Topic: The worst situation you're in that you regret that you learn about gambling - page 5. (Read 716 times)

Good thing for you if you do end up on having a friend on which they could really be that easily forgive you on what you have done. Yes, money isnt everything but for most people if once this thing
is really that being compromised or being the main issue then even how close friend you are, you would really be able to have that kind of arguments or having those long winding discussions on what happened
and you would really be that obliged on paying up on what you had damaged or you've spent but it would really be that depending on what type of friend you do have.lol

Going back into the situation about spending up the money which isnt yours, then it is really that basically showing that you are really that totally that get addicted with gambling.
You are someone whose really that being that able not to control that urge which is a solid indication of addiction and this is why it would be always best that you should really
know on how to control that kind of urge because you cant really be so sure that everyone could understand you most of the time.

A compulsive gambler took the rehabilitation just because the friend found he is gambling and lost the money, sounds too good to beleive.

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People generally change their track if they met with life-altering event like they used the money needed for the medical expenses so they led their loved one to suffer just to satisfy a temporary uge is the basic core which I witnessed why most people get rid of their addiction but once they are became completely out of their addiction, their decision will be never ever do that in their life again.

I don't think there is any situation that has ever made me regret gambling, the reason is because i have always been a reponsible gambler, you only regret in things like this when you are irresponsible in gambling. However, i have heard stories of crazy gambling addictions and and i have also had friends who suffered from it, and i can tell you that it isn't easy to get free from it, sometimes even needing psychological help.

Your Dad really did help you alot, Thank God you are out of it now.

I'm thankful that I have never been addicted to gambling and will never be. I started gambling 2022 and then stopped that same year because around September 2022, I literally use the last money my account for betting and I lost it and then literally became broke throughout the whole month to the point of not having money for Internet subscription and the fact was that I couldn't tell anyone about it. Though in 2023 I came back, through influence of some peers but this time I don't put high hopes on gambling and now stick with this motto: small stake with high odds while I also not betting often

I’ve heard and seen people around me use money that was meant for something else to gamble but never in my life have I gambled with money that’s meant for something else or money someone gave me to keep for them.

The only thing I did which was a bit risky was when I deposited my last money into my gambling account (at the time i made the deposit the money was not in my budget to do anything) I gave everything into an accumulated 3 odds football bets and I lost it in a single go. That is the only time I have regretted depositing money into my account cos as soon as it was gone I started realizing that I could have used that money for something else but during the time I was making the deposit nothing came to my mind.

I actually don’t pray that anyone experience such things or even get to the point where they’ll have start looking for means to generate funds for gambling. This has led to so many people making decisions that almost ruined their lives.

Honestly, I have experienced a situation like this when I could still be said to be quite new to the world of gambling and didn't really understand what gambling actually was, especially about the chances of winning and possible risks. At that time I worked at a goods delivery place and I had the task of being someone who was responsible for delivering goods to consumers. Every day I sent ordered goods to the people who ordered them and in short there were several people who paid by making transfers via account because they do not have fiat money. Long story short, some money went into my personal account which was basically company money that I received from people who ordered goods, after that one of my friends bragged about the big win he got from gambling on a type of slot machine and in the end I was really tempted and gambled with that money with the same belief expressed by the OP that I could win from a large multiplier.

But in the end, maybe you already know what happened to me, all the company's money disappeared in an instant and that really made me unable to say anything and just contemplating in the corner. This is one of the incidents that traumatized me in my gambling involvement which also ultimately made me not dare to use other people's money to gamble just based on beliefs that may not necessarily be in accordance with reality, however this is a good lesson and I hope we can be more careful - Be careful in every decision you make.

Gambling has taught me how to keep myself calm in the face of loss and how to be patient and deal with situations. Moreover, gambling is a good way to spend free time in a lonely life where one can have a bad time even without a companion. Moreover, through gambling, we want to assume a positive thing, such as if we face a loss in a business, we get an important comfort or education from gambling to be patient and continue the business by recovering the loss from the business without being disappointed.

Not a personal experience, but an experience from someone close who I know, He almost ended in jail because he used the money his boss gave to him to gamble and ended up not being able to purchase an important material for work. He was too embarrassed to tell his boss and ended up going into hiding not taking or answering phone calls from the boss. When he was caught, and I later confronted him on why he took such actions, he blamed and cursed the day he learnt to gamble because he understood that because of his gambling addiction, his relationship with his boss has been destroyed.

I feel for you having problems with gambling.  It seems like you've had some tough times.  But maybe you were too young to get started gambling? You said your dad gave money for school, so I'm guessing you were under 18.   

Anyway, no judgment here.  Addiction sucks no matter how it starts and  the important thing is getting back on the right path.  Have you looked into support groups or counseling? That helped some folks I know.  Wishing you the best in getting free of this.

That's is very bad mate but I am admire you that  within 5 years you actually leave the addiction right now but how will you do that? Actually a friend of mine have the same situation he is very addicted ok gambling even borrowing some money to his friends in order to gamble.  but when he saw a beautiful girl in his life then all of a sudden his addiction set aside and then now totally leave the gambling world.  Everyone of us had weakness so to defeat that weakness we must be strong and if we can't do it alone then we need some partner or any person that can help us to defeat it like in gambling.

I just saw your story. Sadly, some parents remember their family when their children get into trouble. But I respect your father; in any case, he was able to stop, although many argue that it is very difficult to free yourself from gambling.
If we talk about personal things, my brother, because of his love for games, was excluded from the football team, although he had very great prospects. Now, as an adult, he regrets his mistakes because what he could have achieved in football, playing it professionally, is difficult to compare with the fact that people rarely win in games.

So far, i didn't know someone who has worst situation in gambling here in my area, i only heard such things on adults^{(someone they knew)}, online, news, and in this forum.

This, even such person was rehabilitated, i guess you will have trust issue to lend some funds to this person again, in a way that maybe this person will get addictive again,

It sounds like that the "addicted" friend is not yet worst in terms being addict, because if someone has compulsive gambling disorder heard such suggestion, it will probably get insulted and will do things you can't imagine.

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(Off-topic) What's the best thing to get in insurance? Coz i know there's an insurance with one payment that has a year cover (which i currently have), and a quarterly payment. Both have almost the same benefits, annual payment is sure cheaper than the quarterly.

Man, that is truly heartbreaking. I am glad you somehow managed to defeat those demons which were ruining your life, I do not wish such situation to anyone out there... Would you care to further elaborate how you managed to defeat gambling addiction when you were in your lowest point? In the case you do not want to openly talk about it, then I understand it. Though, if you are willing to briefly discuss it through private message, I would like to read about it.

I am just curious how people in real life have managed to defeat problem gambling, I could give better advice about it in the future, when I encounter someone in my family of friend circle who is struggling with problem gambling; even though each case is very different from each other.

I hope in the end your family understood you had a problem, and forgave you.
You did well recovering.

In fact, it was not a personal experience, but rather I was a witness to an incident that made me review my assessment of gambling and become aware of its dangers without falling prey to addiction myself. The incident was that one of my relatives became pathologically addicted to gambling, and his behavior became strange, with the characteristics of a person we did not know beforehand.

The problem began after he lost all his savings, and after that he lost his only source of income because he was staying up all night gambling and could not wake up in the morning, which forced his landlord to abandon his services and replace him with another worker. Then his crisis worsened and he expelled his wife and children from the house and began selling the house’s furniture and appliances.
His wife was then forced to file for divorce due to harm, and he found himself literally alone with no one able to help him. Of course, he stole other people's property to sell them, then the authorities caught him and he went to prison on charges of committing thefts.

I mean, a person's life changed 180 degrees just because he fell prey to addiction. This example made me set limits on gambling and not become a slave to it as if it were a habit.

Sometimes a person needs to be taught a lesson so that he understands that he must change for his own good. Because if he doesn't change for himself, who else can change him, he cannot expect that other people will be able to change him if not himself. Luckily he has a good friend who can understand what his friend is doing, because if it were me I probably wouldn't care about his addiction and would put him in prison for taking my money.

He could not decline his friend's request so he got into rehabilitation through his family's help and expenses, his addiction was so bad that whenever he got hold of the money he was tempted to use it to bet because the guy claimed that he won a lot of times so every money he could hold is his ticket for another round of winning and not only because of the money, it's more on the joy of being alive whenever he plays, so he decides to rehabilitated to save himself on many humiliation that could come if he cannot overcome his addiction.

Rhetorically; betting and losing money that I borrowed. It did not happen to me and will assure that I won't be in such situation but it will only be the only instance I will regret my involvement in this industry. I've been into huge loss before but here i am still, simply because the amount I am using is just a portion of my salary. However, nothing's regretful in gambling. We just tend to be in despair and regrets because we suffered the negative outcome or consequence but will celebrate if it is the other way around. That's just how gambling works; you bet on your luck and check if it will be in favor or in accordance to your will. Best thing to do is to engage an amount you can endure losing so at least if it is a losing bet, you'd still function normally and will not be affected that much.
Indeed a serious condition especially if it did not only happen once, and must be checked by professional if that's the case. It just showed that he would risk anything given that it is not his property in the first place, so what more if he owns it? Self discipline has a simple concept but it is something crucial. The thing which makes it complicated is the involvement of money which generates enough drive for an individual to increase his risk tolerance and to gambling continuously without thinking of the worse possible outcome.

I sold my laptop that was damaged to gamble, instead for me to repair it. I sold my home theater to gamble and I lost the money. I used my finally year school fees to gamble but my dad gave me another money for school fee. I gambled with the money my dad kept with me because he trusted me, I lost it and I felt like killing myself, but I was coward to do it. I was addicted for five years since 2014 to 2019.

he cares for what his friend would think and that's enough for him to go to rehab as suggested by that friend.  he is lucky to have a friend who didn't get mad for what he did because not many people will think that way. spending someone else money on gambling is already a clear sign that a person needs help. if it gets worse, robbing someone at gunpoint is not unusual for a gambling addict. i have not been to such a situation thank godness.

Not really much similar case because it doesn’t involve someone money but I manage to lose my hard earned salary that was supposed to be for my quarterly insurance payment that is about to due.

This is equivalent to a month of salary which I wasted on gambling. I borrow money to my girlfriend to cover my due bills and promise to become more responsible when it comes to gambling. This experience teach me a lot to never play the money that you will use for important matters especially it’s nearly due.