Yes, be patient. And more each day be patient. The blocks are totally full now. Knowing whether or not a transaction is processed is not possible any longer unless you wait of 5 or 6 days. You must just hope that it finally gets into a block. hope and pray and wait. That is the system. Don't worry, nearly everyone else is doing the same thing. Lots, and lots of transactions are sitting in never, never mempool. This is how Blockstream wants it. So they can sell you a solution later.
You see, the system is intentionally set up like this by G.Maxwellian. Nearly everyone else wants to fix it by adjusting one line of code. But that would spoil Blockstream's grand plans for their little private solution and a toll booth to use it.