giving advice to other people is fine, but we also have to look at the situation that other people are experiencing because sometimes a gambler experiences feelings of regret when you come to give advice, it will definitely end badly and you could even be blamed, but if you give advice to other people, when their feelings of regret have disappeared, it will be the best advice for them because we care about that person, it will definitely be assumed that there are still people who care and are more enthusiastic about not repeating their mistakes again.
feelings of regret after gambling are usually experienced by gamblers and this general thing cannot be avoided, especially if the loss of money is too big, the feeling of regret is greater and difficult to get rid of. however, strangely enough, when the person can control himself not to repeat same mistake and gets big win, he will start to forget everything he has done and immediately winning gives him pleasure, then losing again gives him a deeper feeling of regret and can even give him a feeling of regret negative effects such as depression or stress.
That means we have to see when the right time is to be able to advise someone who may be feeling down. If we can approach him slowly, he will be able to accept our advice and will follow it even though he needs time to recover from his feelings of regret. But apart from giving advice, we also have to be able to accompany him when he still feels regret so that he realizes that we are still there beside him to help him get out of his problem. He will see who his real friends are by knowing that we are still helping him and not just advising him because someone down really needs someone who can understand his situation.
It is natural for a gambler to experience feelings of regret after losing money in gambling because many of them have spent a lot of money but have not been able to win at all. This makes them regret it, but many don't feel that regret on other days and seem to have forgotten it. Many gamblers do things like that, and there is no change in them because they are still gambling as usual, and the advice we give will not enter their minds.
Im not really that a fan on giving out some advises unless if you are part of the family then it would be normal that you would really be helping them on the time that they are on a tough situation
specially on gambling addiction which is something that wont really be that so easy to overcome on which it would really be just that we would really be doing for our family members
but for other people then i dont really care at all. It would really be that useless and pointless for you to tell them on what are the things that they should gonna do. We are the ones who do make
out our own future in regarding on the actions that we are making. It is really just that impossible that you cant really be able to point out on which is good and which is bad.
There may be a time when we will give advice to someone who is not family because he really needs that advice. And when that happens, we can give them advice on what they can do specifically to overcome their gambling addiction. They may really need someone who can understand their situation and maybe we are the only ones who really understand them. So we have to help him to overcome the problem and when it is a gambling addiction, we can also ask his family members to help him. He will see that other family members areother family members are willing to help him besides us, so they will feel that their family members still care about him and really want to help him solve his problem.
Advising a gambler not to go deep into gambling can help him, but he also needs some hands to stop. I mean a person that'll be there for him and take him out to some other events which can help him have different thoughts on gambling. The ball is also on the court of the gambler, he'll also need to decide if he'd be interested in following an advise. If the player is interested in quitting gambling, then it'll be easier for the person's advise to work out and change him. But, it's not a simple process. Staying with them and controlling their thought works best, then holding their funds or card so that they won't deposit more money in gambling. Due to the mental disorder it may have caused the addict, the person acting as his therapist also need to have patience, until the brain begin to correct. Because while helping them manage the money they waste in gambling, the person could be acting strange or insisting that he'd want to gamble. So, anybody who wants to help an addicted player out of addiction should zero his mind to help them till the end.
If someone has been gambling for a long time, there is a possibility that he will not want to accept advice from other people because he will feel that he can still handle the problem. He will reject our suggestions and say it's okay. But if he has experienced defeat and really wants to stop it all, we can help him stop gambling and keep him away from problems that may not have happened yet so that he can be saved from these serious problems. Everything depends on the gambler because we only help him and do not force him to follow our suggestions. We can watch him closely so we know what he is doing and if he starts to stray, we can approach him and give him suggestions. Maybe he was only willing to accept our advice at that time because we were nearby when he started having problems. And when he starts accepting advice from other people, we can start helping him and guiding him so he doesn't take the wrong path.
When someone experiences bad things from gambling, there are two attitudes that each gambler will have.
- Emotional and does not accept defeat so he will try to recover from the loss with the aim that the loss is not large amount.
But their mistake is not realizing that gambling will be full of losses and efforts to recover losses will only result in an increase in the expenditure of money that will be lost.
- Regret and being lost in sadness, this will make someone feel very sorry for gambling but they still have the curiosity to return to betting another time.
Many gamblers regret their mistakes but fail in trying to change them, they only regret it for moment and at another time they repeat the same thing.
It won't be easy to stop gambling because it will always create curiosity and this really affects the minds of all gamblers.
It just that reducing the intensity of gambling makes much more sense and of course those who are really in very difficult conditions will be able to reduce the intensity of their gambling.
Giving advice and suggestions to other gamblers is not easy if we are still gambler ourselves because they will of course think that you are just gambler so why give advice to other gamblers.
You must be able to advise yourself before advising others and you must be able to prove these changes to give other gamblers confidence that what you are saying is useful.
This is the reality and I myself received statement like this few days ago when trying to give advice to friend of mine who always crossed the line in gambling.
Dealing with other people attitudes and conditions is really very difficult, especially when they are in uncertain conditions.
It is better to reduce the intensity of gambling than to experience continuous losses. This is to avoid the frustration and stress that every gambler can experience after they have finished gambling. After they experience consecutive defeats, they should realize that they no longer need to be so serious about gambling, so they just need to enjoy their free time gambling and just enjoy it. However, if they still try to recover from their losses, they will only experience defeat again, and at that time, they will be triggered to gamble even more, so they will experience more losses.
Yes, it is not easy to give advice to other gamblers while we are also gamblers. But we give advice as fellow gamblers who don't want to see someone get down because of gambling. But we really have to be able to position ourselves when we want to give advice to someone who often gambles because, after all, there is a possibility that our advice will be rejected. He will not be able to accept it.