Topic: Your motive for giving (Read 399 times)
Giving is a lifestyle no matter the intent behind the giving the key concern is putting smile on the next person or better still giving the next man a chance to live again. Giving on its own isn't an easy task so many who have so much find it so hard to give so i believe someone who has the mind to share what the have with another no matter their intent should be appreciated
It is for personal reasons why people give and the reasons vary from person to person. In my perspective, my biggest motive for giving is responsibility. Different roles as son, father, husband, business associate require me to have strong wills and disciplines to perform well. To be honest, I am not fooled to give anything regardless of my feelings or personal benefits. I have very clear guidelines what should be done and what should not. Am I tired ? Am I depressed ? Sometimes yes but as an adult, I have to take my own responsibilities. No matter what.
The reason I give is because I want to help others.
because if you give help, don't expect what is given will give back.
because basically it's our obligation as human beings, to help each other.
if you give with the motive of one day wanting to be given again, that's not good, because if what is given doesn't give back to us, it will definitely grow a sense of revenge, and be reluctant to give again.
so in essence, giving must be with sincerity, even if we give a plate of rice, with a sincere heart, it is already extraordinary.
rather than giving a lot, but in the end revenge, because the giver does not give back.
because if you give help, don't expect what is given will give back.
because basically it's our obligation as human beings, to help each other.
if you give with the motive of one day wanting to be given again, that's not good, because if what is given doesn't give back to us, it will definitely grow a sense of revenge, and be reluctant to give again.
so in essence, giving must be with sincerity, even if we give a plate of rice, with a sincere heart, it is already extraordinary.
rather than giving a lot, but in the end revenge, because the giver does not give back.
I've noticed a pattern of giving in order to receive something in return with the majority of my former friends and acquaintances. This, however, usually switches to always making requests in the near future, since I find giving in order to receive something in return a malicious way of thinking. I always help and give selflessly without asking for anything in return. If I respect someone and I truly count you as my friend, I'll do my best to assist them. However, at some point they are simply taking advantage of you, which is something I don't tolerate. Unfortunately, I've noticed that it's too common for people to use others for their own advantage; it's very saddening, especially if you take into account that I'll do my best to assist someone however I can.
Yes rarely someone helps without his selfish motive ,everyone wants something in return. This is how our world is now opportunist and looking for gaining anything anytime. But in real sense your motive of giving should be for pure helping a person with good intentions, not to take advantage of his situation. 
I've noticed a pattern of giving in order to receive something in return with the majority of my former friends and acquaintances. This, however, usually switches to always making requests in the near future, since I find giving in order to receive something in return a malicious way of thinking. I always help and give selflessly without asking for anything in return. If I respect someone and I truly count you as my friend, I'll do my best to assist them. However, at some point they are simply taking advantage of you, which is something I don't tolerate. Unfortunately, I've noticed that it's too common for people to use others for their own advantage; it's very saddening, especially if you take into account that I'll do my best to assist someone however I can.
Your motive of giving should be purely to help someone with good intentions and selflessly. It should not involve any selfish motive like anything in return or any reward.
And never publicize your good deeds and intentions, always help quietly as it is said if you are giving someone something with right hand your left hand shouldn't know about it. The irony is people help nowadays to become famous and philanthropist.
And never publicize your good deeds and intentions, always help quietly as it is said if you are giving someone something with right hand your left hand shouldn't know about it. The irony is people help nowadays to become famous and philanthropist.
When I give, I do it because I think that's the right thing to do. But when guilt comes in and nobody's there to help me and I just suffer on my own.
I'm thinking that when it's come to others, I'm always there and I help them. But whenever I'm in need of help, nobody's there and willing to help because most of them that I've helped are also needy.
I'm thinking that when it's come to others, I'm always there and I help them. But whenever I'm in need of help, nobody's there and willing to help because most of them that I've helped are also needy.
I understand that the reason behind someone's act of giving should not be questioned but what I've not still gotten my head around is the group of people who give outsiders more than they give their loved ones. It's understandable that one has to be careful with whom you give gifts to but, I still don't grab the wisdom behind such acts. Can someone help me out?
So that I'll have more, it's written blessed are the hands that giveth than the hands that receiveth. When you give doors of blessings open to you and your business, that's is a natural law of nature. At times, I give to be happy, when I render help and they smile, it gives me inner joy. Giving is gifted from God, everyone should pray for it. Because it's takes courage to give. Especially in a harsh economy
What is your reason for giving?
The best intention and motive for giving should be purely to help and show love. Any opportunity to give should be embraced, and contrary to the mindset that some people already have about it is as something you do when it is convenient for you or when you have surplus, giving is something sacrificial and you don't need to have too much to give, but can give from whatever you have. 
3. Givers With Intent
We hear of benefit giving; where give A so later on he will do something for you, or you give so people will think highly of you.
It's quite sad that these days people have lost the true meaning of giving and replaced it with something else.
What is your reason for giving?
We hear of benefit giving; where give A so later on he will do something for you, or you give so people will think highly of you.
It's quite sad that these days people have lost the true meaning of giving and replaced it with something else.
What is your reason for giving?
I call this type political givers. They are hypocrites who pretend to be doing something good for others whereas their real aim is to help themselves. There are so many of them in Africa. They want to be seen while giving to others. Most of them like to record on video their acts of giving, displaying them online. I attitude to giving falls on number 2
I can give even if it is the only money I have on me, as far as I'm giving to help the condition of one situation.
You will have to give us a contact to call to confirm that claim. Am joking. Yes there are some people like that who give even when it drains them. This are the selfless givers.
It is good to give and not grudgingly, without expecting the same oerson you give to respond in return, so many people were found in the place of giving and yet standing by to get noticed that they gave, it is not necessary showing yourself to others what you have given and to those that likes receiving too much as well, it's a bad habit, learn to start giving so you can also have enough to receive back through your giving habit.
So, there should never be a reason to give! as the slogan says; " Just do it".
In this regard I have been thinking that there are indeed motives in terms of political ideology.
Normally, someone who is left-wing tends to think that it is the state through taxes that has to collect and redistribute wealth, so that in an ideal, perfect state (which will never exist) no one would be poor.
I don't want to say that it is impossible to be a leftist and give money to charities, etc, but in general I would say that the percentage is lower because of the above explained and more if you live in a country where social democratic policies are implemented, like Denmark for example.
My reason for giving is that it is a good action in itself. I don't have to think of complicated arguments to justify it.
Another thing I have thought in this regard is that it changes the way you are in a positive way. The moment that donating money becomes one more item in your monthly budget like paying utilites or groceries, and you think of other occasions to donate money to the extent of your possibilities, you are moving away from the selfish part that we all have.
I admired some people doing it with really no personal intention and made it as a habit for some reason like probably they know how it feels to be poor, powerless, dependable so they are doing it when they can do apart from this most people are doing it for fame, or to prove their sake of existence to media so their name will remain under the circulation which gives more benefits than what they are giving to people. As for as someone is giving I just happy for the receiving end they get something which is better than nothing.
OP: One should not judge anyone or create ideas about people because they do not give to whom one thinks they should give.
And it is not a question of now, people have been like this since they began to understand that material belongings mean something, always people in the course of their lives give some material good or give charity, fortunately it is like that, is true that thete are much persons does it rarely and maybe there are people who never do it, but that's not the approach, so the point is not who does not help others, the important thing that is you do it, that at the end of the day is most important.
So, there should never be a reason to give! as the slogan says; " Just do it".
And it is not a question of now, people have been like this since they began to understand that material belongings mean something, always people in the course of their lives give some material good or give charity, fortunately it is like that, is true that thete are much persons does it rarely and maybe there are people who never do it, but that's not the approach, so the point is not who does not help others, the important thing that is you do it, that at the end of the day is most important.
So, there should never be a reason to give! as the slogan says; " Just do it".
Their are some people that believe if they give x2 of what they gave will come back to them. Why some people they always give with wisdom, they don't give when what they have with them is not enough .
It is not a good reason to give, and probably, with that mentality you will get the opposite result.
I started giving when things started going well for me financially, without expecting anything in return, and things started going even better for me financially, as I described in this thread:
What about the role of giving in personal finance?
My reason for giving is that it is a good action in itself. I don't have to think of complicated arguments to justify it.
Their are some people that believe if they give x2 of what they gave will come back to them. Why some people they always give with wisdom, they don't give when what they have with them is not enough .
People today often fall into the third group, not because they intentionally want to, but rather as a result of the way society is today. If you give everything now, tomorrow may not bring you any help. People who desire to give always consider your capacity to return the favor in the future.
If you don't give back when you can, you'll be seen as unappreciative, thus those who are wary of such hurtful statements will usually give back of their own volition. Giving assistance to someone can never be justified; try to avoid expecting anything in return while acting with selflessness.
If you don't give back when you can, you'll be seen as unappreciative, thus those who are wary of such hurtful statements will usually give back of their own volition. Giving assistance to someone can never be justified; try to avoid expecting anything in return while acting with selflessness.
Giving should be an act done selflessly without expecting anything in return. Some people feel giving is supposed to be limited to a certain sect or it has to be limited to cash.
Inasmuch as we are not to give with an objective in mind, it actually becomes painful when your gift which you felt would have met a need is regarded poorly or worse discarded and you later find out. It could cause a certain phobia.
Inasmuch as we are not to give with an objective in mind, it actually becomes painful when your gift which you felt would have met a need is regarded poorly or worse discarded and you later find out. It could cause a certain phobia.
In the past, we had a culture of giving to each other, especially to our closest relatives and even our neighbors. giving is not only in the form of money, it can be food, it can be services, without expecting to get anything in return. as the saying goes, that giving is never lacking. we have a culture that is preserved to this day, to give does not have to involve a motive.
there is another saying, if the right hand gives, the left hand does not need to know. however, now in the digital era as it is today. there are many youtubers making content with the theme of giving, even in some of our national tv shows some reality shows with giving content. however, it saddens our attention, how much money they make from the show just selling the sad impression of the suffering of the people who are the subject of the show.
like you said, this is very sad.
there is another saying, if the right hand gives, the left hand does not need to know. however, now in the digital era as it is today. there are many youtubers making content with the theme of giving, even in some of our national tv shows some reality shows with giving content. however, it saddens our attention, how much money they make from the show just selling the sad impression of the suffering of the people who are the subject of the show.
like you said, this is very sad.
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