Topic: Must we call it a mistake? - page 2. (Read 318 times)

Waiting till you get married is very difficult and the guy will use it against the girl that she doesn't love him if not she would have let him get inside of her and it also make the guy cheat just to rub it on her face, same goes to the girl too. Is very hard to see someone who will be on the same page with you when it comes to relationship and no sex.
Safe sex isn't as safe as we think, with time either the girl or the boy might want it raw, like things get in the heads of we humans that we choose to do things that we regret later. If you think of taking pills to prevent pregnancy better know that you can't be too certain that you'll always remember.

A man and a woman can have consensual sex for fun without the intention of having a child and when it happens they blame it on mistake. It's not an acceptable mistake because they must've known the implications and a probable outcome of their act, they're two irresponsible people who should know that in this age there are contraceptives to avoid pregnancies. Ignorance is not an excuse to escape the reality of their action so they need to accept the result rather than blaming it on mistakes.

I think that women are more affected in an unwanted pregnancy because they're the ones that carries it and after giving birth they're the ones that will nurse their babies, keeping their education or careers on hold. Even when they decide to go for an abortion, it's the woman that risks her life, so women should be more resistant when it comes to having unprotected sex if they're not ready for pregnancy.

Many people put sex first when starting a relationship and I say to those set of people that they use their di*k to think and they know is a 50/50 thing to either get pregnant or not. Things are not as easy as we see it so being mindful of how we make decisions is important. The girls on the other hand are the ones who carries everything and they're the ones who chooses to keep or remove the pregnancy in some cases, sometimes the guys are the ones who call the shots.
Using love as an excuse to get a girl to open her legs is wrong, I'd say if as a guy you want to get into a relationship you first of all have it in mind that if it happens that she gets pregnant you have a role to play and I don't advise any to go for abortion. Sometimes student are the ones that always say getting pregnant was a mistake and some after keeping the pregnancy and the child grow old you see the girls (some) hating the innocent child like is their fault, for you to start something that you're not ready makes you say things you're not suppose to, is best to not start it at all other than saying the pregnancy, the unborn child is a mistake.

First of all the word “must” is wrong. Yes you can be in love with someone but you don’t have to do anything with them just to express your love. Some people wait until marriage and it’s totally possible.

Second, if you don’t want to wait you can just practice safe sex. A relationship does not always have to result in pregnancy.
I don’t understand. It really is a mistake because they shouldn’t have done it in the first place fully knowing they weren’t yet ready for the responsibility they will bear.
I don’t think you should take it personally if someone were to call their pregnancy a mistake. Pregnancy will not be the same as when you give birth. Of course when you already have the child, you should do your best to make them feel loved no matter how big of a mistake it was. Own up to your mistake and give your child a nice life.

Do not try to romanticize teenage pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy. Both the mother and the child suffer during a pregnancy that was not planned.

I believe those cases of pregnancy are very situational and very depending on the personal situation of both parents, to be honest. It is not a general issue but rather a collection of situations. For example, there are young people who are very irresponsible and have unprotected sexual intercourse and yet, then they end up with pregnancy, they accept their child not as a mistake of their recklessness but rather as a blessing, they end up getting married and they have a stable household.
Though, in the honor of the truth, it is more likely those pregnancies are not accepted as blessings, but as something completely unexpected and undesirable at first.

Exactly. When I met my wife for the first time and we started dating, it would take us a while before we decided to have sex and it was always with mutual agreement that we don't want kids yet and it worked completely fine for us. I say the way it is: if you're not careless, you won't have kids. Contraception is almost perfect nowadays, you just have to use it and know how to use it well. For instance, girls think that if they skip a pill they can take two in its place, or that it will start working from the first day they start taking it, and so on.

Education is the key. Many people have unwanted children because they're simply uneducated and they don't think, just do. It's the same situation we have with drunk drivers. It's so easy not to drive drunk, but you have to think. Turn off your brain and you'll make stupid mistakes because that's what it is. Kids shouldn't be having kids. I know your body is well prepared to bear children at the age of 15 or 16, but that doesn't mean you should.

When a boy and a girl have relationship, having sex is a choice and not mandatory for them to have it. It is a choice and no one can make it obligatory on you unless you guys come to a conclusion. Even the pregnancy can be avoided if you both don’t want to have it. It is carelessness in relationship that causes it and not a mistake. No one is born a mistake even if they’re not ready to have it.


Nothing should be called a mistake and anyone that is found guilty of those should take the full responsibility of it. For a boy and a girl to be in that level in which they can impregnate each other, it has become a responsibility of them to take whatever the outcome of such carelessness will be. They know fully well the repercussions, why then engaging in such acts without thinking about it.

The society is messed up in this area. Humans are fighting with nature since:
- It's way easier to get pregnant when we are young and it's harder when we are in the modern marital age
- Our sex activity is also higher when we are young and it's lower when we are in the modern marital age
- The baby is more likely to be healthy/normal when we are young and the chance decreases when we are in the modern marital age
- And then based on my anecdotal evidence, from people around me, there's still a chance (and it's not that low) of getting pregnant even if you use a condom or whatever.

So it's not a mistake, but pretty much biology at work. Basically, he's lucky if he can get away with sex without making her pregnant. It's not a mistake but pretty much a stroke of slightly bad luck depending on where you stand.

And here's the important thing: nowadays, especially in developed countries, the birth rate is declining because people are afraid of having a child while they are young, and they want it when they are in their 30s or 40s, which is substantially difficult, hence fertility problems and expensive IVF. So if people think they want a stable career, house, etc. before starting to have a family. It will all be futile after they get all those fertility problems. And don't forget about the increase of genetic diseases as well.

Therefore to those who get pregnant but are not yet married, it's a gift really. You save at least $10,000 in the future, and many people spend way more than that for getting pregnant, and many fail.

In our society today we the young ones love to explore, do things that sometimes we regret and beat ourselves about it but yet the actions we make can't be reversed. We the youth always get ourselves in situations that we can't handle and never ready for, we know right from when we choose to do it, although is few who are ready to take responsibility for their actions.
In the case where a boy and a girl are in love, start up a relationship there must be sex and having sex in a relationship it comes with a price, PREGNANCY. When it happens that the girl is pregnant they always use "it was a Mistake, I made a mistake" as an excuse to judge their actions, why must we the youth call the result of having sex when we're not prepared for a Mistake? Can we also say the pregnancy is a mistake when the child has grown (that's for those who kept it) to become somebody special in the society? Can we also say it to our child's face that we ones called them a mistake?
Let's have your feel about this because to me I don't think is right or proper to use the term "we made a mistake or this pregnancy is a mistake" What's your take on this?