by their peer is always done by most of these keys so even being introvert doesn't help you because the children can turn out differently from what they feel is right on their own part.

Gambling is dangerous, as a father, but that's not a reason to quit. What matters is the cautiousness of the player, he shouldn't get too attached to the game. Having a family is a better advantage to him, and a means of being focused on grooming his home and having less time to gamble. Some gamblers who were too attached to gambling should see it as a time detach. As more responsibility is now on board. Hence, looking out for the children and spouse is the duty now. Gambling profusely at this time is quite wrong. Unfortunately, some players carry the habit over to their homes and tend to destroy the happiness in the house. However, not everyone can control those impulses to reduce their gambling habit as a married player.

In a situation like this, the player should open up to his spouse, for help. Mainly I see marriage as an advantage to the player. However, not all players tend to utilize this opportunity. Being single as a gambler seems riskier to me, in terms of addiction. Unlike a married person who has people around him to take care of him. Things change along the line in the life of every gambler. Good or bad. Considering our home is crucial as gamblers because they matter much more than the casino. Those funds should be used for the kid's upbringing. Spare cash can be thrown into gambling.

Maybe when someone can control and regulate these activities well then gambling will not be a problem. However, when someone tries to use gambling as a shortcut to improve their family's financial situation, then this is clearly wrong behavior, because the final results of gambling cannot be relied on. Instead of gambling being able to improve their financial situation, in the end this activity actually worsens their financial situation, where their needs are not met at all and the money they have is used up on gambling because they have started to become addicted to gambling. In the end, this behavior can cause disharmony in a household relationship, and possibly result in divorce.

And it's true what you said that as much as possible when we gamble, never gamble in front of our children, because perhaps gambling could be a bad example for them (children), with their very high curiosity, children. Children often try everything adults do, including gambling.

I won't support my child gambling. What I would do is only to educate him on the dangers and negativity of gambling at an early age.  Educating them early is the best thing any parent can do for there wards.
This will instill the fear in them from a early age, thus will debunk any later information they  come across.

In essence what your ward hear you preach,  is what they will follow.

And you think once your child starts gambling he/she will be sincere with you all the way? You must be joking if that is what you think. For a child to be so sincere with the parent after starting gambling is so rare, and of course, depends on the relationship you built with the child. When it comes to money in such a way that it is also affecting the life of the child negatively, that's when they start keeping it from you to avoid you believing they are bad children. But if you are such a very caring and supportive father, maybe the children will open up to you, but this is in rare cases. However, if you already know that your child is gambling, maybe you should once in a while request for his gambling slips and apps, it could be randomly done after 6 months so that you will be able to bring in parenting advice for a guide.

Nonetheless, as you are doing this to curb excesses, why not also try to keep giving the child financial support and advice that would make him/her know that the real success of life is not in gambling but in real-life activity and successful career-building elsewhere? Gambling is just a way to earn passive income but also an activity that is dangerous and damning. If a child knows this from the beginning, he/she might be cautious and conscious towards it and build a good foundation that will make him only see it as an extra way of life and not the main one. This will not cause some core attachment to it which often leads to desperation of seeking financial breakthroughs through gambling. With this, such a child will always look elsewhere to build a career.

No. Yes appreciate the fun, the excitement, the wins especially and the losses. But thinking about all of this and with the stress it gives, the time that I should be spending with my family and friends or career, If I would start over again I won't delve in with gambling. I used to juggle with which priority should I chose between making money gambling or making time with my family.

So for me I won't miss out any. Because gambling will always be there, they will operate without me. The lesson I learned from that I can also learn from other endeavor. This is just my perspective and my own experience.

Let me go directly to your question, first of all I will definitely try to educate my child with good education and I will try my best to ensure a bright future for him. I will leave no stone unturned to try to shape a bright future for my child and I will try to shape him accordingly. I will make sure that he is never involved in gambling in student life. When he is established he can gamble as much as he wants I will never invite him to gamble or force him to do so.

In answer to your second question I would say that I will gamble as long as I see myself in the driving position of gambling ie as long as I can trust myself but when I feel that the gambling vehicle is out of control I will quit. 

In answer to the last two questions I will tell you that I have learned and learned a lot during this time of gambling and if I had known about gambling I might not have understood the things that I know or understand now.

1. This is common to all of us parents, though we here are regular gamblers or heavy gamblers at some point, but I think we all have to agree that as much as possible, we wouldn't want our children to get involved in gambling ever in their life. However, when it comes at the right age and the right time, I would say as long as my children are able to make a living themselves, I no longer will interfere if they choose to engage into gambling.
2. Me, I didn't totally quit, but I managed to minimized it at the most convenient to accommodate and prioritize my family necessities and needs.
3. Hmmm the only satisfying moment in the entire time I was gambling since before, was when I went home with a good winning amount and bought my parents and siblings an extra food and drinks for dinner.
4. Well, I might have missed how to responsibly manage my finances.

You are right. Even if one gambles, one should never gamble in front of children. Or to make children learn about it. As a result, children will become interested in shoes. And gradually become addicted to it.

Gambling is strictly for adults. Even we see many adults around us who are addicted to gambling. I know some young people who have become addicted to various drugs because of their gambling addiction. I have seen some news about people who have committed heinous crimes like theft and robbery to finance their gambling and drug addiction.

I always say that gambling is not for the faint of heart. If you cannot control yourself then you should definitely stay away from gambling. Otherwise you will easily get addicted to gambling. So before gambling we should know about its disadvantages. And you should keep yourself mentally strong.

Because the risk of losing their children makes parents must always supervising their children. Many children lost their lives because of parents lacks to supervise them, especially if their children can't stay close to their parents and choose to lived or socialize with their friends. They can't gets the right information from their parents because their children believe their friends and not their parents. It's a wrong if their children lost their belief to their parents and follows what their friends said because that can makes them in a wrong way. Parents must introspect what's going on with them and their children so they can start to fixed what's needed. If their children can follow what their parents suggestion, they will not chooses the wrong way because their parents will always besides them.

what you said is true, as the head of the family who has responsibility for his wife's children of course must be highly prioritized however it is a bad impact if we make mistakes in gambling, but honestly this depends on how you manage yourself and depends on your situation too, if gambling does not interfere with the economy and your time with family I don't think it will be a problem, as long as you manage it properly and don't like to exceed your limits in gambling, so you can continue your hobby in gambling but yes of course we gradually have to reduce gambling time from what we usually are in the casino because after marriage has a family that needs your time.

The risk of bad in an unprepared state is real, gambling can do that, so yes as much as possible you need to minimize gambling in front of your child or if possible not in front of him, including also protecting our child's environment because nowadays the environment will easily influence our children to enter a world that is not yet their time to enter such as gambling.

There'll be a countervailing reaction from other people regarding such ideas, but it sounds like hiding the truth under the sun. Growth is inevitable, since he'd never remain a baby forever it's crucial to walk him through the future he's about to face, while in his childhood. Hence, in the future, he'd be able to look back and thank his stars for having a responsible parent who tutored him earlier on the importance of money management. Not all will grow up and end up as gamblers, but even if they gamble, he wouldn't chase losses. As he's known the basics of limiting his expenses, as a child.

When with kids, I tend to teach them what would favor them in the future, because it's inevitable. Putting them on the right track gives the child advances over some financial challenges, even as a teenager. A lot of adults battle with financial management because it came to them as a surprise. Their parents sounded like those around you who always say let the kids be kids. Erasing from their mind those children will end up becoming adults soon. Same way they were taught to learn how to eat, bathe, clean their teeth, etc., a child should also be versatile in other basic factors of living a healthy life like money management.

when we decide to get married, have a family and maybe some already have children. then what is our hobby, our pleasure and our favorite, then that should no longer be our main priority. because we not only have to be responsible for ourselves, but we also have to be responsible for them, our children, and our wives. A child whose life is still dependent on his parents for the time being, and when, for example, we as fathers, the backbone of the family, experience serious problems due to gambling, then it is not ourselves who are the victims, but also those, who are wives and children, who will also be affected.

We all know very well that gambling has quite dangerous risks and negative impacts, because anyone can become addicted, and even those who are old enough can become addicted to gambling, especially those who are underage, maybe they are a little more susceptible to becoming addicted. Therefore, it is quite important for us to always monitor and ensure that our children's growth and development can go well, and that irresponsible gambling activities do not become a factor that disrupts children's growth and development and damages their future.

You touch an important point to me, very often when I argue that kids should be taught about money matters from a very early age I get a negative response within my family, they say that kids should be let to be kids for as long as possible, but if kids are not taught at an early age healthy money habits, they will grow to develop all kind of behaviors that will set them back for the rest of their lives, so taking your time to teach your kids about money early on will save you and your kids a lot of money and headaches, and this could save kids from gambling at an early age as they will understand that gambling is not really for them.

Until they reach adulthood (and after that, until the children listen to my opinion), they will not be allowed to gamble. Of course, with money bets. And I would not include playing cards with friends for fun, for example, within the scope of this question. Upon reaching 18 (21) years of age, their personal responsibility for their lives begins.

Quick question: Should board games like "Monopoly" be classified as gambling? There, too, bets are made, there is game luck, depending on the dice thrown, and the like. Where is the line between a game becoming gambling? If you play chess with money bets, is that already gambling from which children should be protected? It seems to me that there is enough gambling in the lives of children, which adults don't pay attention to due to the prevailing traditional views on this and the lack of monetary bets on these games.

I quit gambling a long time ago, even before I started playing it.

I was always afraid that it could develop into a gambling addiction and I should stop as soon as possible.

I don’t regret that I tried gambling (just a little), because it allowed me to understand how this industry works, from which it is better to stay away. Only if you are not the owner of the casino.

Well, I don't know what it's like to be raised in some other countries, but I think that now things are very similar in terms of childcare. I know that in Europe children are super valuable, just like in the USA, they are actually the future. So I know that when parents do something wrong, like keeping an eye on them, not supervising them, they risk even losing them and handing the children over to the government, so this is something very delicate, I believe that parents should not allow their children to be looking for something else on the internet, if you see that they are in casinos then it is a very serious offense, in fact where I live, that is also punishable by law, because such cases can be very decisive with them, they can cause psychological damage and that It is very delicate.

Actually, I won't allow my child to gamble, that's because I'm afraid of the negative impact it will have on my child's life. Like addiction and wasting money just to gamble, it will ruin his life. But if my child wants to try gambling, maybe I will allow it when he is 21 years old because I think this is the ideal age. And I will help my child to control himself in gambling so that he doesn't become addicted.
I currently cannot stop gambling completely. I still gamble sometimes but not very often, and only with some of my money. This is better than before, I used to be addicted to gambling and it ruined my life.
When I became addicted to gambling I never felt satisfied. I always want to try it and double the profits. I once won a large amount in gambling, and I could buy whatever I wanted. At that time I thought gambling had a good impact on me, but when I tried to gamble again to get more profits, it turned out I was wrong and I slowly experienced losses.