Topic: marriage is everybody problems! (Read 401 times)

Op if I try to understand you, you are talking about marriage problems and it's the right for the husband to fix his marriage when there's issues in his marriage, you also mention how people allows the husband to fix his marriage alone without them even showing concern, that's the way I understood your trend though..

Firstly marriage is the coming together of different genders from different family, or even different religious group to become one(family) or life time partners.
That's why it's always advice to date and get to know your partner very well before getting into marriage with them, know their flaws, their character, how they behave when they are angry.
Ask your partners what they like and what they dislike ( it's very important)

Go for marriage counseling, seek for advice from people who are already married for years,
Marriage is something that should be sacred, an intruder or outside party is not needed except they are been invited by the couples.

Have attended some many wedding where the couples are advised to settle their differences(marital issues) between themselves and shouldn't give room to a third party, parents are even advised to leave the couples and their home alone for them to handle by themselves.

Op if you are married Today you shouldn't give room for a third party, perhaps a marriage counsellor only when you dim it fit it's necessary, have a stand to handle your home and fix it, too many external advices can break marriages and lead to divorce...

In as much of what is going on in today's marriages their are still good marriages that are going very well well without any issues. If people really understand what they need from their marriage and how they want it to be I believe it will end up. I still believe in marriage no matter number of failed marriages.

That means that the guy who got married did not love that much his partner otherwise there would not be problems,as long as both partners love each other they will always find a solution together to any problem.I know the nature of men though as they are not happy with just one woman so the right partner will also make a blind eye if her husband goes away in a trip,work trip and have sexual intercourse with other women,this is a well known thing.As long as all fits into place marriages go really well.It is people who made rushed decisions on getting married without being fully convinced that leads to the international problem you are describing here.

If  what your say the truth then your country, is against freedom of the people, no body should force marriage or people to stay together when they are not longer   happy in that marriage. no culture should encourage force marriage. rather people who are not longer okey with their marriage  should seek redress in court and follow legal and traditional means.

marriage was not originally meant to be problem, rather was designed to be a blessing to the society. but Western culture and access right has made it a problem. the wife and husband doesn't under their roles anymore. everyone wans to head the family. no respect for husband and no love for the wife. things are really changing.

Here in my country, divorce is hard to process and that's why everyone who's in a relationship should be sure whether to marry their partners or not. Living with a partner is common even without marriage and that's why, many of the people here do it. And one reason that can't be denied is that when they split, there's no string attached. It all depends on the cultural setup that a couple is living in, in most countries these are also a common problem and not just here.

  We should understand that it's not everyone that is ready to get married so we need to know that marriage is meant for people work choose it and work for it. It is not easy for two people to come and marry themselves without being ready to take shits. There are lots of shits in marriage so those who choose it need to be e ready to battle it and the differences. There are some marriage that the couples are just chikdren and they still not ready to accept shits and differences from each other because there is no understand to allow different altitude to come in.

Marriage I would say is everyone's problem because to save a society we must first of all save family which is the first society.

Couples and those who ought to play a role in putting a family together as one are not interested because they have not seen the impending danger coming their way, yes marriage is a personal  and a private thing between two adults but as a relative if need be that your intervention is needed to fix a home please do because a bad marriage will produce bad children who will eventually turn into community / societal nuisance some day in which we all will be affected direct or indirect.

 I found it almost difficult understanding the OP's statement, cause I couldn't tell whether he's referring to the roles couples should play in marriage then relating it with business made it a tough nut to crack.
 Well, there's a saying that every problem has a solution and the obstacles couples face in marriage is not exempted as well, a marriage is said to be failed when the couples are not having a peaceful coexistence between themselves and demand separation, therefore to avoid such both parties have a good role to play and their are many factors to consider such as
Love
Commitment
Generousity
Support
And most importantly loyalty.
 As a man and head of the family you ought to posses such qualities if not you don't expect to gain support and submission from your spouse, it's just like a business man not being good and kind to his employees and expecting their loyalty in return. Every man should try as much as possible to build a successful marriage because just like the OP said marriage is everyone's problem.

Well! I can tell that marriage is not a game and you really need to be a real man whenever you think you are ready to raise a family you can't be out there just looking for a random woman thinking that it could be the best time to get married and later on you were just joking because it turns out for you that life of a married man is serious and you wanted to quit. Before you ask her hand for marriage you need to consider every scenario when raising children and protecting your family, especially loving your wife more than any other random woman you meet. In that way, whenever life gets tough, you already have a way to ease the pain and you will grow until you are getting used to it. learning in the process with proper knowledge can also be helpful though.

Did you even read what I said completely. Did you? Because if you did you would have known that what you repeated was the exact thing I said in my comment. Go and read it again.

marriage is everybody problems!


Marriage is a problem because people are getting divorced. "Marriage" means such a joining between people that they STAY married, forever, if they live that long. Divorce is a problem for the unmarried and for those who remain married, because it messes society up.

Marriage is a blessing not a problem, except you get married to a troublesome wife or husband.
This is why we should be  becareful  to whom we marry to avoid more problems,  inspite of the fact that no perfect marriage anywhere in the world we more learn how to live in harmony with our spouse.

If you feels, marriage is full of problems, you will not marry, just accept the fact And pray to God to give you your heart desire.

Let me guess, you wanna talk about mgtow, btw not many guy could be self suffice. Many old guy want to have a maid to take care of them. That include a priest too.

omg how i hope school begin to teach about woman logic, it would give us more bargaining power when it come to such indoctrination. btw school would not stop nurturing more and more wage slave, of course to serve the mega rich once they have finish the school with flying color, the top school leaver work very hard for the rich to make the rich get even richer.

this is the true happy ending!

Come to realise that every person have its own problem but marital life or marriage life is not a problem of a man or a problem of woman it depends the kind of religion that you believe on it is when you will say that marriage is a problem manager never be a problem depend your own way of understanding the concept of marriage so from my opinion it is basically an agreement and the maturity

Since ops already stated that marriage and business have no similarity I wonder why he still overly mentioned both words as against each other, off cause there is no similarities between saving a collapsing marriage vs collapsing business and just as the first comment suggested, ops should try to put his thoughts together in a more understandable way or languages.

If I may get anything out and draft a contribution,  then I will mention the status of a multi-billion business that bankruptcy will become a global problem should be a business that has global economic interest such as the International Monetary Bank (IMB) or the world bank, this are the few institutions that can have such impact as ascertain by the ops, so that lead us to the next question which is how connected is this institution with marriage which is a micro institution between two people?

This depends on you how you take Marriage for some people marriage is comfort and betterment,  for some its different and difficult . You cannot put your failures on marriage,  you should be responsible for your actions don't throw your baggage on anyone .

May be op has forgotten that not everybody that will get married so this question is for people that want woman to bear children for them. There are many men that are not interested in marrying a woman, rather they will ask them to be there sex partner and have things together but will never get married.

How is it everybody's problem to bail out a failed business when it is a private enterprise. This is not true unless it is a business that is owned by government. Few times we see government offering bailout to private business as palliatives during hard times like what happened in my country during coronavirus in 2020. In marriage, it is more complicated than business. There are alot of married couples who can not fix their problems by themselves and they seek outside intervention. There is nothing bad in this. But they should meet marriage counsellors for help, not just any person on the streets.

I've got a friend who's dealing with a difficult woman, well, he has married the woman and she's too manipulative but he said that he has chosen her so he has to deal her. While it's true that we find a woman based on how we think of them and looking if things will click through mutual understanding.

I even told him to prepare for the worst to come but good thing that this friend of mine was truly an example of what a man is and he's like the most patient guy. Yes, based on what you've said, we are different in tackling things in marriage and relationships and I saw the example on this friend of mine and I think that I can't be like that and I'll deal it differently if it's me.

Marriage is where a husband and wife are responsible for each other and accept each other's weaknesses and strengths. There are always problems in marriage. But that doesn't mean the problem is part of someone else's problem.

Marriage definitely has challenges that must be faced by husband and wife, who should strengthen each other and fight together. Instead of blaming each other. Husband and wife must be honest with each other. That way everything will be peaceful.