Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 7. (Read 2441 times)

It's great that you have this way of spending time together. Money in this card game would really ruin such a touching relationship.

I think that the greatest gambling addictions occur among those who do not have a partner. Such people want to prove to themselves and others their importance. Plus, they understand that with a lot of money they will definitely not be left to live alone, but in reality they get such huge debts that such financial responsibilities will scare off any girl. The game cannot solve all life's problems, and this is obvious to any person who considers himself a highly accomplished person.

How much budget you run out every time you play the card on the weekend because if you only decrease a small amount then I am sure this will not affect anything. Gambling will be more addicted if done routinely and I do not believe people say it is not addicted if gambling activities are carried out routinely. In my environment rarely people are involved in gambling with their partners because gambling is not a good deed according to the judgment of most people.

The problem is addicted not to be based on challenges to play but because this activity is carried out irresponsible. Similarly, the couple and if the two are unable to maintain the proportion of gambling that spend a lot of money then it is worried that they will be addicted to who are unable to control themselves. In the end they will get a much greater problem because various problems will arise when finance is not better.

Gambling is not a way to earn money and provide for the family with that money, so a man doesn't need to continue gambling while saying that he has a responsibility and has to provide for the family. Those who take responsibility don't gamble their money away because no matter what, you are not going to keep winning all the time from gambling and there will be a day when you will lose everything you have that you use to earn money and then you will just sit and regret everything.

So, we can't say that if a couple gambles, the man should continue gambling while the woman should stop doing it because the man has a responsibility. I would say, the woman should continue gambling for fun while the man should find a job or do a business so that he can have a proper source of income and be able to provide more for the family.

that's true, because gambling can also make them focus only on the gambling they are doing, they probably won't be disturbed when they are gambling because it's not fun to gamble but there are distractions, so I think if they both like gambling they should can divide their time well so that gambling makes them forget more important things. also like you said about children,  when they have children I think they have to reduce their gambling activities because maybe if they still like to gamble it could have an impact on their children.

You are right, one of them must stop gambling because the family is of course the most valuable asset that must be protected, don't let gambling destroy the family and the future of their children. because I think families must be provided with the best possible care, with gambling having a dangerous impact that could damage them and their families. so I think it's better that they both can stop gambling.

I think there is no problem if both of them compete, it's just that if they don't have children, maybe they're free, but it would be a problem if they have children, no one is taking care of them and their time is spent gambling, so one of them has to give in or take turns taking care of other household needs so there's no chaos. in taking care of the household, the problem discussed by the OP is one of having to give in to taking care of the family.

Although perhaps no one needs to give in, they can even play at the same time at certain times, but the important thing is not to neglect time with children and family, so there is no jealousy from both of them if they can do it, but if they can't, it's better if one of them has to stop playing. think about the interests of children and families.

Gamblers who spend 1% of their income on gambling may not be able to meet the requirements to make money from gambling because it is
difficult to get winnings from gambling. What you say is true is that the key is proportion and the discipline and self-control required so that the husband or wife can both understand that they must prioritize their family first rather than gambling. There is no need to put ego first. The husband or wife has to stop gambling, especially since they have the same goal, namely wanting to build a good household with their children. If they can understand this, maybe both of them will immediately decide to stop gambling because they know that gambling can cause a loss of self-control.

Indeed, we should not assume that gambling is a stable source of income, and that will be difficult to do. Moreover, we often play gambling to see how often we can win. It would be better for the husband and wife to start reducing their gambling activities so that they do not lose self-control when gambling. Even though they have reduced their gambling activities, they can still gamble after their children are asleep so that no one disturbs them from gambling. But they really have to be more disciplined in playing gambling because they can lose self-control and then they can use their family's money. A husband or wife who really cares about their family will choose to give in and decide to stop gambling because they don't want to lose self-control in gambling, which could cause them to lose money for their family.

Since both parents love to gamble, they can make a competition between each other. That will be fair I think. They can start with identical budget, and by the end of a period, calculate, who was more successful in gambling. That persons can continue gambling freely, but the other person only after all the duties are done. And after a period of time repeat competition. Wont that be a solution that dont harm anyone?

After all, there is nothing wrong with helping others, since childhood I have always been taught by my parents to always pay attention to people who need help or deserve help, in any way even if it is just advice and motivation. It's sad if we let people just get lost in the wrong mindset and point of view when on the other hand we know that what they are doing is quite dangerous and needs a push for a realization as soon as possible.

That's what we're always worried about, even if the couple's goal is just to find entertainment by enjoying a few rounds of gambling but the fact is that there will always be situations where as you said they can't fully control themselves along with breaking the planning and management that they have made from the beginning, and of course that means it's no longer about entertainment and fun but leads to some mental and psychological stress that ends up with unexpected financial problems.

Our arrival may be very useful and have quite an important role when the situation of the husband and wife is not good in their gambling involvement, encouraging a little evaluation, justifying the point of view and returning the realization that however gambling always has indications for something much worse to happen, these are all possibilities that will never be foreseen in the end.

Recognizing the complex relationship between gambling and family is necessary. Responsible gambling is a good cause, however it depends on 'if' you can play properly. This 'if' is dangerous. This sounds reasonable: gamblers should spend 1% of their income on gambling. Does this one-size-fits-all strategy meet variations in family finances? Not necessarily. Even minor gambling can be dangerous. The key is the proportion and the discipline and self-control required.

Your idea that women handle finances and men focus on skills sounds oversimplified and stereotyped. Each family's dynamics are different, therefore an egalitarian approach may promote mutual respect and understanding.

Your outlook on gambling's perks, like winning a jackpot, is hopeful. Gambling should never be considered a stable revenue source. The odds are often against the player. Making professional gambling a family aim may not be wise. Making educated gambling decisions requires a balanced understanding of the risks and rewards.

I had always played this local whot card game with my woman whenever she's around for the weekends because she's not always around due to her kind regards of job and the location far from home, so when she's around we play that game together for fun and entertain ourselves you know that lovebirds kind of thing. And I haven't seen her play any other game cause the purpose she plays that with me is not for money making but fun between two lovers.

It is when he two couples/lovers introduce money into the game making it seem as a  challenge between the two that's when you have got to be worried if she can be capable of holding herself together going forward from falling into addiction , because what I discovered is that people that gamble for entertainment rarely fall into gambling addiction compared to those that gamble for money making.

Gamblers who take responsibility for their action wouldn't have trouble or blame others if they failed. Taking responsibility helps the brain to rethink and do the right thing, for a losing gambler, he would figure out a means of restructuring his gambling schedule and change a few bad habits like wagering all their money in a single game. For the spouses, I think they wouldn't have to regret anything about gambling because they can complain to one another if a new unwanted gambling habit erupts in their lives. Management is important, and the woman should control the finances while the man can keep up with techniques and management strategies. The list provided by AmoreJaz is very important and it's what is at stake for any family both gambling or non gambling homes. As I said in my previous response, some families where both spouses don't gamble still face difficulties with meeting those requirements.

It's not just about being a gambler or not. Although one may think that a gambler has a higher chance of failing in building his home, that could be wrong for responsible gamblers. If they spend 1% of their monthly income on gambling, they are still on the right track and the family won't suffer any loss in home-keeping. Both spouses can further ahead to becoming professional gamblers, if any of them wins a jackpot someday wouldn't the family celebrate the enhancement of their monthly income? The disadvantages of gambling have made us not see the advantages of gambling in our everyday lives. Advising them to stop wouldn't be helpful by any means and they can have a tough time agreeing to that term. Adults have to remain responsible for any decision they wish to follow and these two are grown-ups and can differentiate between what's good or bad in gambling. But, if they can't keep up with responsible gambling, I think they'll need help.

Yes, that's what happens in many cases of young people or even old people who are addicted to gambling. What can be reduced is the intensity of gambling, to reduce gambling activity gradually. it is very difficult to ask a gambling addict to stop. What is done is a process of understanding to be able to better control the gambling that is carried out. and the process will of course not happen simply or even in a short time.

but in some cases, it depends on the gambler himself. because of course, there must be a willingness to reduce their activities. whether it's due to worsening finances or coercion from people around you.

It's funny about children in the womb. )) Well, yes, a bad example not only for children, but also for the younger generation. I can’t even imagine the situation when I personally became an example of a gambling person. All this, of course, is funny to talk about this way, but in life I have seen many similar examples. People's lives are turning into a complete nightmare and there is practically no way out of it.

You wouldn't wish such "happiness" on anyone. I don’t know how it is in your country, but this process has been recognized as a serious disease - gambling addiction. It is quite difficult to recover. It's a bit like drug addiction.

In gambling, perhaps regret and disappointment will always be there, but if all of this makes the gambler blame other people, it is also not good attitude because all gambling activities are his own decisions.
Every gambler must be responsible and able to accept all the impacts of gambling without blaming other people, there is no point in blaming other people for the impacts of gambling that we feel.

Agree that they both have to be able to find solution and fix everything because what they do will also have an impact or influence on their own family.
There must be better solution with calm thinking, slowly they have to think about the long term of the activities they have carried out if they continue to happen.
And of course all aspects must be considered carefully and management and boundaries must be able to be set.
I know that for someone who likes to gamble, it will definitely be very difficult to stop, but at least they must be able to control it, manage it and also limit the intensity of the gambling they do.
Building family has been their goal together from the start so don't let gambling cause everything they have built in the family to experience problems or even be destroyed.

I agree they must quit gambling and never do it again, my wife also addicted in this gambling apps in her phone last year and when I discovered she lost like $1k in month I forced her to quite gambling immediately or else I will never gave any money to her since she managed all our finances, surprisingly she listened to me and never gamble again. Gambling is fun but if you lost huge amount of money and affect your families finances then its a disaster to all of you. You will never get rich in gambling believe me.

I have seen many couples engage in responsible gambling. They have a solid financial base and are always disciplined in gambling.

I believe that in the near future, gambling will be legalized in most countries, and there will be widespread information on the internet and the streets. Your children's lack of understanding of gambling knowledge is the foundation for gambling addiction. Thus, the more it is banned, the more curious it is for children to learn. It is important to show them clearly the negative effects of gambling on life and the economy so that children can control their decisions. It is facing the sweet temptation of betting games. Let's raise gambling awareness among our children.

in short, you are here because of your own volition. and when it is time for you to quit, it is also on you.
so don't blame anyone else if you are in this habit, because it is your own choice. now, to what extent you want to go in in this habit, is still your option. as you are responsible for yourself, make sure you won't regret your life's choices.
husband and wife, they both need to sit down and contemplate on their situation. because after all, it is their family who will suffer from their actions.
they need to consider of the following aspects of their lives -
 > financial situation
 > source of income/jobs
 > assets
 > kids (education)
 > savings/emergency funds
 > career
 

Gambling is kind of thing we do base on our knowledge and not basically that someone pushed us into it, I know that gambling have to do with something I know very well that most people who plays gambling doesn't quite in gambling because of someone's advice, the major reasons why so many of them leave gambling might be aa result much losing, so if you don't want to be participating in gambling due to you are not benefiting in gambling again, you can as well understand that you have to leave gambling base on your detriment and your betterment, gambling is something we do without anyone teaching us the way forward.

As a matter of fact, it's a bit strange to even see this kind of situation. It's something I cannot even imagine happening, but if that kind of case exists, then the couples should actually check their gambling habits and work on themselves because it might also affect their kids. Gambling is for fun and not a proper means of earning. If those couples are actually gambling for money, it's because that's what gives them the fun they want, but they should just know how to control it. Perhaps these are the adults we are talking about here. Unless they have become very compulsive gamblers,  it will be difficult to stop in a short time, but if they are still in their right senses, they have to be disciplined and control their gambling habit.

And it would really be always be depending on how each of you would really be able to understand the situation and yes, anything could really be talked well both husband and wife since you are the ones who had been building up the family on which it would really be just that fine that you should really be that mindful on what are the things that  are needed up to be changed
because there's no family that would really be that perfect on which there are moments or times that we do make out some lapses and this is why it would really be needing up to have
those adjustments for the sake of your family. As a husband then it would really be just that right that you should lead on how to handle this situation, it is impossible that you cant be able to determine on which wrong and which is bad.