Topic: The rate of divorce in the society - page 5. (Read 1106 times)
Divorce is now something found so easy to do in the society today just because you think you can't continue to live or manage along with your partner due to some reasons you can just overlooked and continue with life, most people in marriage or relationship don't have the mind of being tolerant at all, everyone thinks that what they do is the best and cannot be corrected, if we keep encouraging for divorce then almost everyone will be a divorcee in life, we had better learn to adapt and live peaceful with others and stop the issue of getting divorce, nothing is perfect in life, including we humanbeings.
There are lots of reasons why divorce is happening and it depends on what country you are living in because, in some places, facial beauty is not really important rather the capability of building a family is what they are looking for. But in our society especially those who are exposed to social media, their role models are Hollywood artists and other popular celebrities, whenever they do something, others quickly mimic their actions no matter what it is even in their marriage life, they are just like a person that even when their role model enter a hole of a lizard, they will not hesitate to follow them.
The problem is the influence of the society today. The masculinity and feminine content that we see on social media make it look like finding another partner while being in a relationship becomes a norm. It's because of their shitty content and getting some confirmation and affirmation with those nonsense ideas and validities they're asking from the people. The approval that they get is also from those people who just want to plainly cheat. They think that they deserve better, they need that they need to be loved where in fact they're loved. They say that they're not getting time because their partners are busy. Like what the heck, if they're working their ass hard off for a week with just a few hours to take a rest, understand that they're working for your comfortability. It is not about the gender but the influence we see from other people looking for validation that their cheating is a normal thing to do and asks sentiments from the other people.
I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
Both are the problems of it, I won’t want to chose one over the other because when you look into it very deep, you’ll see that they are one way both at fault. Marriage is all about understanding, sharing feelings, pains and what have you. For a marriage to work out, both sides have to make up their mind to make it work, they should have a believe that no matter what happens, they will strive to resolve it together without allowing others to interfere into their marriage.
Most of the marriage divorce are caused by outside influences but in some cases it is caused by societal factors (modern world) when the two sides haven’t been able to agree to a consensus of what their partner should do or how they react to instances like that when they arise.
this is because men have options and the government gave that options to all of us and we liked it also in the name of democracy. and why not. its the best the best we could get for having these laws.
its not about whos wrong either men or women, women are also fighting for their rights especially if they hate the man theyve married.
if women can get the share of wealth from the man after divorse, its good for them. its freedom.
I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
this only shows that marriage nowadays is not composed of LOVE instead either Lust or desire , look at that story of yours just because of a woman without make up being divorced already> how cheap that reason is?But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
Marriage supposed to be a matter of Love and Promises to be together for the rest of life , but in our time now as this was getting to be forgotten the true essence of married life , this made me have asking "Why need to get married when there are no one forcing them to get in"? why not stay in relationship and just give time to each other to learn our feelings and otrue plans towards each of one , even if this took us many years before finally deciding to get married.
Many things could be the reasons, but in this case be fake and deceitful could be reason as stated by the said husband. Probably that was his first time seeing the woman without makeup, who knows? It could also be that he wasn't satisfied with the outcome of after wedding night. Lol..... But many things can cause divorce ranging from cheating, abusive partner, selfishness, and many more.
I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
What more can you expect from a world that has embraced everything new while forgetting the positive aspects of marriage? When modern social events are intertwined with marital problems, it complicates the situation, and the worst case scenario is that it will undoubtedly lead to a lack of understanding and the separation of the couples. Our forefathers are not comparable to us. When it comes to patience and endurance, they are the true definitions.
For the other point you raised, I will blame the man who divorced his wife the next morning after seeing her true face for the first time. The reason for this is that in today's world, everyone is aware of make-up and how it has tricked many men into failing to recognise the genuine face appearance of the one they love. Before bringing them in, he should have seen the actual face of the woman he wants to marry. Perhaps it was an arranged marriage and he never saw his lover's true face before marriage. Such occurrences are very rare to happen.
The problem is you don't have a clear and full view of the data. Based on this post the global average divorce rate is actually in decline, from 1.8 to 1.6 (even though it's 1-year-old data). So it varies between countries, ethnicities, etc., therefore what you see is only what's available around you and you shouldn't extrapolate it to the bigger population.
Yeah, the reason may be as stupid as the makeup thing, but in the US, the main reasons are lack of commitment and affairs.
I like your presentation of data. In divorce cases there are different factors that constitute divorce in the whole world. Some couples divorce because of financial, some cheating, some unsatisfied sex habit, some commitment as you said which can also lead to poor communication and unfertilized marital status etc. And because of all those factors, African men decided to marry more than one wives in those days but when the civilization came to the African countries, monogamous relationship and family was introduced and when a man and a woman married and above mentioned are found then marriage is dismissed. Op yours example is even better. I have seen 3hours marriage. The marriage ended at the alter of the wedding. It was genotype that end the marriage. Yeah, the reason may be as stupid as the makeup thing, but in the US, the main reasons are lack of commitment and affairs.
And that is when you are about to marry follow all the due process and make sure you marry someone you like and love. Marry someone that can give you sex the way you want. And before you marry prescribe all your likes and dislikes so that when you people are coming together, there will be no argument.
It's unfortunate enough that the modern civilization we in Africa embraced has now made divorce be normal thing in the society we live in, which our forefathers won't agree to.
Some decades ago, what people divorced in today's society, can't be attributed to what got our parents divorced years back. Marriage has changed and people are no longer marrying for love but instead for fame, physical attributes and appearance, and unplanned circumstances(pregnancy).
It is now in a marriage that you will find not enough reason for a lady to decide to divorce his husband based on the reason of not satisfying her sexually, and not providing and paying her bills as she wants to, etc.
Some decades ago, what people divorced in today's society, can't be attributed to what got our parents divorced years back. Marriage has changed and people are no longer marrying for love but instead for fame, physical attributes and appearance, and unplanned circumstances(pregnancy).
It is now in a marriage that you will find not enough reason for a lady to decide to divorce his husband based on the reason of not satisfying her sexually, and not providing and paying her bills as she wants to, etc.
you cannot pinpoint a single reason for divorce there are various factors that affects couples such as culture, for example a lot of asian countries still have the old way of thinking and values that divorce are often frowned upon in society even if its legal in their country as opposed to america where divorce has been almost normalized now in the situation you gave the man seems to be too superficial but i would say theyre both wrong for not spending enough time in getting to know each other before committing to a marriage
I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
Some guys are still willing to propose to women with out full understand them, which is why the amount of devoiced stuff is growing daily. Husband and wife relationships are not like those with typical girlfriends, where you can break up at any time. A complete understanding between you and your proposal is worthy of marriage. Prior to accepting each other, one must be aware of the other's habits and character. You can just approach a female you see today, ask her to marry you and even say that, "Let's get married next month." What are our predictions for the conclusion? Therefore, it is not necessary for us men to rush into finding marriages. But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
The society that has made it seem normal is the problem in this case because if Divorce has heavily been criticized each time, the rate of divorce would have reduced. Now it is normal to young people that they can decide to divorce whenever they feel comfortable with it. Marriage is no longer for better for worse, no longer forever and a day more, it is now a temporary thing in most cases and the value for the institution dropped. To avoid divorce, try not rush and hurry into marriage.Right. Marriage should be for mature people. It needs people who are emotionally ready, patient, and understanding. It's not just a piece of paper, it's a whole journey that requires maturity to handle the ups and downs together.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
That’s because reasons for divorce has always been there like abusive partners. Blaming just men or women isn't fair. Maybe the did love each other but it is more about adapting to new challenges and finding deeper connections. Real, open communication and understanding each other’s flaws can make a huge difference. It's about evolving together but not to the extent that marriage becomes inhumane.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
The society that has made it seem normal is the problem in this case because if Divorce has heavily been criticized each time, the rate of divorce would have reduced. Now it is normal to young people that they can decide to divorce whenever they feel comfortable with it. Marriage is no longer for better for worse, no longer forever and a day more, it is now a temporary thing in most cases and the value for the institution dropped. To avoid divorce, try not rush and hurry into marriage. 
The stigma around divorce has decreased making it a more accessible option for unhappy couples. Changing gender roles & expectations have also impacted relationships.
I totally agree with you here. The stigma around divorce has decreased greatly. This is the reason couples are no longer committed because they can always exit if need be. Growing up we were told marriage is "for better and for worst". The current generation do not believe in that phrase. Once marriage becomes a burden, divorce becomes the next option and it is being celebrated. In Africa (especially my country), marriage used to be held at high esteem. Divorce was something to be ashamed of. In Africa, the man is the head of the family and his decisions stands, but today civilization has made everyone wise. Both partners share equal rights and responsibilities. Where one partner faults,threats of divorce spring up. We have lost our values.
I'd attribute this to the degradation of morality. 50 years ago you did not have social media that screamed "be a strong independent woman and show that you can have a lot of men" at girls and "all women are whores and gold diggers" at men. So, many young people look for open relationships and assume the partner is going to cheat, so they don't even try to be faithful, which leads to them cheating...
I know some people that stay together for many years, me included, but me and my wife came from broken families, so we were really afraid of ending up like our parents and proceeded very slow in our own relationship. We respect each other and this is very important.
I know some people that stay together for many years, me included, but me and my wife came from broken families, so we were really afraid of ending up like our parents and proceeded very slow in our own relationship. We respect each other and this is very important.
I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
What have we considered about the foundation of every relationship, what are the individuals help and support we give towards having our marriage work out as expected, what are the abnormalities we do and we think are right or normal things in our own sight, how considerable are we when it comes to ourself and the partner we have, how selfish are we and how arrogant do we appear in our marriage, when we look into all these, we can see that two cannot work or live together unless they agree with each other, are we bed mate or soul mate, divorce is not the problem, what we did that lead to divorce are the problems.
People think that marriage is something that they can use to raise their shoulders and be proud of without knowing what is involved in marriage. They fail to understand the challenges and obstacle in marriage that one must be ready to sacrifice for his/her marriage to make sure it works out.
This is why they jump into marrying someone that they don't know too well or someone that is not their match, but because they think marriage is a competition, they involved themselves with someone that they don't love and after the marriage, when they realized that what they were expecting is not so, they go for divorce. I call it blind marriage.
This is why they jump into marrying someone that they don't know too well or someone that is not their match, but because they think marriage is a competition, they involved themselves with someone that they don't love and after the marriage, when they realized that what they were expecting is not so, they go for divorce. I call it blind marriage.
I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
In my country's law deception is a justifiable ground to seek divorce. But if you marry because of physical beauty you will be disappointed because it can be faked. Get married to somebody you are comfortable with or without makeup. I am not comfortable with girls who wear markups because they don't look real to me. A good character is far better than physical beauty, We all know people can change later in life but as much as the relationship is not abusive, criminal, or violent, it is better to endure. You will not have a perfect spouse if you know he/she is not indulging in any criminal activity and doesn't molest, disrespect, or act violently, such a spouse can be managed But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
I noticed that divorce is now a normal thing , people will get married today and in less than two months they are divorced already..I heard a story of how a man after seeing the wife's face without make-up the following morning divorced his wife saying he was deceived that she is not as beautiful as he sees her before.
But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
Both parties are at fault when they divorce because they cannot maintain their commitment. In my opinion, divorce is acceptable when one party is physically or mentally violent, but if you divorce only for the reasons you mentioned, it is stupid, and maybe when examined by a psychiatrist there is already a mental disorder. because before marriage there is of course an introduction and courtship phase, so how can he realize that his wife is not beautiful after marriage?But our forefathers has been with same women for decades, is it exposure ? Who is really the problem ? The man or the woman?
What happens in your environment may be different from other environments so it cannot be concluded that divorce is increasing. In my country, divorce cases are indeed increasing and the percentage increase is quite high, which is quite sad, but the number of divorces in each province is different, but overall it is increasing, so if there are a lot of divorces in a region A, it doesn't necessarily mean that region B will suffer the same fate. Source
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