Topic: The madness of gambling addicts. - page 35. (Read 15791 times)

Yep that type situations comes in a gambler life. I seen in my country some illiterate people are playing physical gambling they play poker. They just play to earn the don't give time family they don't thik about family they don't try to complete their family daily needs. When they faces losses they force their family for money. They rudely behave with family. At the end no one stay with them because of addiction for gambling money they do illigali work. At the end if the day they see they don't give anything to them.

You are right and I'm with you on this point that no one can predict the possible outcome of games in gambling,but one thing is sure,and that is the fact that some persons have bad luck,and their luck wouldn't allow them to be able to win games like the way some persons win games.While some persons  dont need to be good at prediction,their luck paves way for them,whatever they choose becomes what the results will be like. A lady close to my house doesn't watch football,she doesn't know anything about prediction,but she always chooses any team of her choice to win,and at the end of the game,the team she chose will always win,that is to say some persons have that luck,while some do not.

Some many people have earned a lot from gambling,they have built houses and made lots of achievement through gambling,and thats how they nurture so much love for it which leave on to the statement that they are now gambling addicts,and they can  go extra miles to do whatsoever to boost or continue their gambling.

It more or less like a drug addict,that can do whatever thing in order to get what he wants,so he don't mind,killing a being,stealing and all of that.
So gambling has really made lots of people loose a lot,including family Just to keep their gambling game alive.

Yes you are right that mate every now and then are not the same and like what you said if we loss yesterday then there's a chance that we will win today. But if we will loss  yesterday and today still that is not the same cause the value of our loss is not just the same maybe yesterday we loss a lot but today we loss less or else we will win a small amount of Money. In the world of gambling we can not say that we will always the winner. Cause we can not predict the outcome of our bet.

What happened today will not happen again on another day. And even if it happens, it won't be the same as today because time keeps turning. If we lose time with those close to us, we may feel that something is different or has changed with them, especially when we gamble more often and are not with them when they are together. There will be something lost between us, and they will feel it, too, so we cannot turn back time. But we can stay with them, especially when we can reduce our gambling activities so that we will spend more of our free time with them.

Of course, it will feel different if we are in a relationship with other people who are not the people who are usually close to us. They will also feel the same way because before we gamble more often, we already have a close relationship with them that cannot be replaced by anything. And that is why we have to balance everything well so that no disturbance occurs between us and those near us.

Not far to happened if you only care about gambling and no longer capable to provide the needs of your family, not only for financial but more on the presence of being a husband,  gambling addiction can create situation like this, where the wife will no longer accept after being there for his husband but nothing is changing,  if the person is already drunkly addicted his mindset is all for his gambling plans and nothing else.

Relationship or not, there should be a thick line here, I think it shouldn't mix with gambling. Not your friend, lover or family should be affected in any way simply because you gamble, gamblers should moderate things and not do anything excessively. For this to happen, the person must be a responsible gambler in all senses and I see no reason why gambling which is just a regular way of life to some people who don't abuse it will suddenly become a relationship destroyer. It must have been that the gambler is doing a lot wrongly which will backfire on their heads, and generally, it is irresponsible gambling that could only be responsible for that. This has to be changed before such can be curbed or guarded against from the beginning. This goes for the lucky and the unlucky ones, and once they moderate their gambling activities, the money and time spent doing it, there can't be excessiveness that could call for caution, including that of addiction.

Considering your comment, it fits with my view of gambling's complexity. Indeed, addiction consumes time, resources, and relationships. Decreased returns lead to deeper sadness in loss recovery. Your spiral representation is vibrant and moving.

However, I favor nuance. Gambling doesnt always mean bad. Responsible enjoyment coexists with addiction in this diversified setting. Think of a bunch of friends laughing over a card game, when companionship trumps money. Gambling may be social and pleasurable, adding to life rather than taking away from it.

Lets not blame all gambling for addiction. Acknowledging the problem and the prospect of a healthy gambling relationship are key. Awareness, education, and support are crucial. Creating an environment where fun and responsibility are intertwined in leisurely gambling is key.

As long as we don't have problems with gambling, then our family and people around us won't have problems either. Some end up losing the support of those closest to them when they have a gambling problem. that is why we have to be careful with the gambling we do. because the impact is not only for us, there are people around us who can get the impact too.

The addiction that takes up a lot of our time and money is not just gambling. even those who are addicted to online games can also lose the same.
I'm also a gambler, but I try not to cross the limits that I committed to from the start. I avoid losing support from people around me who know about my gambling activities. I know the consequences could be fatal, but hopefully, I can stay committed.

in the end addiction to gamble is possibly an infinite research for the flow state but in a destructive way
it depends on the games you play too
I think it could have to do with thinking you don't deserve your money, having too much disposable income and too little ideas, having no purpose or support network
many thoughts

what do you think?

Why not? As long as they are breathing, they can always make up to the time that they lost. They can skip gambling next time and spend those time instead to the people closest to them. If those people truly value us, they will always give us another chance.

But, if let say they don't want to, I think it is still possible to build a relationship again with other people. And maybe next time we should choose those people that has the same interest as us, so that they can understand us easily and we can also bond together at most times. Many of us gamblers are lucky that we still have a stable relationship to the people around us. We should learn from this topic and try to be more careful when gambling.

It's true, people who are very addicted to gambling even can forget about their homes. In my country there are no official offline casinos, there is only gambling done by people when they gather in one place or just gambling on cockfights. From this habit, they are even spend too long time outside with their gambling friends. No time for his family, let say from 7 - 4, they are working, when working day is over, they are just going to take a bath and back to their gambling friends. There was even one case where a husband and wife quarreled in front of my house, this happen after divorcing because his wife didn't want to accept him anymore. Hopefully all of us on this forum don't experience something similar. We should be able to learn to control ourselves even though we are addicted to gambling, but we still have to remember all our families.

Someone who is still a newbie will not get addicted to gambling quickly unless he returns to gambling without restrictions and every day, he only plays gambling. It will make him addicted to gambling without him realizing it so that when he sees what has happened to him, he will be surprised that he is already addicted to gambling. If the newbie experiences defeat, he will not think about ending his gambling game but will try to gamble again by depositing more money. This was because he felt it was a good day, which almost made him win big. And if he doesn't realize that it was a mistake to deposit more money to gamble, he will only increase the amount of his losses. He should be able to think about how to increase his amount of money without having to gamble. Yes, he can look for a job that can make money to earn money from other activities. And when we can make money from work, that is, we can really make money, we should immediately think about starting to reduce the gambling activities we do because we only lose money in gambling and not make money like we get from our jobs.

By making money from your work, you can buy diapers for your children, meet your daily needs, and save for your family's future, including your children. That will be more exciting than using the money to gamble in the hope that you can make money from gambling. Indeed, you can make money from gambling, but that doesn't guarantee you can make it every time you gamble. So it's time for those who are married to remember that meeting family needs is the most important thing in our gambling activities, whatever the reason, including trying to make money from gambling because we won't be able to get it easily. We can gamble but only to get pleasure, and after that, we have to quit gambling. And we can get that pleasure through our family, who always accompanies us.

Of course someone who is addicted definitely doesn't have time to have fun with other people or their family because they are already busy themselves with their gambling even though gambling only makes them more bankrupt, in contrast to people who can control themselves and can allocate their time and gambling. This can be called Responsible gamblers, especially if they already have a family, will of course have more time to work and for the family, gambling is only a small part of their free time.

Addicted people don't understand how to stop their addiction so if they experience more and more losses it will increase their pressure to continue gambling to chase their losses, so it's not surprising that some of their families hate the gambler's behavior, it's not surprising that their family abandons them because addiction itself is very annoying. Especially if they has no intention of stopping and has a temperamental nature that is certain of course his family will leave him alone.

It's actually terrible when things like this happen. I'll explain what I mean. That is, when a person ceases to control himself and loses control, it is terrible, because he ruins his life and exposes it to enormous risk. But a person has the right to do with his life what he sees fit within the framework of the law. But when a person, due to loss of control, destroys someone else’s life, then this is much worse, since his gaming addiction ruins the life not only of himself but also of those around him. I would advise such people to turn to God. I know examples when God gives them freedom and their lives change

Not only do we lose a lot of time with our family or loved ones, but we also have the opportunity to lose the money we have, and even if it gets serious, we can lose the things we have along with losing the people we love. They will not be able to see us as before, who really loved them, but they will see us as gamblers who are more concerned with gambling than them. If we don't realize it, we will really lose everything we have, and even though we can win, it will be meaningless if we lose everything we have, including the people we love. We won't be able to repair that relationship because everything has fallen apart because of what we did, which was our biggest mistake. When we are down and have lost everything, we can regret our actions, but it may be too late because they are long gone.

That's what we will experience if we play gambling for too long because we will be too busy to forget our relationships with people close to us and also not be able to see what has changed about ourselves. Playing gambling should be a fun activity and not cause problems, but because we use it too seriously and for too long, it makes us experience relationship problems with the people closest to us. This must end immediately because if not, we will really lose people close to us and the relationship will be damaged because we gamble too much.

Only by stopping gambling can we avoid thinking about gambling so that we can try to repair our disturbed relationships. Maybe it also takes time to repair the relationship but we have to try especially if we can show those close to us that we have really stopped gambling. They will believe it especially when they can see that we have really stopped gambling and there is the intention and desire to make that change.

Gambling can make us stressed because we will experience loss and perhaps even experience loss more often. But if we can avoid experiencing a lot of losses by implementing restrictions on our gambling, we can avoid that stress and can even enjoy gambling. Gamblers who behave badly don't know how to treat gambling because all they have in mind is how they can win from it. They are the ones who will experience serious problems in gambling, and they will have difficulty finding solutions because they have gone too far in gambling without being able to get out of gambling easily. But if they were able to treat gambling well from the start by not using a lot of money and also being able to control themselves and set limits and follow them, they would not have difficulty using gambling to get pleasure from it.

Yes, it is the best we can do, for example I never fall into addiction because at the time I was a newbie and I saw that I was losing a lot of money, I only thought about how I could get it back, of course in the casino I don't even know what I thought I would recover it in terms of my job, and work 2 or 3 more shifts, that's what I thought afterwards and I forgot to play dice, of course I'm talking about 2017, which was when I discovered everything about Bitcoin, games, and what has to do with this, in this case we must always see that when it comes to doing better things we have to see how we can do so that our money increases in the game, and the best way is for us to have money totally to lose, not to start investing in having a lot of money that we need for our basic expenses, because it falls into the same vein as: How to recover the money without playing in the casino? Obviously, with more work load, then when thinking about those aspects one must control oneself, that for me was enough to control myself, but that worked for me because at that time I already had a baby, now I have two, one of 8 and another girl of 2, then at least she can lose control.

When I thought that I had to give him everything, milk, diapers and all those obligations, I knew that I couldn't spend the money I had for those expenses, and that was something that made me react, so for me it works like this, having a family, What I can do is recommend to people that they react when they feel that they may fall into addiction, so in view of this things can happen very fortuitously in the casino, many other strategies can be done to control themselves, but that depends of each person, and each person has to do what suits them best in order to control themselves, even if they are extreme measures.

In a sense, you are right. I don’t even know what’s better or what’s worse—a complete ban or widespread discussion. But it’s still better to have a discussion, and especially a discussion of sensitive topics. People will always strive for their own experience, even if it is traumatic. After all, if a person gets involved in this, it means he feels some critical gaps in his understanding of the world. And it is traumatic experience that gives such understanding. I understand that this point of view will not be easy for everyone to agree with. But it is so. We greatly underestimate the value of experience, especially negative ones.

Unfortunately a life where you are not limited by others do seem like a greater deal to many people, and divorce rates are much higher nowadays than back in the day because of it. I am not saying directly related to gambling, for some people it is gambling, for others it's gaming, some going around with friends, there could be a million reasons, people just do not like that there is someone else who tells them not to do something, so they get a divorce and do what they want.

I always found that terrible, that is noble love, if the love of my life (my wife) tells me to stop, I would stop and I would do anything to see her happy, but I also understand others. Gambling is an addiction, when someone tells you to stop, they say it for your goodness.

Every gamblers had their own game plan in the gambling site,because they win the game and fly to the vacation.But some gamblers do the game and loss the game and then keep depositing the money after the losses.This steps to recover the losses in the gambling site after the huge loss in the gambling site.The gamblers who loss the money many times will become the gambling addicted by playing the huge game to recover the loss.The gamblers who lose the entire savings and profit in the gambling site will be hated by their own family members.The children who get to know about the gambling at the early stages will be the victims of making huge money in gambling site.