My answer would be yes because if I will not turn him down, I will just waste the times that I've tried to heal. Trying to heal from gambling addiction takes a lot of courage and it needs total dedication. I will just explain to that old friend what I've been going through. No need for me to feel shame because if he's a real friend, he will understand my situation.
Changing for the better needs a lot of sacrifices and you should be willing to give up the things that will push you to gamble again.
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If im still in a process to avoid being addicted with gambling and then i will reject him. In fact that even if you are only doing it for a night and that would be affecting your process to avoid being addicted in gambling. In my opinion if you didn't wanna be addicted with gambling and then stay away from your friend or you can talk with him slowly and im sure that if he will understand with what you have said above.
I am not addicted to gambling so I probably am giving a biased answer, but I would turn that down politely and explain the situation to the best of my abilities.
But for addicted gamblers going through rehabilitation, it can be tough and I can understand the sentiment behind this too. One can always offer something else in return, like having a coffee at a old times joint instead of gambling. Taking such a decision is a mature and a bold step towards consolidating that you are a changed man.
But I guess the ideal situations are not always going to work out, so fingers crossed.
But for addicted gamblers going through rehabilitation, it can be tough and I can understand the sentiment behind this too. One can always offer something else in return, like having a coffee at a old times joint instead of gambling. Taking such a decision is a mature and a bold step towards consolidating that you are a changed man.
But I guess the ideal situations are not always going to work out, so fingers crossed.
You have to be true to yourself and to your friend if you don't feel that this is the right time to go to a casino then tell your friend about your situation and maybe sharing your experience with your treatment will make your friend give up or moderate gambling if he too is also addicted to gambling, if he is a good friend he will understand and support you all the way, there are other ways to spend time together like drinking or watch a game, but not gambling while you are in therapy.
He is your friend, you do not have to keep him away from knowing the truth about you, gambling become problematic for you to the extent your family got involved and you are undergoing a gambling treatment. Before family members do know that someone is gambling, the person would have been obviously affected financially.
You have to let your friend know that. There are other places you can meet like an eartery, a restaurant, a recreation center or other mind pleasing places, that would be the best to do.
If you are undergoing a psychological or medical treatment along, you can tell your consultant or therapist about it, if it is a good idea or not. But I believe he would tell you what I am telling you now. Best to fully stay away from gambling to fully recover yourself from gambling addiction.
You have to let your friend know that. There are other places you can meet like an eartery, a restaurant, a recreation center or other mind pleasing places, that would be the best to do.
If you are undergoing a psychological or medical treatment along, you can tell your consultant or therapist about it, if it is a good idea or not. But I believe he would tell you what I am telling you now. Best to fully stay away from gambling to fully recover yourself from gambling addiction.
THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.
If this happens to me then i will never agree to go to the casino for old time sake. Because if I go to the casino again, the gambling addiction will attack me again. And I will forget about that 2 month treatment and start gambling again. So I think if the decision is made to quit gambling then it is always better to avoid gambling. Otherwise it will never be possible quit gambling. Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.
Obviously yes, why risk all the progress I made in 2 months fighting my addiction for a single night out? The risk of getting hooked again is too big in my opinion. I haven't experienced gambling addiction myself or among my close friends, all my information I got is from reading online. What I read is that the hardest step is to try and break the addiction by getting help. Taking treatment is the right way to recovery and requires hard work and determination. There can be relapse during the recovery, but good friends should help us rather than be a temptation. If he really is a long term friend than I would tell him of my problems and I am sure he wouldn't try to convince to still go with him. I think going for a nice dinner and some beers would be a good alternative to catch up and talk about old times.
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I don't think it's a good idea to go to a casino in that case, as a friend will probably talk you into gambling for a while and the two months you've spent on treatment will have been wasted. You can explain your situation to your friend and make an appointment somewhere else where you can also have a good time, like a strip bar, a cafe, etc. There are actually a lot of options.
THIS IS THE SITUATION: You are undergoing treatment for gambling addiction for two months already and only your family knows it, then one day one of your long-time buddies who you used to accompany to gamble in casinos wants to treat you for a night in a casino, and you have not seen each other for a very long time and he just want to reminisce old times.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.
Will you turn him down or agree to go to the casino for old time's sake.
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