I am very sure that whining and this drama from a small group and especially from Armstrong, Gavin and Garzik hurts bitcoin. we all see this all of the recent months and you must be blind to not see this.
How can anyone trust and give power to only three developers and to a small group community that act like a religious secta with no technical background.
And is obvious that and you have no tech background with what you just write. There are much more problems with the block size increase than a simple switch that it seems you dont understand at all. Like you is all the Classic supporters unfortunately.
the answer is you dont give power to ANY developer.
instead you find a non classic codebase and you put in the 2000000 buffer
there is no power grab.
there is no problem with increasing the buffer. and like i said you dont have to fall for the classic crap to do it, even core can do it even btcd can do it even bitcoinj can do it.
its not a situation that only one corporation can lead.
it has never been a core vs classic debate. its about having independant code that no one controls.
so fill free to grab the 2mb code and the segwit code and have it all.
its not a one or other debate its an everything together debate
its not a choice of feature a or feature B. its all features together so that your covered for any future change and then you have the freedom to choose which one to use.
by the way im not a classic fanboy, or a blockstream fanboy.. im just a bitcoin needs more buffer capacity to allow for natural unhindered growth without begging a corporation for more porridge (oliver twist reference: please sir can i have some more)
I think the best playground for you will be /r/btc 
