I may say that many members here, when they are new to the system, also find it difficult as you did due to the fact that they do not understand the forum properly, but with time and seriousness, they learn to understand the forum properly. But the reason why some newbies find it hard to learn in this forum easily is because of their eagerness to rank up their accounts,so they never find time to learn much about the rules.
If someone understands that this forum is a place for discussion and learning from various people's opinions, I don't think anyone should get offended by other members' replies because it is a free place where someone can express themselves toward others, so any reply should not be a deterrent to any new member. Even senior members of the forum occasionally have negative feelings toward themselves if any of them do wrong thing. So newcomers should view it as a part of human nature and consider it to be part of learning.
The easiest method of learning is by asking questions about what you don't know. So the main thing that high-ranking members expect from newbies is questions, not them trying to teach others in the forum when they don't have good knowledge.