If that is the case 90+% of socialists are not socialists.
Many people reject socialism in error: If they could forget the soviet propaganda of what socialism is all about, and the covergent fearsome propaganda of the ultracapitalists which agreed with stalins convenient definitions - then most people would probably be intensely relaxed about socialism.
Socialism could mean state control of industry, or it could mean pushing worker owned cooperatives. The latter is a libertarian-socialist position, the former requires a really healthy democracy in order to be valid and safe.
State socialism can exist without democracy, but will be pretty damn evil. Democracy without socialism is dangerous polar opposite. And only animals that live on both poles are what? penguins and polar bears, walruses and stuff like that?