Uh, oh... in fact she didn't. I was more or less in the way of her working career, practically spent three quarters of time at home with my grandparents, got kicked out at 17, because i didn't meet her expectations. She always had troubles raising me, i got beaten up a lot of times and my father was a workaholic and rarely at home, so he couldn't help me either.
On the other hand, i was practically born altruistic, i had to learn to hate people for reasons but i never really got used to it, it just felt bad at all times.
Still, i am not emotionally bound to my mother, as most people are, which keeps me away from experiencing all that drama while i'm still able to help her. Why? Because i feel sorry for her. He dedicated her life to her career, she never learned to love and accept herself. When my father died, i overtook a part of his role because she was lost, that's my other motivation. Dismissed my 2/3 of inheritance for her, i didn't need another house, but she took her part in building it together with my dad, so who would i be to take it from her?
And yeah... that would have fucked up my karma completely, too.
Sometimes i caught myself thinking that it would be better for her to die. I don't mean it in a hateful way at all, but as a good wish for her to end her miserable life, in which she got stuck since a dozen of years now.
EDIT: Forgot to thank you for your wishes. I'd also love to see her experiencing the joy of life again.
I read your post in the morning before leaving for office and kept thinking whole day about wt to reply.
We need to maintain balance between work, health and family. They all have there own importance and you can't ignore anyone of it. It's painful to see people sacrificing health and family over work. In the end what matters is how much quality time you have spent in life and that's only possible if you have good health and family ( include friends too).
Parenting is a thankless job. I mean no one accept the sacrifice made by parents for there kids. I too didn't realised this until I have my own kids. Seeing how many nights my wife has not slept because our kid was not feeling well or for some reason he was not sleeping. I am sure my kids won't realise this too that what there parents did for them. They may have some story to tell when they grow up.
Parents have there own way of loving kids. My father never hugged me nor he said anything which express his emotions toward me but now I realised that all his life he worked for us to keep us comfortable and that's how he expressed his love and effections towards his family.
I wish I have my father with me so that I can thank him for what he has done for us. But I guess I realize it very late.
Just love every second of life you have at your disposal since we all have to leave it one day. Make it a happy journey, trust me we won't get second chance