Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 6. (Read 2441 times)

Yeah this is actually true and real situation or happenings into this life on which there are really cultures or certain races on how they do really raise up their children on which it is really that too loose on which on the sense that it is really that making those young minds would really be that too exposed on things which arent supposed to be that exposed but well there's nothing we can do about it on which there would really be
those kind of things happening around and better not to boggle up yourself when it comes to this situation but rather it would be better that you should mind on about yourself or your own family.
Basing up on this situation on which both husband and wife is really that engage on gambling on which quitting would really be that so hard since both of you are really that engaged into it
on which there's no one would really be able to stop you on the middle on the time that addiction would really kick in. There's no one would really be able to pull you out.
This is why it would be always best that one of you would really be quitting up and then trying out to explain and tell the other side that doing the same will really be that recommended
specially if family relationship is already that compromised.

I get your point and if you ask for my opinion I will also say same thing but I think most western culture or way of life are ignorant of some of these things as the world with them have become so free that the children are constantly exposed to such habits even without the consideration of the effects(negative) that can get to these little observers. Although I know that human are of different types as some are ignorant and careless and do fall under this category.

Firstly, that family is not charting the right course, how then do you tell the children to stay rigid without gambling when it's the way of the parents. If the both of them have gambling as their source of income, it's going to be difficult to tell one of them to stop gambling.

If they have been into gambling before they got espoused, that's even a more critical challenge as they almost can't tell themselves to back off as they've agreed to it before they came together.

But, if anyone has to call it quit then it should be the wife. She has to hold the family and manage resources, it's not good to have her gambling with that.

The truth is that a type of mutual Addiction is due to having very bad luck , the truth is I don't know how it would be done in a case like this , I think that in one of the two of the couple has to take the reins and think well to do things with more intensity To give the Example, generally it should be the man who is more willing to get out of that problem so that the woman is only willing to follow her partner's example, of course all that in good judgment, sometimes it is good to get out of this quickly because they both risk losing each other, and although there is some mutual support, both of them have to get out of it by showing that they have a good understanding even in that, is what occurs to me, is what comes to mind, Therefore, I would say that when it comes to having more ways to attack these problems, it is by going to the same psychologist where they see both of them and between the two of them, finding the way to continue trying there Until they achieve it.

In this order of ideas, we are people who are always looking for the best, so that is when we think we can make a difference, it is better to have the Determination and Enough Willpower to get out of it, with respect to solving it quickly. If the person really wants it, follow all the instructions they are given, if not, then they can simply see what is better, whether to go to a psychologist or do it in the most rudimentary way, which It is not Going to the casino or not playing and doing other activities to minimize the Anxiety that this gives, that is Something that can be done Quickly and with 1000% willpower , this is what Many do when they do not have economic solutions where they can perceive everything What they need, they have to address a type of Demand like this to be Able to get out of the problem , because otherwise it can Become the biggest Problem of their lives , and if they don't control everything , but Absolutely everything gets out of Control.

The addiction of gambling was not easily recovered,if the both husband and wife get addicted to the gambling site.It’s very hard to treat such cases,because we know the recovery of one addiction take 3-4 months.This two addiction even take 8-10 months.Because until the family was suffering financially because of the gambling loss,both husband and wife will not get to know about their addiction.The first addiction felt by the wife of the family because he will buy the essential things for the cooking and he do cooking for the day.So the family will be suffered with the food at the beginning of financial difficulties caused by the gambling addiction.

Aside from all that you have said, I did like to state and make it categorically clear that, the idea of a husband and his wife both being addicted to gambling is nothing but a pure assumption, or should I call it speculation or a wishful thinking.

In a real sense, it's pretty difficult, more like impossible for a man and the woman of the house to both fall into gambling addiction, this is nothing but pure speculation, for those who are not married, family life is full of expenses, most especially when children are already a part of the family, I personally believe that, it's practically impossible for a man and a woman to become addicted to gambling while being married to themselves, this ever happening will be the height of stupidity if you ask me.

The truth of the matter is that, bills that comes with being a family Persons, won't even allow the husband and the wife to gamble enough to the extent of getting addicted to it.

Family-based gambling addiction treatment is unique. Mutual determination between husband and wife can change lives. Addiction is sometimes an indication of deeper difficulties. Sustainable recovery requires addressing these issues. Therapy can reveal and treat these difficulties, facilitating rehabilitation. Society needs to evolve its view of gambling addiction. Not merely a "bad habit", its mental illness. Awareness and stigma reduction can increase help-seeking. Gambling industry regulations like responsible gambling can also prevent.

Family support is crucial, but its only part of the rehabilitation ecology. Personal drive, professional assistance, and social support are needed. Together, these factors can make addiction recovery attainable

I think whether it's alcoholism or gambling addiction both are basically negative and if you can it's better to avoid it, it's okay because the fear of something going wrong is very possible. If indeed in this case both spouses are already involved in gambling then yes maybe I would also agree with your idea which is quite confusing to choose who should stop, I can't choose one of the two because after all they both have an important role in a family.

The wife has the job of managing the household as well as allocating the money given to her by her husband to fulfill all the needs, and the husband acts as the head of the family where he has a greater responsibility to earn a living, so both roles are involved in money, and of course if one of them is gambling aggressively then it is very likely that the money earned from the main job is allocated to gambling and forgetting some of the more important needs. That's right, there's nothing wrong with quitting if it's going to be very difficult for both of them, so I think they need to be committed to keeping their gambling activities in check in terms of always being strict on limits and not going overboard, all for the sake of the balance between money for gambling and money for family needs.

No issues if they can but the question is will they be able to handle it? Risk changes and it varies from their situation that sometimes will definitely not in their favor.

Whether they have ways to win or they'll just eventually going to lose. What matters to them is that they should not neglect their duties as parents. But that can't be guaranteed because of how they're doing things together with parenting. That's not sufficient to give all of their full efforts to their duties as parents because there is gambling and it's not just their time that shall be used there but also their money.

People who are financially capable can continue gambling and do not need to decide who should stop gambling. But we know that gambling can cause a person to lose self-control, and if that happens, a person can lose all their money.
It needs to be realized that if they can both decide to reduce their gambling activities and stop gambling, it will be better for their family. They can supervise their children better because they have no desire to gamble.
There is no need to choose who should stop, not the husband or the wife, but by both stopping gambling, they can save money for their children.
They don't need to pin their hopes on gambling to make money, especially if they both work and can earn a salary. Of course, it will help his family financially.

In as much both couple gamble responsibly with moderation to avoid addiction nothing is wrong with both of them gambling, I had come across couples who take excessive alcohol which I believe is completely wrong, however in the case of couples involved in gambling I am sure none of them would quit it for another because it seem both of them are engrossed in gambling, thus way out is both of them should be transparent with their gambling activities by gambling with the amount of money they can afford to lose therefore it mustn't affect family expenses especially money for feeding, payment of bills and other relevant expenses atleast whatever income earned from gambling would also help their home

I agree that no one should give in, or they must find a compromise that is suitable for both, husband and wife, but my solution I think is a nice alternative of quitting. As no one quits, they just reduce amount of time one of them gamble. Regards children, they require attention and parenting from both parents equally. We have to be honest, but there are father can never replace mother and opposite. If they have children, then all priority must be given to them, and gambling should be put aside for both of them.

If they are financially capable and can handle the risk in it I don't see any issues there. One thing about gambling is that is not easy to stop it as it is easy to start it. So the thing that no gambler can boldly say he or she haven't loss in a game  before because that just one thing about it. But in time you can also experience winning but doesn't losses can be neglected that why you got to find your way of winning are to manage your greed. And how to many the percentage you using.

Gambling addiction can still be handled gradually if they are able to stop themselves from frequently engaging in gambling activities, they must have a strong determination to stop, especially for husbands and wives who are addicted to gambling. They must be able to stop for a better survival it is not easy but If husband and wife are able to support each other to stop together then the process will not last long because usually family factors are very important for the gambler himself.

For other people, addiction may be something that is difficult to cure, but this depends on the gambler himself, if they don't have the intention and determination then it will be something that is very difficult to cure as long as they have a supportive family gambling addiction will get faster to handle.

When they are at a point in their life being unable to afford some gambling, maybe it would be better for them to quit gambling entirely and focus on building a financially free life based on hard work. If gambling can blow a hole into their bank accounts such that it has profound subsequent consequences, choosing to gamble is a bad choice in my opinion and instead they should make more general and basic plans to change their lives instead of waiting from paycheck to paycheck to be able to gamble again.

That's true. One of the main reasons why gamblers cannot terminate their habit is because of revenge. In their mind there still remains the desire to take back whatever they had lost and it's a cycle that never ends.
A few days ago I said to myself that I was going to lessen playing casino games, especially the originals because I had been losing in a bad streak. But, I tested again yesterday and I found myself winning and I dropped the ball of Plinko at x1000. After that, I kept on winning although not as big as the first time and then I withdrew the funds. How can a gambler stop if he is given a chance again to win? Right now, I am thinking about gambling the same way again and try if I can win one more time. I am just waiting for my funds and then I will try again.
That's just one of the reasons why a gambler cannot quit. There are other reasons from different gamblers on why they keep on doing it but I know that it's always about revenge and that luck coming to them one day to take advantage of the profit they can make.

As a parent whether husband or wife then it would really be just normal that both of you would really be that responsible when it comes on raising up your kids on which it is really just that right that you should really be that mindful about on the things that you are dealing with on which it cant really be seen by your kids because if they do then high chances or probability that they would really be doing the same thing and this is something that we dont really like to happen. Gambling isnt bad if you are really just that responsible on what you are doing or simply being that kept secret or something that cant be seen by your kids
because everything that they would be able to see into their parents are actually that good or right things which not all the time to be that way.

You would really be just that mindful on quitting up things when everything is already that been messed up. This is why it would be better that you should quit up before it too late.
Doesnt matter on whose the one, the important thing is that one of you would really be able to quit and would help out the other one on doing the same.
Yes, its hard but its not really that impossible.

The fear is not about them, they can be doing fine by themselves, its about the legacy they create for their children, unless its about couples who don't Care about having kids. These tiny legs are super observant and a silly mistake from their caregivers can get their lives ruined and get them off on the wrong path.

Children under the age of 16 should not be exposed to gambling, reason being that they're not psychologically sound and matured enough to make good decisions for themselves and gambling decisions is one of the toughest decisions to make because of its addiction possibility. Its More like congesting their childhood. Please things children are exposed to should be greatly regulated. That's why you see 18+ in most platforms. They're not stupid, they know the dangers of involving children in those things at a tender age. It doesn't go well with them in the long run.

Someone who have been gambling so a while shouldn't quit gambling all because of the considerations they had with losses while gambling, they may only pause for a while when they are financially incapable of affording gambling or when they are having a complicated health challenges, most people cannot because of loosing bets take decision on quiting for gambling when they are already finding pleasure with it.

Actually doing gambling both you and your wife wont really be an issue as long you are really just not forgetting other things or priorities or simply do really make this some sort of fun or leisure time together.
If you are really that still intact with your finances and having that kind of control on the things that you've been dealing with then its not really an issue. Things do really just that become messy on the time that you would really be not minding about those things which are important and you are already that putting importance on gambling rather than on to those things and this is where issues do really kicks in.
This is why it would really be always important that you should really know your limitation and you should really know on what you are doing.

On the time that you and your wife had already do commit out things like having those financial struggles or problems just because of too much gambling then this is already that considered to be bad.
Quitting? Its to you as a husband and father on what are the things that you would really be doing. You wont really be that so dumb on not to realize on whats the things
that are happening.