I noticed this some weeks ago, OP, and started to accumulate ethereum since then.
I remember back in 2017 the BCH guys had made a meme about LN, where they said "come back in 18 months". So, much more than 18 months have passed, and LN is still not available to the public, being a geek thing. Not only that, you need to fund a channel to be able to use it, in the same way it happens with ripple, and you need to trust the other part which will link with your channel, thus undermining the trustless idea behind cryptocurrencies. If I have to pay to use it, and I have to trust it, so how is this different from any ordinary bank?
The complications to use it means it is not being used at all, only by the geeks and enthusiasts, who understand how the code work. Bitcoin network is very slow right now, with transactions taking up to three hours, even after paying the maximum fee. This week I had to use replace-by-fee three times, in a transaction which was already paying the maximum fee. It took more than two hours for the btc to arrive at the exchange. If LN was really being used, it would not be that slow.
This is your problem. I keep doing 1 sat/b transactions just fine. Why can't you just wait? You are doing things wrong if your transfers need to confirm within minutes, as opposed as hours or days.
Bitcoin doesn't really need LN, instant transactions are a minority use case. Most transactions can wait, but you simply are unable to figure it out. If you are a regular customer, why don't you talk to the manager and just keep a tab? Transfer in advance or later, the old fashioned way.
If you think those altcoins are so great, why are you not using them? Why don't you get into the altcoin area and preach the choir there?
The only change I'm waiting in Bitcoin, is when they let us use 0.1 sat/b transfer fees, because even 3¢ is too much and i'm not in a hurry
Bitcoin is still faster than wire transfers here, and that's all i need. My country is cashless due to having the worse inflation in the world and we adapt, to live without instant payments.