BU/classic/xt do not want to split the network. they want a proper network consensus upgrade.
they have set no deadlines or added code that would destroy the network. they are just waiting for consensus. the sensible way
they were offered and refused to split away from the network
What you are describing is what I and others call a bilateral hardfork-- where both sides reject the other.
I tried to convince the authors of BIP101 to make their proposal bilateral ... Sadly, the proposals authors were aggressively against this.
The ethereum hardfork was bilateral, probably the only thing they did right--
then do not want to wreck the network. never have..
the only 'group' wanting to wreck (REKT) the network are the blockstream group
https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/bitcoin-xt-officially-rekt-also-goes-for-bip101-fraud-1162684https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/bitcoin-classic-officially-rekt-also-goes-for-bip101-fraud-1330734https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/bitcoin-unlimited-officially-rekt-1858019blockstreamists will scream lots of fake drama that spits are bad,
but then demand anything not core should split off
then scream how anything not core are wrecking the network by splitting
then scream how anything not core is an altcoin due to splits..
its all just circle jerk drama from the blockstreamists that can only read one line of FUD script on reddit at a time and just repeat it without researching or thinking logically.
all the drama about asics wrecking/attacking the network is drama too. asicboost came first and is just an efficiency gain. just like back in the GPU mining days openCL was an efficiency gain for ATI GPU's.
its blockstream who have wasted over 2 years using a exploit(they admit the going soft is using a backdoor) to try 'going soft' pretending that doing so was all backward compatible, yet if so backward compatible they could trigger it any time with no harm, right..(logically)
last month they found a flaw that using the soft (exploit backdoor) just wont work, where they realised its not as compatible as they thought. so now started more drama.
they are blaming the miners yet its the blockstreamists that were the ones that gave only the pools the vote.. in short its all just drama inducing delay tactics
but instead of holding hands up to admit they need to do a real network consensus and an opportunity that would include the other features that the community desire, which if implemented in 2015 would have been active by now..
but blockstreamists will continue delaying things until 2019(usaf.co: 'up until late 2018') with empty half promises and debate to avoid a proper network consensus upgrade any time soon.
tl:dr;
BU/classic/xt do not want to split the network. they want a proper network consensus upgrade. but the crew of blockstream that have coded over 98% of core are doing all they can to control the network for their own purpose, with all this drama