Today's society is changing a lot compared to the previous society every parent is thinking about the safety of their children. There are many bad people in the society who lead the children in bad ways so parents are forced to raise them alone. As earlier there was a joint family now everyone is transforming into a single family these are all the results of social evolution. Advances in science and technology have brought enormous financial prosperity to society.
The world has change now, a lot of things going on now which I don't know if to call it civilisation or something else. Young people are not ready to summit themselves to their parents to learn, it is not easy for some parents to care of their kids this days. The kind of kids we use during to have in the old days respect elders and are ready to take corrections but the kids this are very difficul, you don't even have any right to even correct them. 
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Today's society is changing a lot compared to the previous society every parent is thinking about the safety of their children. There are many bad people in the society who lead the children in bad ways so parents are forced to raise them alone. As earlier there was a joint family now everyone is transforming into a single family these are all the results of social evolution. Advances in science and technology have brought enormous financial prosperity to society.
Historically, rural areas of yesteryears depicted a scenario of communalism. Everything was collectively owned by all the members of the community, except wives and children that were the preserves of each family. But the European colonialism in the African continent inadvertently brought their civilization and disrupted the social fabrics of the communal relationship, thus individualism and private ownership of property became the modus operandi during the colonial epoch.
Nevertheless, contemporary global capitalism has further provided the last straw that broke the Carmel back of African communalism. It has intensified such variables as; individualism, private ownership of property and class relationships. What previously belonged to all in the rural areas has come under social closure of individuals.
Therefore, rural communalism has faded away on the basis of current trends of technological innovation. The issue of a child being corrected by another person out side the family lineage has gone into abeyance and could not be resurrected anymore.
Nevertheless, contemporary global capitalism has further provided the last straw that broke the Carmel back of African communalism. It has intensified such variables as; individualism, private ownership of property and class relationships. What previously belonged to all in the rural areas has come under social closure of individuals.
Therefore, rural communalism has faded away on the basis of current trends of technological innovation. The issue of a child being corrected by another person out side the family lineage has gone into abeyance and could not be resurrected anymore.
Well the points you stated here are quite convincing enough but look at the negative aspects too, back then you see inter-family disputes here and there, this family won't talk to the members of the other family either because the wives had a misunderstanding or the husbands of each family are in loggerheads, the duo will each tell their household to never set foot on the other house and this sometimes grows into generational problems.
Today, thanks to civilization it's now very rare to have these cases because every family is incharge of only their family and dare not meddle in the affairs if the other family.
Today, thanks to civilization it's now very rare to have these cases because every family is incharge of only their family and dare not meddle in the affairs if the other family.
I think it just depends on where you are. I still see this kind of community from where I live in and even though we are not exactly friends, we can always depend on our neighbors. I always say that there is nothing like home. What we have as a community is beautiful and can never be replicated. People are not all selfish and some still help each other when in need.
I still believe in the beauty of a community and how it helps us shape our personalities. I also grew up in a big family where even neighbors would come and greet me as a child. I think the culture is still lived and preserved. For those who do not see this anymore, maybe your country or wherever you are has been consumed by deep capitalism. Everyone is on it for themselves and money. Greed seems to be what is at the very center of a lot of people's hearts.
I still believe in the beauty of a community and how it helps us shape our personalities. I also grew up in a big family where even neighbors would come and greet me as a child. I think the culture is still lived and preserved. For those who do not see this anymore, maybe your country or wherever you are has been consumed by deep capitalism. Everyone is on it for themselves and money. Greed seems to be what is at the very center of a lot of people's hearts.
when we are growing up. we use to have men that always seat in front of their house in the evening either reading newspaper or listening to news with their small transistor radio. there was no small child they can not discipline. some will see you with a ball and started asking about your academic performance.
if they seize your ball, just go home because play have finish that particular day. and if they flog you, you dare not let your parents know. because it means that you have done bad thing, and your parents fit give you additional flogging.
then, it took a community to raise a child. but now everyone is minding his or her business by building houses with fence. this men were either retired teachers or railway personnel's. we need a return of those days, it was more peaceful and sweet. and then, there was no muche crime then to compare now and the whole community was living like a family.
Can we go back to those days, and how possible is it ?
if they seize your ball, just go home because play have finish that particular day. and if they flog you, you dare not let your parents know. because it means that you have done bad thing, and your parents fit give you additional flogging.
then, it took a community to raise a child. but now everyone is minding his or her business by building houses with fence. this men were either retired teachers or railway personnel's. we need a return of those days, it was more peaceful and sweet. and then, there was no muche crime then to compare now and the whole community was living like a family.
Can we go back to those days, and how possible is it ?
It's still possible if you start following the way of the warrior. Ask me for details if you are truly interested to know the way.
Those days were simpler, right? But times have really changed. It's true, privacy and individualism have become bigger priorities now, and technology has played a big role in that. While going back might not be totally possible, what we can do is find a balance between the old ways and the new. Let's remember the good parts of those days and also adapt to the present reality. It's all about nurturing a healthy and caring environment for our kids.
Sure privacy and technology has more effect on this, this day even our fathers has smart phones instead of going to either the newspaper stand or buying it to delivered to their house they will be preferring reading this news through their phones which is the trending technology things has change and we don't expect things to continue to be the way they were those days, the dark age has gone, we can't continue to be in the dark, the human race has to move ahead, no matter what technology that effect has done more good than harm, though we can never dispute the fact that tg dark age had its own benefits but these days is better.
Hmmm, i can still remember that good old days when dicipline was the other of the day, anyone can dicipline a child if he or she messed up, but now, almost all the teenagers have already eaten the forbidden fruit, so things have changed, and our society isn't as safe as before, people are focusing more on security base on how unsafe the society is now.
I think the old day was really a memorable one, things was easy unlike today. The difference between that time and now is civilisation, this have really changed the life of the present youths and want thing I discovered is that the parents we have now are different from the parents we have now, parents were hard on their children which made them to be discipline buy the parents we have now compromise, they do things to please their children all the time. 
No, we can’t go back to those days as the world has evolved pass that time that all this were normal in the town unlike now. People are more security conscious and value their privacy more than anything else. Not that the former ways were bad, but as the world has evolved, there was a need to also adjust to that way of life in order not be left behind or unsecured in the current world. This use to happen in the past most especially in villages where building of fence to cover houses was not even recognised then. But today, even in villages, people don’t leave themselves open outside to the public, they are now also building fence to cover houses.
then, it took a community to raise a child. but now everyone is minding his or her business by building houses with fence. this men were either retired teachers or railway personnel's. we need a return of those days, it was more peaceful and sweet. and then, there was no muche crime then to compare now and the whole community was living like a family.
Can we go back to those days, and how possible is it ?
What makes you think going back will help matters now, judging from the pasts I believed everyone loved that process but have you ever asked yourself why those men stopped scolding kids with bad behavior or they just felt like stopping, I'm not in the right position to even judge people living their life in private cause seeing how the world is wicked everyone should choose to mind their business, even when those men you mentioned try to scold a child for bad behavior the person might end up fighting the parent of the child, not every parents wants this for their kids they insist on handling them by them self, even then with the scolding and flogging from older men kids will still choose to behave arrogant cause any punishment coming outside children will hardly change, if you think going back can help matters that's your opinion. Can we go back to those days, and how possible is it ?
when we are growing up. we use to have men that always seat in front of their house in the evening either reading newspaper or listening to news with their small transistor radio. there was no small child they can not discipline. some will see you with a ball and started asking about your academic performance.
if they seize your ball, just go home because play have finish that particular day. and if they flog you, you dare not let your parents know. because it means that you have done bad thing, and your parents fit give you additional flogging.
then, it took a community to raise a child. but now everyone is minding his or her business by building houses with fence. this men were either retired teachers or railway personnel's. we need a return of those days, it was more peaceful and sweet. and then, there was no muche crime then to compare now and the whole community was living like a family.
Can we go back to those days, and how possible is it ?
I hope you understand what you are writing and what is the real big thing about all these things you have explained. If you needed to experience some for the things that happens past years, then you will need to go back to 1990s so that you can have a feel of what is happening and have the kind of fun you are looking for. There is not impressive with the past lifestyle and this time around is more better than past years when there is no well concise development. if they seize your ball, just go home because play have finish that particular day. and if they flog you, you dare not let your parents know. because it means that you have done bad thing, and your parents fit give you additional flogging.
then, it took a community to raise a child. but now everyone is minding his or her business by building houses with fence. this men were either retired teachers or railway personnel's. we need a return of those days, it was more peaceful and sweet. and then, there was no muche crime then to compare now and the whole community was living like a family.
Can we go back to those days, and how possible is it ?
Hmmm, i can still remember that good old days when dicipline was the other of the day, anyone can dicipline a child if he or she messed up, but now, almost all the teenagers have already eaten the forbidden fruit, so things have changed, and our society isn't as safe as before, people are focusing more on security base on how unsafe the society is now.
Teenager now believe and act that they more than even the parent's that give birth to them and can and will not take correction or advice from any adult in the neighbourhood and if things doesn't change a lot of them are going to kiss out of the most important thing and lesson they need to learn at that age, but even this have been worsened because of the level of security challenges that we are faced with in this time and the economic challenges of this time have contributed to the high rate of generations in both adults and teenagers. Security is a other aspect that have also contributed to the high privacy demands of the time and what we stand to face at all time, because majority of the cases of insecurity rises from the negligence of the most important things in life which is the fundamental lessons that children need to learn at early stage ofthey life.
we find that kids are more invested in the latest trend or swag than they are in learning something worthwhile.
i would say that trends have always been a thing that kids or youngsters follow in the last 3 or 4 decades where pop culture has emerged it has also increased the popularity of trends i think that in every generation the older one will always have something to say about the new ones we are already seeing it with millennials when it was them who was getting picked on by the older generation before them
Actually pop culture or music didn't contribute anything in isolation to modernity. It is change that has affected all areas of human life. Things will keep changing as boys become men while men become elders with wisdom to pass down knowledge from experience. Things have changed and no doubt about that which is the reason that so many kids follow the current trend of social media against the idea of parents who have more experience than those kids.
Hmmm, i can still remember that good old days when dicipline was the other of the day, anyone can dicipline a child if he or she messed up, but now, almost all the teenagers have already eaten the forbidden fruit, so things have changed, and our society isn't as safe as before, people are focusing more on security base on how unsafe the society is now.
Those where those days when we used to have genuine love for one and other but this time things have really changed. Those days children don't get scolded by their parents alone , everyone in the neighbourhood are responsible in bringing the child up . Then was a time that members of extended family do have pure love for one another, cousins lives like blood siblings from the same parents but this days everything has really changed. Nobody cares again, I think because of how things are difficult everyone just focusing on themselves and their own family.
Does not makes sense to you people have become more selfish for the sake of their own self preservation and the preservation or their family? Because to me it makes sense. It has been demonstrated that during harsh economical and political times people cannot longer to take care of their extended family or those in their neighborhood, so they resort to only using their resources on their immediate family.
Also, that previous way of life or scenario you describe does not sound like something I have personally lived myself even when I was a child, so you must be from a very different culture/country from mine or there must be a very marked age gap between us.
It must be one of the reasons people resort to find some church or religious group to join, since we have lost much of the care and love for one another, they try to find what has been lost in faith. Nothing wrong about it, though. I have actually seen people of the Islamic faith treating one another as brothers and avoiding to mistreat their neighbors.
if they seize your ball, just go home because play have finish that particular day. and if they flog you, you dare not let your parents know. because it means that you have done bad thing, and your parents fit give you additional flogging.
Can we go back to those days, and how possible is it ?
Your narrative sounds like that of an African setting, although I wouldn't know if it's so in other parts of the world, but this is the way I remember it while growing up. Anybody from the community can discipline a child and the parents wouldn't take offense, even when you as a kid complains, your parents will tell you that you must have done something wrong for an elderly to discipline you. Then moral and trust was the order of the day.
Fast forward to present day, upbringing of children is solely the responsibility of the parents, and you can't blame them because wickedness has increased. Child abuse is on the increase, so I won't be comfortable for another person to discipline my children, they might out of jealousy for my success try to harm my family. I'd rather prefer family and friends to report any bad behavior of my kids and let me to do the discipline by myself. Besides kids are more exposed now than in years back, because one way or another they're exposed to the internet, you only need to ask Google any questions and it'll be obliged to give you answers, whether you're an adult or not.
So we'll have to disconnect the internet to go back to the good old days, but you and I know that is not possible.
Those where those days when we used to have genuine love for one and other but this time things have really changed. Those days children don't get scolded by their parents alone , everyone in the neighbourhood are responsible in bringing the child up . Then was a time that members of extended family do have pure love for one another, cousins lives like blood siblings from the same parents but this days everything has really changed. Nobody cares again, I think because of how things are difficult everyone just focusing on themselves and their own family.
Missing those sweet old days, when "Obi was a boy" and "Ada is a girl". Those memories are still in our minds but very unfortunate that we can't experience or see them happening.
The act of science and technology, corruption and privacy has significantly over shadowed those old sweet days.
Everyone now is trying their very possible best to protect and keep their family safe as per not knowing who is happy with your progress and wishes well for you. So as the world is developing into something we never planned for, we aswell need to follow the trend so as not to be left out and regret at the very end.
The act of science and technology, corruption and privacy has significantly over shadowed those old sweet days.
Everyone now is trying their very possible best to protect and keep their family safe as per not knowing who is happy with your progress and wishes well for you. So as the world is developing into something we never planned for, we aswell need to follow the trend so as not to be left out and regret at the very end.
we find that kids are more invested in the latest trend or swag than they are in learning something worthwhile.
i would say that trends have always been a thing that kids or youngsters follow in the last 3 or 4 decades where pop culture has emerged it has also increased the popularity of trends i think that in every generation the older one will always have something to say about the new ones we are already seeing it with millennials when it was them who was getting picked on by the older generation before them
I wasn't born then but I know life was a bit easier then because people had less worries for crime though it existed but was very minimal. life then was focused on education as the only was to success that is why those men really ask for academic performance when conversing with children, white and blue collar jobs where the best jobs to attend and it was with educational performance but now evolution has change alot of things people now are afraid of each other for safety.
Discipline was the paramount duty of everyone not only ones parents.
what I believe is that the earth revolves and everything lives in a cycle and supporting my believe with the stories of how humans lived I know that it will get to a stage where life will return back to it's original state believe it or not it will. it may not be in our generation or next.
Discipline was the paramount duty of everyone not only ones parents.
what I believe is that the earth revolves and everything lives in a cycle and supporting my believe with the stories of how humans lived I know that it will get to a stage where life will return back to it's original state believe it or not it will. it may not be in our generation or next.
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