I have been struggling with my job. I don't like it at all but I have to continue it for some reason. With my current job, neither I'm satisfied nor I'm happy with my personal life (I have to live far away from my family). I am serving this company for the last 3 years.
I can't lead my own way of life, I can't enjoy myself. In other words, I am not happy at my own definition of "Happiness".
What's important to you?
A job which pay a fixed salary at the end of month, no matter what you are sacrificing for that job?
Or, happiness by your own definition?
I think we have all find ourselves in circumstances that didn't make us happy. Feeling trapped by a job, and feeling alone is a real thing and and its good to be aware of how unhappy a situations make us.
That's the beginning of being able to change it into something else.
What I have found is that when I am most unhappy, is when I am stressed to the point of exhaustion.
Resting is vital to our ability to relax. The more we can relax, the more solutions can occur to us. And just feeling relaxed makes us more fulfilled so we get a little happier.
How to relax? Some of us go immediately to what ever addictions we have. I won't list them..pick your poison.. But addictions don't really help us relax at all.
Resting, getting enough sleep is important but if you're depressed and isolated, get out and meet people in the real world. Find a group of ones interest.
But I know sometimes that's not all that easy either to get that motivated.
If that seem to hard for me to do then I take a walk at the beach. Or just sit there looking at the ocean. This is much better. It becomes a mediation and gives me space for new thoughts and ideas to come in.
Any useful repetitive task, can produce a meditative state, like cleaning, or playing a musical instrument or singing, knitting, drawing, painting, dancing, even writing. But if you write all day long maybe do something else.
The beach or nature allows me to empty my mind. Or to go to a good movie.
The bottom line is when you're alone you do have to learn to become your own best friend. And indeed if even if you're living with a pack of people, family or otherwise, we still have to learn how to be a good friend to ourselves, and not forget to ask..
"What makes me happy?
And what can I do right now to make me happy?"