Marriages are waste one. Enjoy being single.
Maybe youre still very young to say that, i married at 27 and i already enjoy being single for the past 26 years
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Maybe youre still very young to say that, i married at 27 and i already enjoy being single for the past 26 years
Marriages are waste one. Enjoy being single.
why sir?is single can give you real love,love between human,love who create and grow without birth bond,just like you meet people and than you really want to life together with him. Before we start this discussion, I would like to point out that this is NOT a discussion about whether you think gay/straight marriages should be allowed or not.
This is a discussion about marriage itself, regardless of genders.
This is a discussion about marriage itself, regardless of genders.
My opinion has always been along the lines of:
Why do I need to legally bind myself (at least that's how it functions in the USA) to someone in order to show my love? I feel like I should be able to show love to someone just by being a part of their life. Every relationship is an opportunity to learn something new. It shouldn't need to involve the law. I understand there are benefits, such as tax reductions among other things, but I am mostly talking about the show of affection.
Why do I need to legally bind myself (at least that's how it functions in the USA) to someone in order to show my love? I feel like I should be able to show love to someone just by being a part of their life. Every relationship is an opportunity to learn something new. It shouldn't need to involve the law. I understand there are benefits, such as tax reductions among other things, but I am mostly talking about the show of affection.
Have you ever been married? Ever been through a divorce? What's it like? How does it make you feel? What are the advantages and disadvantages? Is it worth it?
Discuss.
Discuss.
AS long as no one is violated then its ok. A good image should be maintained
A good "image" does not necessarily convey a healthy marriage. In fact, most people that do get divorced, are normally people that appear happy, content, and have zero relationship issues.
AS long as no one is violated then its ok. A good image should be maintained
More than anything, "marriage" has become a status, than a symbol. Every woman wants it as proof of love, and sincerity as if to reassure they can permanently be with that person regardless of what happens. It's their security.
I want to marriage 
Don't think about this..Enjoy life till you can. 
If you are committed, then why not marry that person... Marriage is a good thing. It unites two people...
A relationship without marriage and in some cases having a baby is not a good thing...
A relationship without marriage and in some cases having a baby is not a good thing...
I always wanted a happy family and a wife. One could say this is my dream. I am lucky enough to have found a girl that thinks the same. We have been together for several years now and already talked about marriage. Her parents are very conservative in this question, so that is an advantage for me i think. Before we have children i want to ask her if she wants to be my wife. I am just waiting for the right moment to ask her and hopefully she will say yes.
To all the people who said things like "fuck marriage, i'll never be married" i would like to say: never say never. Maybe you get lucky and find someone that you truly love and then want to marry that person. Things can change, i agree but as others said, marriage is about compromise commitment and communication...
There were some good responses i wanted to quote, but i will only quote the first that came to my mind:
To all the people who said things like "fuck marriage, i'll never be married" i would like to say: never say never. Maybe you get lucky and find someone that you truly love and then want to marry that person. Things can change, i agree but as others said, marriage is about compromise commitment and communication...
There were some good responses i wanted to quote, but i will only quote the first that came to my mind:
Marriage is beautifull when you have right person, and its much more than simple paper...when you are really happy and know person you are with
+1 Marriage? Stay away..
Now you can stay away from this but end of the day You have too.... get marry other wise your half life is no meaning i think.
Please ignore the crappy grammar, tense, run-on sentences, etc… and the excessive use of “etc…” Also this is generally speaking of heterosexual couples not homosexual. Some might apply to both.
Women see marriage differently and it is important to look as a male at the female perspective. She is 50% of the equation. Based on the statement “Bind myself” makes me think that you are male. In general females to do not think of marriage as “binding”. I am speaking generally here not implying that all women think this way, but a majority would agree. Marriage, to women, is a bonding of two individuals to become better as a couple. The marriage part is a bond that women feel hammers the nail home in their mind that this partner is going to commit their resources. Marriages between two is about sharing life AKA resources together. When I say resources I mean time, money, affection, child rearing, etc… Love may or may not be involved. Love is dynamic and is very complex to define. Everyone has different views. Finding someone that has similar views to love makes the relationship easier. I’m going to leave love out of this for the most part even through females might argue that it is more important. In my and perhaps most male’s minds the view below would make more sense then the generic “All you need is love” romantic viewpoint.
I tend to agree as a male that my life would feel no different married or not; however, the other side, female side would likely disagree. Most females would feel a sense of panic or urgency to get married. This feeling females have is not entirely based on trends in America, which are swinging towards not getting married anyway, but the primal sense, in simple terms, “I need a mate to reproduce with.” Expanding on this, humans have a long gestation period (9 months), and females cannot fend for themselves during this period or could not in the early days of human existence. They required protection, support, sustenance, etc… to survive AKA resources. Also, once the child is born it takes nearly 9-10 years before the child is able to survive on his/her own (debatable, point is it takes a while). During this time the female requires additional support given mostly by males in terms of food, protection, etc…
So without getting into relationships and what’s expected once you are married, the main point is that marriage is likely to be more important to the female than the male. Your view might be leaning to never get married, but the female view likely leans more towards getting married on a primal level. So if you indicate or outright say to a potential mate “I never want to get married” it is likely the same as “I never want kids” which goes against the primal urge of most females. Females have the urge at some point in their life to reproduce and the step before that is to secure a mate with resources to support that process. That step is marriage.
Women see marriage differently and it is important to look as a male at the female perspective. She is 50% of the equation. Based on the statement “Bind myself” makes me think that you are male. In general females to do not think of marriage as “binding”. I am speaking generally here not implying that all women think this way, but a majority would agree. Marriage, to women, is a bonding of two individuals to become better as a couple. The marriage part is a bond that women feel hammers the nail home in their mind that this partner is going to commit their resources. Marriages between two is about sharing life AKA resources together. When I say resources I mean time, money, affection, child rearing, etc… Love may or may not be involved. Love is dynamic and is very complex to define. Everyone has different views. Finding someone that has similar views to love makes the relationship easier. I’m going to leave love out of this for the most part even through females might argue that it is more important. In my and perhaps most male’s minds the view below would make more sense then the generic “All you need is love” romantic viewpoint.
I tend to agree as a male that my life would feel no different married or not; however, the other side, female side would likely disagree. Most females would feel a sense of panic or urgency to get married. This feeling females have is not entirely based on trends in America, which are swinging towards not getting married anyway, but the primal sense, in simple terms, “I need a mate to reproduce with.” Expanding on this, humans have a long gestation period (9 months), and females cannot fend for themselves during this period or could not in the early days of human existence. They required protection, support, sustenance, etc… to survive AKA resources. Also, once the child is born it takes nearly 9-10 years before the child is able to survive on his/her own (debatable, point is it takes a while). During this time the female requires additional support given mostly by males in terms of food, protection, etc…
So without getting into relationships and what’s expected once you are married, the main point is that marriage is likely to be more important to the female than the male. Your view might be leaning to never get married, but the female view likely leans more towards getting married on a primal level. So if you indicate or outright say to a potential mate “I never want to get married” it is likely the same as “I never want kids” which goes against the primal urge of most females. Females have the urge at some point in their life to reproduce and the step before that is to secure a mate with resources to support that process. That step is marriage.
A bondage of life which can lead your life in a secure and fashionable way.
marriage is a scheme for keeping the hot ass you found
Since i got married, it completes all the mising part of my life. especially when you have your own child and watch them grow. Marriage is both happiness and bitterness
You can have most of these things without marriage, there are points where being married is better though. Financial reasons mostly, see this changing due to gay marriage. Its helped reopen the fight for those not married but living together to get similar rights.We have evolved enough to slowly move away from needing marriage. Evolution has changed this aspect. To think the head of a penis was not built for pleasure but to pull the other dudes juices out.
When you think about that you know times have changed. Sorry for gross image.
Since i got married, it completes all the mising part of my life. especially when you have your own child and watch them grow. Marriage is both happiness and bitterness
Marriage is a good thing when you found "right" person... If you spend good time with her/him you can marry and live together forever!..
marriage is very important to complete your half with your soulmate then after we have something called "FAMILY" this is the beauty of life don't miss it. 
Think we are in a time where women can work and religion dictates life a tad less.
That said the courts have not caught up to balance the new aspects. Marriage for me is up to my mate and if we have kids. Otherwise I see it as a out of date concept.
That said the courts have not caught up to balance the new aspects. Marriage for me is up to my mate and if we have kids. Otherwise I see it as a out of date concept.
So what makes a good marriage? Faithfulness comes out top of the list.
Of course, you need to have a steady income.
Of course, you need to have a steady income.
What else makes a good marriage?
I'd say these are the most important qualities:
- Compromise - it's a partnership so you have to ensure that it's not all about what you want, sometimes you'll have to watch the shitty rom-com movie
- Communication - it's important to speak to your partner, if there's sometime not right speak to them about it - also listen if they say something is not right
- Respect - you have to have respect for your partner, so no little lies or secrets because if they're found out it leads to distrust
- Enjoy your time together - it is important to do things together that you'll both enjoy, this builds shared experiences and memories and increases 'the good times'
- Freedom - it is important for both partners to have their own interests away from the other person this gives you the ability to grow and develop
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