Yeah you read the question correctly.
I got this taught while involved in discussion with some of my friend today, it was round of friends and we were practically catching up after some old memories in high school so discussion led to discussion and the issue of regretting to ever knowing how to gamble came up and believe me it was a very serious issue as one of my friend was practically blaming the other for the whole problem is currently going through right now as he constantly gambles his money away and at what avail? was the question being asked to the friend who actually inviting him to a gambling house during highschool. The matter looks childish at first because the whole table of friends there were all gamblers including myself but we all never reached the height of complaining or blaming someone for our gambling ethics.
So I was wondering if some folks here too feel the same way or it was just a matter of grudge and hatred for the particular fellow to stir up such arguement.
We tend to blame someone for our failures, this is our human nature. We always want to think that it is not us who are to blame for defeats, but someone else. The secret lies in the fact that as soon as we begin to understand that we ourselves are to blame for almost all the problems that arise in our lives, then life immediately becomes easier, and progress immediately occurs. Sometimes there may be very bad people around us, sometimes these are work colleagues, friends or even relatives. If we are unable to distinguish the good things from the bad that these people have to offer us, then problems may arise. People don't create weaknesses in us, they only discover them.
Totally a normal behavior of a human being on which we do really love on blaming out someone with the things that happen into ours on which we know that there's no other that should be blamed on but only yourself.
We are the ones who do make out such decision then it would really be just that normal that you would really be the ones who should really be blamed on whatever outcome do things that do happen.
For me then i dont really have any regrets about knowing gambling, it is really for leisure and it would really be just that normal that loses is there since you are staking up your money to make money
on which its a common approach that you would be having. Regrets do usually happen on the time that you are having that a huge problem towards gambling.
People do make out realizations when they are facing up tough situations or conditions on which you would really be having that kind of realizations when you are on trouble.
Regrets is there but if you dont really mean it and having that not good when it comes to self control then you would really be just that still coming back to gambling no matter what.
Most people start gambling for fun and to try to make money, but over time the fun fades away and the losses often exceed the earnings. At such moments, a person comes to an understanding of what is happening. And he either stops playing and leaves, or continues to do this further, getting deeper and deeper into a hole. I'm not talking about people who don't have a gambling problem and spend time gambling from time to time. I'm talking about those who have faced really big problems.
It is very good when a person understands that only he is to blame for everything and that no one should be blamed for this, but this does not always happen. We always want to find someone to blame for our loss, even if we understand that only we are to blame
The decision to enter the world of gambling is purely your own decision, we cannot blame other people for this. If we have a strong stance, I'm sure we can resist gambling. When I stay in Philippines, my two friends and I got into a casino and played slots and other gambling games, even though we lost money there, we also made a profit from playing slot machines. The point is that gambling is just for fun, don't make it your main choice to make money, if you want to make a lot of money, work at a job that can make a lot of money. If you continue like that then your friendship will be damaged.
Always use money that is actually ready to be spent or loss.
I agree. Friendships that involve gambling can be lost very quickly. This is a very bad foundation. The same applies to spouses. Where there is a place for gambling addiction or any other addiction, there will be no freedom, trust and reliability.
As for the fact that you need to use only money that you can afford to lose and forget about, there is probably no need to write about it. If a person uses money that is critical to him or borrows money, then this is a separate type of perversion on himself and probably on his loved ones
Gambling with friends isn't wrong or bad, but initiating a friend into the game without sharing valuable information to them on the critical aspect of gambling is a questionable behavior. Looking at the story, the addict is wrong for blaming his friend for introducing him to gambling, but his friend should help him or apologize for not opening up to him regarding the ill impact of addiction on gamblers, the moment he discovered he now gambles. However, the fault is on the addict, he should have focused more on becoming a good player, not just hoping on making money like his friends convinced that they did, in gambling.
However, the said addict is undergoing some serious trouble, and his stage of addiction is in a level where he blames people, whoever got him to gambling. That's the reason why most players tend to keep their gambling habit a secret, because they may get a person to think this way on the long run. Because, when discussing gambling in the midst of friends, one could be a non-gambler, and at the end of the conversation, he'd go home trying to gamble. Not knowing that he's not capable of being a gambler, if he's not prepared mentally, financially, and physically. Nobody or his friend whom he's blaming, wasn't there to tell him that gambling is fun. It's the addict's fault, completely, since he's an adult.
There is a reason why it is easier for a person to blame someone for his failures, be it a friend, brother or work colleague, it doesn’t matter. The thing is that when a person understands that the cause of all his failures, mistakes and defeats is only himself, then he has to take full responsibility for his defeats. I mean it's easier to blame someone than to accept full responsibility, correct mistakes and move forward. When an addicted person needs help, the first and most important step is to recognize the problem. As long as a person believes that he does not have a problem or that he encountered this through someone else’s fault, nothing in his life will change