QUESTIO:How to help a friend stop gambling addiction before he gets in too deep? - page 2.

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Quote from: Similificator on September 01, 2017, 10:53:35 AM

So you see, i have a very close friend(also a neighbor) and he is obviously getting addicted into gambling online and is losing a lot of money in the process, i have posted already about what drives a gambler to still gamble even when they lost a lot already and i had a lot of great answers which led me to a conclusion that the things that drive a gambler to do such things is the thrill that the uncertainty of an outcome of a gamble can give and greed.
Now what i wanna know next is how can i stop someone getting more and more addicted to gambling? I wanna help my friend because we have been through a lot together and I don't want to just sit back and watch him ruin his life like those other people i know.

Please share your thoughts.
thanks.

You're seriously a very nice gambler, and I understand from your query that's he's getting way to deep, well you need to first sit with him and speak with him, try and see what's making him gamble, it could be a pure passion, heartbreak, something that's happened. Try and explain him the consequences if he goes to deep, show him stories of past gambler's, try and speak with him to lock his funds with a trusted person and undertake counselling if needed.

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Quote from: michkima on November 10, 2017, 01:05:15 AM

This is a nice topic, I think the best way to help him stop before he gets in too deep is to show him the realities of gambling. Tell him and convince him that indeed you can profit from gambling but at what cost? The profits will never out weigh the losses that you will incur by gambling and trying to profit. Losses should just remain losses, and chasing them will always be a bad idea.

I have really been here and it is not that easy as most people see it. It was very hard helping a friend of mine to really face that reality and until he was ready to face it himself before I could be of much help. One thing is for them to accept first that they need help and the only way I was able to do that after this, is by first letting him understand how much he could have saved if he did not get too addicted in the first place and how he just have to forget the past, forget about luck or trying to recover what is lost and then starting afresh.

With that, I made sure he gets so occupied by finding him a new hobby (that is very important) and rather than gambling, I had to look for other interesting things for us to do as fun in our spare time together so as to gradually fade off those impulse. This took about 8 months and really, that was when I realized that addiction is a very bad thing. Now, he is doing well and now sees gambling as a plague in his life.

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Let him to see someone who lost everything by gambling, who lost his home and his friends, his family and his ability to survive. Then propose him to change his addiction to other one which does not lead to such horrible results. A lot of people are addicted to something but many of them are doing fine with it. Some people addicted to sex, to travels, to marijuana for example. Ken Kesey told he is smoking old man, and look at him, his life is great.
Even better for him to get some good hobbie, collect something, make bicycles etc. Open his eyes I mean, noone wants to die suffering at the edge of the road.
Or maybe his fate is to face poverty? Some people can not change themselves before it happens

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Quote from: Similificator on September 01, 2017, 10:53:35 AM

So you see, i have a very close friend(also a neighbor) and he is obviously getting addicted into gambling online and is losing a lot of money in the process, i have posted already about what drives a gambler to still gamble even when they lost a lot already and i had a lot of great answers which led me to a conclusion that the things that drive a gambler to do such things is the thrill that the uncertainty of an outcome of a gamble can give and greed.
Now what i wanna know next is how can i stop someone getting more and more addicted to gambling? I wanna help my friend because we have been through a lot together and I don't want to just sit back and watch him ruin his life like those other people i know.

Please share your thoughts.
thanks.

I think you do not have to bother yourself to be able to stop someone to gamble,
because basically if he is smart enough to pay attention to every gambling he is playing.
he will be a success in gambling, although at the beginning he lost a lot.
and if he is stupid he will stop gambling by himself.
and of course by leaving a lot of debt

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This is a nice topic, I think the best way to help him stop before he gets in too deep is to show him the realities of gambling. Tell him and convince him that indeed you can profit from gambling but at what cost? The profits will never out weigh the losses that you will incur by gambling and trying to profit. Losses should just remain losses, and chasing them will always be a bad idea.

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Well, this question is very interesting. I'm happy if I play gambling with my friends because it os one of taking out the stress and to relax. But much better to stop involving in gambling cause it's not profitable and not beneficial. To avoid become addicted in gambling, I choose to play some sports like basketball, chess, takraw and etc. with my friends. In this way we have alternative to gambling and it is exercise also,then if they want to play gambling I did not entertain them instead go in computer shop and play some games with my friends.

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To be honest it would be so hard to stop it. As you said he 's not yet in the peak of his addiction. If you have a lot courage even though he gets mad at you then enroll him in a rehabillitation center in which specializes in gambling addiction. Since he will not listen to whatever you will say about gambling, let the family speak to him. I think its much better if you let the family handle this. I know his your friend but this type of problem should be address by his family.

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Quote from: Similificator on September 01, 2017, 10:53:35 AM

So you see, i have a very close friend(also a neighbor) and he is obviously getting addicted into gambling online and is losing a lot of money in the process, i have posted already about what drives a gambler to still gamble even when they lost a lot already and i had a lot of great answers which led me to a conclusion that the things that drive a gambler to do such things is the thrill that the uncertainty of an outcome of a gamble can give and greed.
Now what i wanna know next is how can i stop someone getting more and more addicted to gambling? I wanna help my friend because we have been through a lot together and I don't want to just sit back and watch him ruin his life like those other people i know.

Please share your thoughts.
thanks.

If he do listen to you when you are talking to him and do some actions then it would really be worth to help him but if you do see that he just neglect or reject your advices then better to stop that because you are really just wasting your saliva and stressing you out for sure. People would stop completely if they do really to do so.Its not simple as it sounds but if a particular person is serious on quitting then i would say it wont really be a problem.

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Wow, I really have learned a lot from all the suggestions you guys shared. I now have thing in mind to help him stop his gambling addiction; one is to try and get some professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist for whatever it is that might work well, another is to try and get some help from people who are closer to him and can be with him a most of the time everyday like his gf, mom, bro, sis, or anyone in his family.
Thanks for the thoughts guys. Really appreciate it. Will still be watching this thread just incase another brilliant thought is posted.

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Your friend is to lucky to have a friend like you. I think you can do bring him in the places or activity that will let his mind leave the gambling games. If it works much better but if he insist to go with you maybe you can try to play with him and told him to lessen it. Explain him the possibilities and he will listen to you because your friends.

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Quote from: JL421 on September 01, 2017, 06:54:37 PM

Just show him other gamblers stats who have lost in past tell him the effects if he doesn't stop how hard it is going to hit him financially and how hard it is to recover your losses when it becomes too high because of his addiction. Just be with him always and enter his into his privacy to check he isn't gambling time to time

Being a friend can't stay with him always. But you can just give him an advice not go gamble and its effect on people. You better involve his family members help to solve this issue because they can monitor him closely and more time than you. Ask him to involve in outdoor games to spend his free time and ask his family members always stay with him to get him involved in some activities until he forgets about gambling.

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Just show him other gamblers stats who have lost in past tell him the effects if he doesn't stop how hard it is going to hit him financially and how hard it is to recover your losses when it becomes too high because of his addiction. Just be with him always and enter his into his privacy to check he isn't gambling time to time

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Quote from: Similificator on September 01, 2017, 10:53:35 AM

So you see, i have a very close friend(also a neighbor) and he is obviously getting addicted into gambling online and is losing a lot of money in the process, i have posted already about what drives a gambler to still gamble even when they lost a lot already and i had a lot of great answers which led me to a conclusion that the things that drive a gambler to do such things is the thrill that the uncertainty of an outcome of a gamble can give and greed.
Now what i wanna know next is how can i stop someone getting more and more addicted to gambling? I wanna help my friend because we have been through a lot together and I don't want to just sit back and watch him ruin his life like those other people i know.

Please share your thoughts.
thanks.

Just sit down and talk to your friends. And explain all the negative things that gambling can bring to his life. Obviously, you can't be there in his side 24/7, but you can try to contact him if you fell he is going to gamble and try to persuade him not to. The only problem I'm seeing is that if your friend doesn't listen because he is already addicted and very deep in gambling. A counselor could also help like a intervention or something.

We have been in this kind of situation better, personally I reach out when I can't take my addiction anymore. I talk to my families and they are supportive on me that's why I was able to quit long time ago and just gamble for fun. Talk to his family as well maybe they can really persuade your friend to stop gambling or at least minimized it.

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Quote from: Similificator on September 01, 2017, 10:53:35 AM

So you see, i have a very close friend(also a neighbor) and he is obviously getting addicted into gambling online and is losing a lot of money in the process, i have posted already about what drives a gambler to still gamble even when they lost a lot already and i had a lot of great answers which led me to a conclusion that the things that drive a gambler to do such things is the thrill that the uncertainty of an outcome of a gamble can give and greed.
Now what i wanna know next is how can i stop someone getting more and more addicted to gambling? I wanna help my friend because we have been through a lot together and I don't want to just sit back and watch him ruin his life like those other people i know.

Please share your thoughts.
thanks.

You can persuade him to be active on other activities he likes. Help him until he can forget gambling and busy at his new activity. Make him feel comfortable with his new activity. It needs time and efforts!

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Quote from: BitcoinSupremo on September 01, 2017, 12:33:28 PM

The best help is to convince him to get help from professionals , like gamblinganonymous which helps addicted gamblers get better and totally forget about gambling. If there is no gamblinganonymous organization in your country, surely search for gambling help and it will list your options in your country from where to get help. Talking to him to quit gambling will simply not work. He needs to get special qualified help for such problem.

I do not know about gambling anonymous. Here in my country, we used psychological professionals and therapists as an outside person whom we can go to if gambling addiction can not be treated at home. For me, besides from helping a friend to get rid of addiction it is also very helpful if we are not going to judge him. People's judgement whom we are very close to often have a bigger and deeper affect when it come to our personal character. Moral support as well as not leaving a friend at time like this is also very helpful.

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Well, in my opinion you can not do it alone. You have to gather all the family members, including parents, sisters, brothers, wife, husband etc, to convince him about how dangerous gambling could be for him. You will very likely fail if you are going to convince him by your own. I do not know how deep your friendship is but usually it is not deep enought to beat the addiction. If nothing helps I would try to force him to look for professional help.

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The best help is to convince him to get help from professionals , like gamblinganonymous which helps addicted gamblers get better and totally forget about gambling. If there is no gamblinganonymous organization in your country, surely search for gambling help and it will list your options in your country from where to get help. Talking to him to quit gambling will simply not work. He needs to get special qualified help for such problem.

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It's depend on family support or religion to prevent things getting worse since I've my uncle who succedd run from gambling debt because he stopped gambling at all

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People can only be helped if they want to be helped... It's your friend choice if he wants to continue gambling wasting time and money or if he wants to stop gambling to do something really useful in his life. What you can do is to advice, talk to him, but the final decision will still be his.

Don't torture yourself for third's choices.

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See as a friend you can't really hit his psychological level. You need to trigger his thought process which wouldn't be an easy task for you as your friend is addicted to gambling and is still playing after having a huge loss. Also, people tend to ignore or pay less attention to the advise when it comes from someone of equal age. You better consult a psychologist if situation is grave or if you are really concerned. People are doubtful of consulting a psychologist, but believe me this is the best possible step right now. If you can't meet one, then try some helpline numbers.

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