I'll give you a very important piece of advice. See if you can take it to heart.
Life is hard.
There will be shit coming your way.
You are the only one that can decide how your life shall become.
Therefore, you need to get away from the sense of being a victim, and start getting in charge.
There will be setbacks and fuckups, which is all part of life.
But it is your choice whether you will cave in to the circumstances, or if you will work hard to create the life for yourself and your family that you deserve.
Nobody else can fix this, but yourself.
Merry Christmas.
good unadulterated advice... I've always been in charge and prepared, its in my character.
but i also like to bitch and complain