When it comes to family or relative i do always lend money to them even sometimes they dont pay because mostly in my mind i needed their help in the future so if that time comes they will not decline me as I've help them before , but with regards to friends i do always careful on this to whom who i will trust because sometimes trust can kill you which you should be careful , as long as your friend is able to pay it back then it is good but this depends on situation as there are like friends that who lost their job then that is really the best time to gave them money
But sometimes even the people you help don't respect you and they even leave you - I've been in that position and it's pretty sad. Because of that experience, I am now picky about who I will lend my money to, even those closest to me. Sometimes I even lie by saying I don't have money to be able to avoid dealing with debts with other people because it's a little annoying. And now I already have my own perception that you don't have to help everyone, sometimes you need to have the courage to avoid other people's problems.
besides that many people who borrow money do not have the awareness to return it before being billed,
stuff like that is really annoying and that's why it's important to start limiting when it comes to lending money.