Topic: No man is an island (Read 342 times)

One thing we ought to realise is that, this is a global forum and have got individuals from different sociocultural background, religion and definition to different aspects of life. Science would tell you, diversity is the beauty of life and that's one of the most interesting aspect of the diversity that exists in this forum. Users feels an energy towards whatever is presented and they give it out as they feel it. Now, your response or the way you choose to react with what is given off is entirely up to you. I wouldn't like a forum without some drama!

What would be the narrative if everyone is smiling at you, chanting your praises and hides there true feelings. It surely gets boring when what you expect is what you always get. You need that bit of discomfort at times, it would push you to think and better organise yourself in the future. Best advice; Don't be in expectancy of anything so you don't get disappointed when you don't get it. Feel the forum and be a part of it.

Really everybody in this community especially the one you made mentioned of high rank onces, including the upcoming ones always make impact of encouraging the new developers to start cogent thing by learning from our senior colleagues and also using our own initiatives, the only way to keep the protocols of the community is to be sincere and also been observant for the community, don't stain your hand rather follow the procedures.

You cannot please everybody in this forum even if you have a good-looking post. Expect criticisms here. We're trained to handle them very well in a friendly and professional way and don't take them personally.

If you can't handle criticisms here, then this forum is not for you.

If you are expecting more merits, you're not fit to be here in this forum for long.

We all have different views about criticisms. If you are turning that criticism into something positive and can make you grow more as an individual, you'll become a better person one day and be respected by others.

Going through the thread I perceived some form of Frustration-aggression from the OP and then tried to fit myself in the OP shoes just to comprehend his plight.

But one thing I observed about the OP is the he/she fails to understand that a content that looks good for X may not seem good for Y. I'll advise you stop attaching expectations to your threads for only out of much expectations do men feel disappointed.

Don't be surprised, some day you can get unbelievably rewards and encouragements from even the least thread you yourself looked down upon and reluctantly made. Only because there were words that someone out there needed to read.

I have read through your post, and to me it is just like you are trying to blackmail users here emotionally into pitying you and not stating things the way they feel. Do not feel targeted and that this topic will make other forum users speak more softly with you, on your part you have to understand and accept that nobody is here to meet your expectations, this understanding will save you from being discouraged by people's comments.

This is a forum with anonymous users, individuals with different personality types from different cultures having varying characteristics. I'm sorry you feel the way you do but I'll tell you that almost every newbie has felt this way. What helped me at the beginning was that I reminded daily myself to develop a thick skin. I didn't take the comments too personal. I sifted through the useful comments and discarded the ones that felt weren't not needed.

Criticism is health. Don't take everything to heart.
but yes - learn from the mistake and move on. I follow my leader, who makes a mistake and then comes back even stronger. So time and tide don't wait for anyone. Give you best, every day in everyway~

I had my days of critics too it only made me marry my research tools and also contributed to what i know about crypto as it relates to the world at large. I don't think this critics are there to discourage but rather it is a means of pushing every one to discover more. personally i had those times when i almost felt i didn't belong here but for the sake of knowledge and to broaden my horizon i had to push on. Every good work deserve encouragement and in due time it will definitely flow.

Criticism is part of your journey in learning many new things about crypto. You shouldn't let yourself affected by such criticism and feel down. I was once like that where I got angry when someone criticize me for my mistakes and also the grammar but luckily I was given an advice that I shouldn't let myself fall for that. When someone do that then that means you can recheck if you have made some mistakes or not.

OP your text are too long to read for me must better if you will create next-time not just very long speech. But all I can say at you is DO NOT GIVE UP easily there's no problem in here all you need is to keep improving yourself and contribute to the forum and your dreams here in our community well be reach soon as possible. If you can't here, to learn more then I'll tell you that you are in the right place. Good luck to your journey OP.

This is an online forum you don't expect everyone to act nicely to your opinion if it is not right,  expect different kind of respond because we are all different kind of person. What I will advice you is that if people criticise you don't allow it to disturb you, see it as part of life, you need to be  criticise to be perfect and to grow. Instead learn from the good part from your criticism , the reason you are here is to learn, have that in mind. If you let criticism to be your problem you won't be able to learn anything.

It happens quite a lot; a sort of rehashing of posted content in the hopes of getting merits. We see it with introductory posts being made wey often especially when one seems to be working (by working I mean getting merits). This makes is extremely difficult to decide which member is being genuine with their posts or inquiries.

What I usually do, if I find myself in such a dilemma is to go through the user's post and find out if the user has other useful content on their history and merit those. It might not seem as much, but avoiding meriting a spammer who needs that to rank up and join bounties feels good.

I was about to say that this is kind of a wholesome thread until I saw what you just mentioned. Oh well, I was about to drop a merit and good thing I read your reply in here. Oh boy...

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I also noticed from his/her post history that s/he never even bothered replying to anyone inside his thread adding up to the point that s/he just posted the thread for merits and not for general discussion or whatever.

Well said, but unfortunately, this forum is not a place for slender or thin skinned people to be in, and this is because, the forum is very brutal, you won't survive here if you don't grow a thick skin as quickly as possible, and for those who come here with already thick skin.. Congratulations.

Truth is, if you are here looking out for respect from other members, you will be highly disappointed and discouraged, if you are hoping for members to reply nicely to your posts even when they disagree with your point of view, then you are on a long thing.
It will do you alot of good if you learn to man up and don't let anything on this forum get under your skin, and even when you make a nice post and no body appreciates it, learn to look the other way and move on to the next, this is how to survive here.

Op, everyone is in this forum for different purposes. You said givers never lack, some people are not here for giving purpose, infact it is a rule that there is no kind of begging here, including vegging for merits.
It is not also compulsory for people to comment on posts, agree or disagree. No one is under compulsion to do anything in this forum.
Further more, people did not come to this forum to learn characters, while some will be kind and polite, others might not. Afterall they don't care how you threat them. I believe we are all here to learn about bitcoin, so in as much as you are seeing here as a family where you advice of morality, others are seeing here as just a bitcoin discussion forum.
We do not need to have saints here, all we need to have are helpers in things concerning bitcoin.

It's the typical create-as-much-advice-threads-as-you-possibly-can strategy in the hopes of someone giving you merits. Being unnecessarily rude is definitely not the way to go, but a lot of times it's pretty difficult not to be.

Next topic title: "Reach for the moon. If you miss, at least you'll be among the stars."

Yes, yes. He started an interesting topic. But you see, he is not sincere now.

Let's look at all the threads the OP created.

Gathering and forum should be an opportunity for all to grow
Getting up and having positive hope
Correcting newbie's can be done in a nicer way using a polite approach

These are motivational topics about politeness and willpower.

However, read all of his texts carefully. Especially today. He literally asks for merit.


Why do these threads from the OP come up so regularly? Because of such topics, he raises his rank.



But OP, I'll say it again. You literally wrote the same thing on your other topic 5 days ago. Just read the name of the forum, or should the forum be renamed to "rules of conduct"?

I'm just disappointed.

Criticism is almost inevitable in whatever you do, inside and outside Bitcointalk. If you're going to give up just because you're being criticized(regardless if you deserve it or not), then you ain't getting anywhere. If you're going to surround yourself solely with people that are just going to agree with you or what you're doing, you're going to fail catastrophically.

Israelgogo, you have started a very interesting topic.
Of course, by definition, an online forum should be a place where people can freely express their opinions and participate in various discussions.
Unfortunately, people have different opinions about many things, and we are also all different characters and we express our views and opinions in different ways.
This forum is specific because there are many ways to earn money on the forum, so many members write for this reason, which older members do not like to see, writing just to meet the quota for a signature campaign.
Don't be too sensitive, stay positive and give your personal contribution to the forum and most members will be grateful 

Encouragement is there but a negatibe criticism will be therr alongside but it does not mean they are really harsh people. Sometime this way could be more effective to motivate others. Its not just about merits, some users are posting nonsense that need to be address by noticing it in a hard way. Of course consideration is being there, especially if we youll review the account posting. But for trolls, there are special trolls here to fight them back.

Respect is always there. I can feel what youre saying cause Ive been also undegone some negative criticism but thats fine. Cause if you arent then your proving them right. Accept if the tutn out of discussion or arguement loses on your side, thats totally fine. Its just mean that they are right and you are wrong which nothing to be ashamed of.

Just accept it. Sometime the outside looks of their response is just a sarcasm to mask the hurt words you shouldnt be reading. Anyway, just my 2 cents dont harder yourself and make it looks like your in it.

While I'm always in favor of being kind and courteous and considerate, I am also not in favor of making sure that every action pleases everybody or that it doesn't hurt any feeling. You cannot make life in general or this forum or even your family itself disappointment-free.

Especially in a place of objective discussions, disappointments and criticisms are always expected. Honesty causes disappointments. Somebody here will always tell you that you are wrong. Somebody here would always criticize your views and opinions. However, insults and name-calling are never appreciated. 

oh poor you....

The world is made of different individuals, each with their own character and culture. You have to accept that and live with it. Otherwise, social networks, forums, and other message boards are not for you. If I want to tell you "fuck you" I say it, I do not really care if someone is hurt

"if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen" (said, President Harry S. Truman)

We are not going to congratulate people on each comment, it is not the kindergarten either. There are many members here that only live for merits. Fuck that! We're on a forum to talk with people, not building a curriculum vitae

Politeness, respect plus knowledge will give you a reward if you have this manner while you're here in the forum.
I saw your post history more on politics and on this board (I'm glad, not more on bounty participation), would you sometimes explore on the technical discussion board or Bitcoin discussion board, we've many discussions to be explored.  Never mind first the merit, it will come without knowing you if you have a good post, just continue to contribute and keep yourself encouraging and interact with those topics that you have the knowledge to share.

Maybe be a part of those thick-skinned gang members, here in the forum they have gangs that you can idolize.  Just stay with what you are and maybe the encouragement that you have will give you a reward soon and be a high rank or an established member.  See you around!

We all need each other to grow ,we all need each to attain greater height ,from newbies to the top stage rank ,Encourage each other,nobody prays to remain stagnant even to top rank,we one way or the other needed opportunities to become whatever stage we have attained,we wouldn't have been happy if we contribute alot and yet it seems invain after putting much effort towards it.
When posting i expect encouragement and objection not discouragement.

Givers never lack when we feel the need to encourage , share merits if you see reasons too, comment, object and disagree with a post or statement, we should feel free but doing it in an appropriate way,not using words like fuck ,shit ,bitch,nonsense post or passing all forms of insults to one another, do not discourage others for intending to be kind for what does not please you might pleases others .

i come across this kind of comment in this forum ,it a forum for discussion not an avenue for us to show our non challant attitude ,if everyone decide to behave in such manner, it wont be nice the aims of the forum will not be acheived ,learn not to hurt others feeling, we have different up bringings .We have different understanding and read meaning to words differently ,dealing with each other should be done with ultmost respect. If you are in an office settings, you will learn how to caution yourself .why not practice and instill it .
commment ,objecting is allowed but shouldnt warrant any form of insult, i try to disagree with conversations in a good manner and make the person see reasons why by pointing out the reasons and form of correction .

I almost felt like giving up here at the start due to criticism, i was able to overlook and see the positive side and kind hearted people in here with their beautiful contents creation and i believe i have alot to learn here. Let love lead ,some of you are mentors to people here , one way or the other but you might not know ,do not make them feel disappointed.
I know i will soon be criticised for this post ,kindly feel free comment and object.
Thanks with love from here