I don't have to. I have lent to pirate, and my balance is much higher than yours, but it's not enough for me to stress about. I have a life and family. I have a busy professional life. Bitcoin is a hobby, as is this forum and IRC.
I've made decisions that have resulted in my "losing" or at least "losing out" on much more than I have with pirate. It's part of keeping one's eyes open for opportunities. This "investment" was more passive than usual, so I feel less bad about losing it, if that were to happen.
You're wound up over what, a Honda Accord? A nice trip to Paris for a couple weeks? I hate to tell you this, but much worse shit will happen to you in your life. Being crazy on a forum is not going to help you _at all_. If you're planning legal action, good, at least you're doing _something_ other than attacking people who have nothing to do with your choices.
So, to you, this is simply a 'Lesson' to add to your grand life's collection of insight ?
Do you intend to let him get away with this ? Judging by your comments, I think that you are in fact feeling bad for him and will allow him to simply walk away from this, as you must be thinking 'big picture' where he must also be a victim, correct ?
a) Yes, this whole experience will be added to the lessons I've learned while being dragged through life. (Which doesn't last forever.) We'll see what the lesson will be as this story unfolds.
b) He's not getting away with anything yet. I've waited longer for invoices from clients and they've paid. I know he's not having a good time and I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. I imagine he's avoiding the computer right now because it's a source of pure negative energy. I hope he is able to formulate a plan to get things sorted out. I would appreciate hearing from him about this, but given that he's missed a few dates by a fair margin, the silver lining is that I'm not waiting for him to say something on date x.
c) I don't know if he's a victim or not. Given the few conversations I've had with him about his business
1, I could see how he could be a victim or a person who overextended himself and made poor decisions. Again, he has the opportunity to sort things out. I think we can all agree that he has a big enough ego that he won't be able to disappear forever. :-)
d) I do feel bad for him regarding the threats against his person. I would not want to be in his position with talk of molotov cocktails and who knows what in private messages. My wife and I went through a scare with MS13 that shook us up for a while, and we don't have kids to protect. It must be much more concerning to have credible threats in that situation.
That said, it's early, and I try not to project or speculate too much on what people are thinking or planning.
1. The conversation involved a discussion of a lower-cost source of btc that happened to be in my general area, but I did not have details about pricing, identity, or anything else.