well soem are immune to greed but they are the minority
thats why OP said split it..
EG
lets say you know the social security numbers of your spouse and 3 kids
wife 077-99-0099
kidA 087-96-3021
kidB 097-59-1239
kidC 107-98-5868
now without telling them... you make a passphrase using those 4 SS numbers
077990099087963021097591239107985868
you then add on a secret word
077990099087963021097591239107985868hullabaloo
now this is what you write in your will
"dear wife. my savings are locked into bitcoin using you, and our 3 kids SS numbers followed by the safe word we agreed on when having rough sex"
that way even the lawyers wont know it
It would just get awkward for your parents, if your wife died with you in a car accident and they have to figure out your safe word for rough sex.
Why not just keep this word with the institution that keeps your safe deposit box or your Will and testament? Once your will is read, the last word will be handed to the
beneficiaries or the key to your safe deposit box? Or have 4 questions with answers all 4 of them have, and if something happens to any of them, the remaining people
could still figure it out together.