Topic: A Nigerian Father Rejects Son's Gambling Win - page 14. (Read 1777 times)

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I can agree to religion being the reason why the father is against the money and as for the age i doubt it has anything to do with that.

I did a little search on the news and found at that the son is 19 years old which in most case is old enough to make his decision, and I also fount out that the day is not as rich as others as suspected him to be, and according to the image below the family is currently behind two months house rent payment.


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Gambling isn't inherently a bad thing, but the connotation it brings is definitely tainted over the years of exploit and suffering that most gambling addicts have gone through in the past. They serve as a cautionary tale per se. But I think that's not the main reason why the Dad's not so stoked about the son's winnings.

I think it's all about the effort it took the son to amass that much money. For most people that's going to take a hell of a lot of time and blood sweat and tears, which the father is kind of hoping the son would experience (which is stupid lmao I'd disown my father if he's like that). Which then lead to the father rejecting the son's winnings. Basically all the father's aiming for is to have the son see the value in effort and taking the time to gather that much money, instead of taking the easy way out and gambling it. I don't really stand behind the father's  logic considering how hard things are right now, and it's not like the son's going to forget them or is going to ditch his past life over a life of luxury or anything.

Legit seems to have a lot of negative reviews and the blog have published some news that where later proven false so I would believe this happens in reality.


But then based on the topic,  I believe the father doesn't have enough information about how the thirty million and how the son managed to win such a huge amount, but then the son could have had the money transferred into his bank account instead of approaching the father with the total sum in cash.


When talking about morals it has less to do with finance, some religion doesn't see gambling as a sin since some of the top religious leaders often time take money from followers without necessarily haven't to know the source of such money, so it left for the individuals in question to avoid any activities that are illegal and in some cases, gambling is not illegal.

very often, when money is earned in a simple way, it is not considered as a real gain.

In many cases it is expected that earnings are "hard" earned at least... therefore deserved by a large commitment or an above average effort.

But there is also an ethical approach or as suggest before also a social/religious implication.
Gambling is seen as a deprecable activity, which can also lead to social problems, in short, I'm not so surprised that a person of another generation doesn't look favorably on such win, and above all we don't know what's in the background of this family...likewise problems related to gambling? money issues? etc

Muslims strictly forbids gambling according to Quran. In strictly Muslim countries, you will see their government forbidden gambling, it has not been like that in countries that Christians are. No where in Bible that directly point to gambling, but Quaran directly pointed to it to be bad. I guess the guy's father is a Muslim.

Am kind of surprise seeing this kind of with just little amount, #400 is really a little amount in my country, the boy is really lucky to have win that big amount of money from gambling. Am from the same country with you, most parents are so religious and they believe gambling is not good, i believe that will be the main reason why the man rejected the money.

To me gambling is not bad, but we should make sure we don’t do illegal things just to make money which we will gamble with, some people are addicted to gambling, whenever they don’t have money to gamble, they always end up doing illegal things like stealing money just because they want to gamble, that’s why in most societies they always see gamblers as dangerous and irresponsible people.

It’s the man’s choice to choose to accept the money or not, but we all know the amount won is really a big amount that’s enough to change someone’s life. If the man reject the money, i don’t have problem with that but the father shouldn’t stop the boy from spending the money and using the money for anything he want.

the truth is that here in africa this kind of thing has been happening frequently, this is because there are many religions that brainwash their followers, I know that some will think that these religions that I am talking about tell people to return the money they earned in the gambling, but the truth is none of that, what happens is the following:

here in africa many religions have lied to their followers that they (the pastors) remove the demon in people's bodies and that the pastors have the power of the angels of God, I know that without a doubt this is a great abuse, but it is the reality from here in africa, so now where does gambling come into all this? just think like this:

bad luck = devil (this is the thought that the pastor puts in the heads of his believers)

so what happens is that when a member of the family of the person who goes to these churches wins money gambling, the person who goes to the church keeps accusing the person who won money gambling that he is possessed by the devil and that is why he needs to go donate all the money in the church to purify yourself, this is not a fictional story, these are real things from africa, I believe that what would be happening to this family that OP spoke about. in the case of my country, we are a country of people who play these games of chance a lot, we have not had these problems, but in the past there were many stories of this type


here in africa many churches are the ones that have created problems of this type, I have not seen stories of this type involving the muslim religion, the pastors of the churches deceive the believers to keep all the money of the believers, they are lied to the believers that games of chance are things of the demon

Maybe his father was a religious person in whose religion gambling is illegal, and he was not wrong to refuse the money his son gave him. The child should also understand that his father, even though he is a poor person, still upholds the moral principles set by his religion and his son should respect his father's decision to refuse the money he gives. Because not all poor people in this world want to receive money from illicit proceeds, even though they need money, and maybe their father is one of those people and to be honest, I really salute his father for sticking to the teachings of his religion by not receiving any money from gambling.

The most common religion in Nigeria are Christianity and Islam. Christians takes gambling lightly if compared to Muslims. Probably the father of the boy is a Muslim.

In this way, gambling is not something bad, the boy won the money, not that he stole it.

Not the father that won the money, it is his son and I believe the son will not joke with it.

Well it might not be illegal from your own view and perspective but like zlantann said some religious actually see this act as an ill act and its probably not welcome by them and if the father is a Muslim then I think his reason for rejecting the money justifies his claim but thats if the son is in a stage where he can't decide for himself because possessing such money can even make the son disown the father if its calls for it because money always come with a spirit that changes or amplifies someone character.

Actually,what I see here is a man that wants to make sure his son is not into some criminal acts so that he will not put him into some troubles later. The man must be a good fearing man or a Muslim that gambling to them is not part of their faith.

If I was in the boy's shoes I wouldn't listen to my dad because he is not aware of how must his son has lost before he could be lucky to win this huge sum. I will use some of the money to set up myself and only visit my dad once in a while because he would never accept that the money was a legal means of getting it. Some persons down here in my country see gambling as something evil and destructive to man,due to their understanding of the term gambl

This kind of story looks like a made up story since I read many instances like this online just to bring a real world case scenario of gambling to people virtue.

I think the Father decision on this case might be based on religion or philosophy since I have a pastor that declined our church member money offering that came from a lottery win. Maybe the father on the story is holding in to something that makes gambling profit bad.


On practicality, A money is a money so he should accept the money especially if they are poor since the son only risk very small amount just to get it. But in father perspective or if you are viewing this with same ideology then I think the decision is right since it’s based on what’s your life guidelines to determine good and bad.

I've heard a similar story before, but in that one, the child brought the money home, but his parents questioned him, claiming that he went to rob someone and stole the person's money. It wasn't until the parents enlisted the help of a third party to investigate the source of their son's money that the parents realised that their child was telling the truth from the start.


In this scenario, I will not accept the father's decision; the fact that he got his money via hard labor does not automatically imply that all of his children should follow in his footsteps. I believe that everyone has their own destiny, and that God can choose to bless anyone in whatever way he sees fit, and that this could be God's method of blessing the son.
Aside from the fact that it is almost impossible for the son to return the money to the gambling company the father should take the money because it is not illegal money; if it were, I would have supported the father, but since it is not, I'm afraid I'd have to congratulate the son.

Maybe he can send some emails, ask if someone wants the money

Maybe the son is incapable of controlling such amount of money that was why he ran to his father, usually an average nigerian who wins on gambling site can never go to their father telling them what they win from gambling instead they will think of development and investment.
To me the father is wrong because they don't know if God wants to use that to bless their household but with the father's behavior they might lose that money.
If that the son is living alone and knows what live is I don't think he would ever adhere to what his father is saying because life in the city is too hard to survive, so the father has done wrong by asking his son to return the money, instead why not he said that he won't involved himself spending that money than asking his son to send it back knowing too well that the money wasn't stolen or gotten from a fraudulent activity.

His father's decision might have a religious or cultural undertone. I am aware that some religions and even cultures see gambling as immoral. Islam absolutely forbids gambling, it is called haram. It is seen as an avenue that leads to the loss of wealth. Christianity has no explicit law on gambling but the Bible frowns on making haste to get wealth. The father might be religious which makes him view the win as a proceed from sin. Some cultural views see gambling as an abnormal behavior because they feel it could lead to laziness or even crime.

The father is entitled to his opinion. He has the freedom to reject the win. But his action is strange in a country that is going through some economic and political challenges. I doubt if most parents will reject such a win except they are rich. I also don't know how old is the boy because the wins can make him rich and independent. He doesn't need to stay in his father's house because he can buy a good house and live a comfortable life.

Father must have money and can provide for his family. He Wouldn't act that way if they don't have enough. Or maybe the father is really a disciplinarian and wanted the boy to stop gambling as well.

A boy having that much in Nigeria can live a life on his own afaik. Fathers can see where this boy is heading and he'll have a say in the family which a father will not like.

A boy won #38,000,000 ($82340.19) with just #400 ($0.87) and when the boy brought home his win, the biological father of the boy rejected the money because it was gotten from gambling. So that makes me to think how people look or see or think of gambling. Is gambling a bad thing to do? As for me gambling is not a bad something but the individual can be bad and also the way you present yourself in the society can also tell people about your personality.

How do you see the father? Was he right by rejecting the son gambling win?