we can't eat the cake and still have it.
While it doesn't add a lot to the conversation, I want to say kudos for getting this right. So many people are concerned that they can't eat their cake when they have it instead of realizing that they can eat it, but will no longer have it. However, and I mean no offense, but the fact that you understand how cake works makes me wonder why you are having such a hard time with bitcoin blockchain generation. It doesn't seem like the word mining is confusing you, but it isn't obvious what is, either.
ETA: If you research my posting history, you will see plenty of confusion. This is easy for me to forget, but posting makes me think a lot more than reading does. Perhaps, if you truly are confused, and based on your last posted concern, you should look into how to "cancel" a transaction that is "stuck". I say this because you presumably know that a transaction cannot be cancelled, but may not know that it can be forgotten. So if you understand that it can be forgotten, it makes it easier to understand that in order for someone to even attempt to hold it hostage, they would have to remind everyone else it exists, and they would have no good way to prevent everyone else from mining it.
I'll take this one-sided discussion a bit further and say this: short of a "51%" attack, which there is a lot of FUD about, but realistically, even though it is theoretically possible to perform such an attack with much less than 50% of "hashing power," to make it practicable in the preventing all other blocks/transactions sense, it would take a lot more than 50% of "hashing power" or a lot of losses on a lot of attempts. The general argument here is that this isn't a realistic concern given that people don't tend to like to take on investments outside of spy movies where you have criminal masterminds with seemingly unlimited money to spend on crazy schemes to get even more money or take over the world.
ETA2: I have a negative view on society as a whole, and could definitely see counterarguments to this 51% argument considering the amount of money spent on lobbying to screw over consumers by large corporations (that can also be read as depositors by large banks), but that goes way outside the scope of your original question, to which the answer was a very simple "miners" and "for the fees".