my elastic IP for the remote server is 54.186.164.9 if it helps
I don't see your IP in the list.
Did you start the masternode on your local QT too ?
Yeah, i started darkcoind on remote server,
then started QT wallet locally with 'darkcoin-qt -masternodeaddr=54.186.164.9:9999
then unlocked wallet
then enter masternode start, says "successfully started masternode
then enter masternode list and shows my IP at the bottom of the list
but IP never shows in masternode list on remote server
Are you sure that you have to specify the port ? Try without it.
i think it's needed because without the port, it says "not capable masternode" when i try to start it