What I've come to believe in this life is that the wicked live longer than those who claim to be good, I agree with you to be seen as a wicked and stingy person or answer the name of a wicked person. Is good to give but some people take it for granted even when there's no need to ask they do ask. Normally people who are rich like to give I mean "some" but they turn to be wicked because no one knows what they passed through in life before making it to where they are now, have an uncle (lemme call him that) who has enough to give but even to his wife he act stingy, her people needs help but he prefer to give to a stranger than those ones from the wife's place and I understand him very well because he might have pass through hell before getting all he have so that alone would be difficult to get from him.
We don't know the hell that your uncle went through to survive, so we don't have right to judge him. The reason why good people don't live longer on this earth is that many people will take your kindness for granted, they will treat you badly, and will always want forgiveness. There are some of my friends that I can't give or borrow money again. They came to me about twice and borrowed money from me, but they refused to repay it, which I hate to ask since I believe they have blocked their way to receive another loan from me some days. I know that if I keep giving them, they will continue to take my
kindness for granted.
Honestly it is very hard to give when you're surrounded by people who look up to you for assistance especially when they're your blood, you can't say no to your siblings not while you're the elderly one. It will be a bigger problem if you don't have to give because it will look like you have failed as the breadwinner.
Of course, you can't turn down your family members, as the head of the house, you're meant to provide for them. But how can we always provide for nonrelatives who consistently look to you for help? These days, I don't know about you, but when someone sees that you have a little money to help you with personal issues, they will assume that you always have money in your bank account. They'll see you as a bad friend if you refuse to give them what they ask for. As the breadwinner, you have to endure all the stress because it is really difficult to say no to your blood.