Well, the blockchain got as far as February 2017 while reindexing, a little over a month to go. Then, apparently, there was an unexpected termination last night. I've restarted, again, reindexing the blockchain from 4+ years. Second or third time this year.
I suspect one not only needs a fully dedicated system but also have that fully dedicated system on an uninterruptible power supply. If it wasn't a hickup in power then somebody got in a did me dirty interrupting the process without proper shutdown. I had carefully shut down the process earlier in the week for a Windows update and changed the reboot for updates to no.
I bet this kind of malfunction causes quite a few early users, like those who earned bitcoins with USB single ASCI devices and put them in Bitcoin-QT wallets, then lost their blockchains but figured they could just rebuild at some later date, to later get frustrated and abandon them.
I haven't experienced the difficulties you describe, even with unexpected and uncontrolled shutdowns. Perhaps you should consider shutting down and creating a backup of the blockchain regularly. That way if you have a crash again you can restore and not have to start from the beginning again.
Who benefits from lost bitcoins?
Everyone that doesn't lose their bitcoins. The exchange rate between bitcoins and anything you may want to exchange them for depends on the supply of those bitcoins and the demand for them. If bitcoins are permanently lost, then the supply shrinks. This drives the exchange rate up at any given demand to maintain balance.
and the block they had been trying to solve is aborted. How many blocks are aborted in the average day compared with the number of orphaned blocks?
More likely than not, the block they were working on was unsolvable. Most blocks that most miners are working on are.
Another way to look at it is that EVERY hash is effectively a brand new block. Therefore there are 0 blocks ever "aborted" (aside from computer crashes that prevent the completion of computing a single hash).
I understand pruning is now possible. Is it possible to prune before the entire blockchain is downloaded?
Yes.
I'm surprised some developers of this pos haven't been taken behind the stores and stomped.
It's open source. There's nothing preventing you (or anyone you hire) from doing a better job if you don't like the job the current participants are doing. The software is free. You've gotten more than you paid for. If you've chosen to exchange cash for bitcoins, then can I suggest caveat emptor.
No, not as far as I know (which isn't too far! LOL)
You must download the entire blockchain before you are able to prune it.
This is not true. Pruning occurs as the blockchain downloads.