So he can see the balances and the transactions without decrypting it?
Correct just like you can right now. Start up your client. You can see your balances, addresses, and tx history. You only need to decrypt to send funds.
I thought I cannot just recreate my wallet with the seed with the standard client? So the seed plus the passcode allows it to be recreated is that it? With all the transactions and everything?
The QT client doesn't use a seed. All the keys are randomly created so your wallet is a bucket of keys. You need the wallet file plus passcode to recover funds. Deterministic wallets like armory use a seed and all keys are computed from the seed. With the seed you can recreate the whole wallet. Yes if you are wondering, the QT wallet likely should use deterministic seeds but it just hasn't been done.
Let's say I got armory and made a new wallet... then what?
You could transfer the balance from your current wallet to that wallet, make a then a backup of your wallet seed is all that is needed to reconstruct your wallet. You can even print this out and recreate the wallet without any wallet "file" by using the seed. If you wanted to you could encrypt the seed and give copies to a friend(s) the encrypted seed could simply be a piece of paper as there is no longer a need to backup the actual wallet file.
Hmmm... OK didn't know this. I am not worried about the FBI, lol. I am worried about my own dumbass losing my backups and/or my own PGP keys.
Then you should be fine. Against long passphrases (15+ charecters) the only real threat is a dictionary attack. If your passphrase is known (for example a common phrase from a book) then it may be weaker than you think. Otherwise long passphrases simply can't be brute forced. The QT wallet makes it harder for attackers in that the passphrase is hashed tens of thousands of times to produce the encryption key. This means the number of passphrases an attacker can try per second is significantly reduced. Simple version if your passphrase is long (15+ char) it is beyond pure brute force attacks so the largest risk factor is picking a weak passphrase (like a phrase from a movie, book, or song).
Another question here... once I've encrypted my wallet once - can I change the passphrase? if so what does that mean for the backup copies that had the old passphrase?
You can change the passphrase in the client.
The backups will still be encrypted with the old passphrase.
So new passphrase unlocks the updated wallet.dat
Old passphrase unlocks the backup wallet.dat.
You could give your friends new backups but you can never be sure they didn't make a secret copy. If you are really concerned you could make a brand new wallet, encrypt it with a new passphrase, send all your funds to that wallet, and give your friend(s) the new backup. The old backup no longer has any value.