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legendary
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I think that's a personal and an internal decision to make. Gambling is a vice, it
doesn't really matter if your a parent or not. To some being a parent signifies a
more mature approach on things, I've known gambler who gave up such activities
to support and focus on family life, gambling in some other ways are entertaining
and a lucrative activity. But the addictive part of it can produce unwanted and
sometimes unpredictable financial and relationship problems. However there are
other that are really good with time management and they can incorporate gambling
with their schedule. I think personally it is matter of personal choice and a bit of
moderation and control somewhere in there.
Gambling has a direct role associated with becoming a parent. When the person becomes a parent, he has to face some responsibilities with him which will be remaining with him till the last breadth of the person. Also the person who has become a parent would not play more than one or two gambling games in casino or at any other place on the world. It’s obvious that if the person has become a parent, he will automatically become mature.
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There would be a lot of factors concerning a parent who would have a kid, but in my opinion, it would be really life-to change. I don't have a child yet but thinking about it, my priorities would change, especially when you talk about your child and the schooling and necessities that you child needs would be the first one. There would be no time to gamble and in everything, the best part of life would be having a family, not gambling. 

As for your friend, I hope he does well with his child in the future. Probably be like close friends and gamble together. That would be fun.
Gambling may not be a hereditary trait of course.But if you want to make a model to your future sons and daughters,better to stop gambling anymore.So he did only the right thing.Parenting could be somehow difficult at first but i know it will be learned.Yes it's really a life-changing experience.Hard but fulfilling inside.
Not all parents gamble will rub off on their children, and if you are worried about it, you can educate it well from childhood to adulthood with positive or religious. controls for their activities so there is nothing negative and do not let your kids go wrong to socialize. and if you're still gambling, try keeping it a secret and do not let your child know it. it all depends on you and your child, and do not let that happen to your child and make your child useful for you and everyone for his life to be better than you

    It is all about how you do something! If you are sport bettor like I am, you enjoy in watching
games and bet on them than you will not have a problem with combining parenting and weekend
betting on sports. Only if you spend more money and time in casino rather than in your home you
will have many life problems.
    Becoming a parent changes every person, not just gamblers. That change is not really a change,
it is more about better understanding of the world around and setting up new priorities. Growing up
should make each of us more wiser, with getting a child is the same, that should make us wiser.
   Becoming a parent changed me, I think different now, wiser I would like to say, but my gambling
habits stayed the same. Becoming a parent did not changed me in a gambling way.
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There would be a lot of factors concerning a parent who would have a kid, but in my opinion, it would be really life-to change. I don't have a child yet but thinking about it, my priorities would change, especially when you talk about your child and the schooling and necessities that you child needs would be the first one. There would be no time to gamble and in everything, the best part of life would be having a family, not gambling. 

As for your friend, I hope he does well with his child in the future. Probably be like close friends and gamble together. That would be fun.
Gambling may not be a hereditary trait of course.But if you want to make a model to your future sons and daughters,better to stop gambling anymore.So he did only the right thing.Parenting could be somehow difficult at first but i know it will be learned.Yes it's really a life-changing experience.Hard but fulfilling inside.
Not all parents gamble will rub off on their children, and if you are worried about it, you can educate it well from childhood to adulthood with positive or religious. controls for their activities so there is nothing negative and do not let your kids go wrong to socialize. and if you're still gambling, try keeping it a secret and do not let your child know it. it all depends on you and your child, and do not let that happen to your child and make your child useful for you and everyone for his life to be better than you
legendary
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I think yes. Becoming a parent will make them more responsible for their life and they will save their money for their children instead of wasting them in some casinos. Being a parent is a good experience for all of us because it does not change our mindset but also our life
Precisely.But it's really hard to be a good parent somehow.The lifestyle we used to do while we're still single will just change in a sudden.And we should nothing to do with it but change for the better.Or else all your bad habits like gambling will be absorbed by your kids thinking that it will bring them good also.Kids are very keen observers so as a parent,we should be extra careful with what we have shown to them since we are considered models for them.

I think i agree with you guys because parenting comes with responsibility and so whoever be it the man or woman after becoming a parent tries to shun off some irresponsible attitudes which hitherto would have allowed and so i think in a way it will affect the gambling life of any gambler who becomes a parent.
Shit load of responsibilities bro. By the time you start thinking of all the expenses, the bills you have to foot, the children starting school all the way through till they get to their adulthood and capable of taking care of themselves, you will really be very careful of the way you just blow money into some insensible things most of the time and even if you want to gamble at all for the fun of it, you will still find a way to limit it.
These responsibilities are the best treatment for the gamblers. Beside this nothing can cure this gambling disease. When the gambler faces responsibilities of life, they give more time to their responsibilities which mostly include the responsibilities of family members and less time to gambling. There must be present some gamblers who after facing responsibilities become much more addicted to it.
Dealing with more responsibilities if being serious to take the charge will give your mindset to be diverted, if you truly love your wife and the fruit
of your love, you will be able to change the directions of your lifestyle, it will bring true manhood to you and for sure gambling is not the first option
but to find much stable and decent job.
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I think yes. Becoming a parent will make them more responsible for their life and they will save their money for their children instead of wasting them in some casinos. Being a parent is a good experience for all of us because it does not change our mindset but also our life
Precisely.But it's really hard to be a good parent somehow.The lifestyle we used to do while we're still single will just change in a sudden.And we should nothing to do with it but change for the better.Or else all your bad habits like gambling will be absorbed by your kids thinking that it will bring them good also.Kids are very keen observers so as a parent,we should be extra careful with what we have shown to them since we are considered models for them.

I think i agree with you guys because parenting comes with responsibility and so whoever be it the man or woman after becoming a parent tries to shun off some irresponsible attitudes which hitherto would have allowed and so i think in a way it will affect the gambling life of any gambler who becomes a parent.
Shit load of responsibilities bro. By the time you start thinking of all the expenses, the bills you have to foot, the children starting school all the way through till they get to their adulthood and capable of taking care of themselves, you will really be very careful of the way you just blow money into some insensible things most of the time and even if you want to gamble at all for the fun of it, you will still find a way to limit it.
These responsibilities are the best treatment for the gamblers. Beside this nothing can cure this gambling disease. When the gambler faces responsibilities of life, they give more time to their responsibilities which mostly include the responsibilities of family members and less time to gambling. There must be present some gamblers who after facing responsibilities become much more addicted to it.
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This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

Thats too harsh mate. The gamblers are humans after all. They deserve to lead a happy life - which is why we have places where addicted gamblers who are now above addiction provide help to others like any other peer group where such one-to-one interaction would take place.

Again it is true that not every gambler would want to change their ways. Most of them are happy the way things are going. If the wife takes care of everything then the husband would start being reckless. However its important as a human to intervene and try to help them out in case you witness such in real life.
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That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

then that guy is really needed help from other people. I think once we become parents, we need to take responsibility for our family especially for our child's and we need to think seriously about their future. at least, this is what I got from my parents and I have a friend which is a gambler in his past. after his marriage, he's been asked by his wife if he really needs to quit from gambling and drink alcohol and with trying hard, slow by slow and day by day, he's trying to move from his past and now he can make a new beginning with his family. once he told me that is not easy to leave something that we do for many years and we really need someone who will stand behind us and give a big support.

I agree and I do think being a gambler is a choice, you are able to choose between being addicted to it or know when to stop especially if you have a responsibility. And most especially if you have a family, that's one big responsibility you need to take being a parent. And I'm sure you know what are the consequences as a parent if you add being a gambler to your own household.
I think everything is a choice when you are faced with a decision especially if you have the power to do something about it. I think what's important is having the priority that you have of course for me, family is the first priority.
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That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

then that guy is really needed help from other people. I think once we become parents, we need to take responsibility for our family especially for our child's and we need to think seriously about their future. at least, this is what I got from my parents and I have a friend which is a gambler in his past. after his marriage, he's been asked by his wife if he really needs to quit from gambling and drink alcohol and with trying hard, slow by slow and day by day, he's trying to move from his past and now he can make a new beginning with his family. once he told me that is not easy to leave something that we do for many years and we really need someone who will stand behind us and give a big support.

I agree and I do think being a gambler is a choice, you are able to choose between being addicted to it or know when to stop especially if you have a responsibility. And most especially if you have a family, that's one big responsibility you need to take being a parent. And I'm sure you know what are the consequences as a parent if you add being a gambler to your own household.
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That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

then that guy is really needed help from other people. I think once we become parents, we need to take responsibility for our family especially for our child's and we need to think seriously about their future. at least, this is what I got from my parents and I have a friend which is a gambler in his past. after his marriage, he's been asked by his wife if he really needs to quit from gambling and drink alcohol and with trying hard, slow by slow and day by day, he's trying to move from his past and now he can make a new beginning with his family. once he told me that is not easy to leave something that we do for many years and we really need someone who will stand behind us and give a big support.
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That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.
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I commend you for not following you father's foot steps, you are a great example to the kids if they know that their grandfather was a drunkard but not their father. I do agree that every person, even your own flesh and blood, will have a different tendencies in getting addicted or not into whatever like gambling, drinking, or, worse, drugs. But the best thing for a parent would probably still be guidance.

I, for one, have tried drugs and I am not too proud of it and regret doing it. I was young and the peer pressure was hard, but when I did try it I did not get addicted and, believe it or not, I did not enjoy it. Probably thanks to the inner voice I hear. I hear my parents talking in my head telling me it is bad to take drugs. Well and good, I never did it again.
That is why I've said that not all kids will be influenced and won't be affected even they have gambling parents. It is base on my experience and drunkard is an addiction to alcoholic drinks and that can be compared the same way with addiction to gambling. You shouldn't be proud that you have taken drugs but you must be proud that you have changed and that's a different scenario in your case that you have those voices coming in your mind and that's the voice of your parents, we're getting far from the main topic here.

I guess there are a lot of temptations out here in the real world, but the good thing is that some or many be a lot of us has good parents that has guided us through the years to be prepared when they are not around. It is not always that we are guarded by our parents, and there would be a time that they will be gone forever, which makes me really sad but that is the reality in life. As a parent, I would say that the role of one is to hone your child to a point that even when you are away or gone, you can be at peace that your child can handle himself.

As for gambling as a parent, to get back in track, I would totally avoid it. It may not lead to your addiction or your child's but keeping them away from it would be best.
Temptations are everywhere and there are different aspects that are attracting us. Mate, I don't want to talk about the part that I bold. Let's talk about things that are not going to bring anyone of us into sadness. Back to the topic, I'm not yet a parent but when I become I'll live without regrets. There's nothing wrong if you will continue to gamble but don't let your kid see you that are you severe with it. And when the time comes if I'm about to those family or gambling, obviously I will leave gambling.
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I think that's a personal and an internal decision to make. Gambling is a vice, it
doesn't really matter if your a parent or not. To some being a parent signifies a
more mature approach on things, I've known gambler who gave up such activities
to support and focus on family life, gambling in some other ways are entertaining
and a lucrative activity. But the addictive part of it can produce unwanted and
sometimes unpredictable financial and relationship problems. However there are
other that are really good with time management and they can incorporate gambling
with their schedule. I think personally it is matter of personal choice and a bit of
moderation and control somewhere in there.
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This was the discussion topic we were having last night, a bunch of gambling friends and one of them an expecting dad. There were counter arguments that his child also would turn out a gambler like he is.

The arguments were that it is his in his gene and that'll pass on to his child, since every one in his family was a gambler.

The counter argument was that the child would make a logical decision and genes won't play any part in this.

Which brought us to another important question what if turns out a gambler would they both play together. Would he be comfortable?

Amid this he walked out and texted me he didn't wish to gamble anymore, so wanted your views on this.
Genes doesn’t run in the blood when we talk about gambling because gambling it is not a disease or insanity. It will always be depend on how we raise our child and the sorrounding that we allow them to see as they grow up. Well, if we let our child/children that gambling is like a normal thing and that there is no wrong about it. Then definitely our children will do the same. Always remember that the child’s brain is more smarter than us adults. So be a responsible parents if we want to raise a child that can make us proud.
That is exactly fine. Definitely this isn’t a disease that can be transferred from one person to another. While yes, if the father is gambling and his son knows that my father is just gambling and losing money every day. But someday if he is there in gambling, and father gets a win by chance. That was an addition to little money and now they got handsome money luckily, this child would be confident to gambling.
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In my experience yes because I became responsible and always prioritize the welfare of my family by buying what they need instead of spending the money in gambling. As a parent and a former addicted gambler I dont want my kids to commit the same mistakes, that's why I did my best to overcome this addiction and start over again.

Genes doesn’t run in the blood when we talk about gambling because gambling it is not a disease or insanity.
Agree its not hereditary like a disease however we can pass this habit to our kids if we show/expose them in gambling at an early age because they will think its right.
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This was the discussion topic we were having last night, a bunch of gambling friends and one of them an expecting dad. There were counter arguments that his child also would turn out a gambler like he is.

The arguments were that it is his in his gene and that'll pass on to his child, since every one in his family was a gambler.

The counter argument was that the child would make a logical decision and genes won't play any part in this.

Which brought us to another important question what if turns out a gambler would they both play together. Would he be comfortable?

Amid this he walked out and texted me he didn't wish to gamble anymore, so wanted your views on this.
Genes doesn’t run in the blood when we talk about gambling because gambling it is not a disease or insanity. It will always be depend on how we raise our child and the sorrounding that we allow them to see as they grow up. Well, if we let our child/children that gambling is like a normal thing and that there is no wrong about it. Then definitely our children will do the same. Always remember that the child’s brain is more smarter than us adults. So be a responsible parents if we want to raise a child that can make us proud.
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That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.
I think you can still do gambling when there are some invites from friends but not making it as a regular habit.Parenting should be your main priority and being a good provider to your family should be your focus now.Life changes the moment you become a parent,so make the best of it and treasure them as your own valuables.
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I commend you for not following you father's foot steps, you are a great example to the kids if they know that their grandfather was a drunkard but not their father. I do agree that every person, even your own flesh and blood, will have a different tendencies in getting addicted or not into whatever like gambling, drinking, or, worse, drugs. But the best thing for a parent would probably still be guidance.

I, for one, have tried drugs and I am not too proud of it and regret doing it. I was young and the peer pressure was hard, but when I did try it I did not get addicted and, believe it or not, I did not enjoy it. Probably thanks to the inner voice I hear. I hear my parents talking in my head telling me it is bad to take drugs. Well and good, I never did it again.
That is why I've said that not all kids will be influenced and won't be affected even they have gambling parents. It is base on my experience and drunkard is an addiction to alcoholic drinks and that can be compared the same way with addiction to gambling. You shouldn't be proud that you have taken drugs but you must be proud that you have changed and that's a different scenario in your case that you have those voices coming in your mind and that's the voice of your parents, we're getting far from the main topic here.

I guess there are a lot of temptations out here in the real world, but the good thing is that some or many be a lot of us has good parents that has guided us through the years to be prepared when they are not around. It is not always that we are guarded by our parents, and there would be a time that they will be gone forever, which makes me really sad but that is the reality in life. As a parent, I would say that the role of one is to hone your child to a point that even when you are away or gone, you can be at peace that your child can handle himself.

As for gambling as a parent, to get back in track, I would totally avoid it. It may not lead to your addiction or your child's but keeping them away from it would be best.
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That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.
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Not really. I have a cousin that does not have a job and even after having 4 kids, it does not still make him think that he needs to change and stop on what he's doing.
There are gamblers that can't give up their own hobby just because they became a parent. Even here in my place I've got some relatives who are not stopping in gambling even they have a bunch of kids to feed and to take care off. It all depends, they can still gamble but they have to be responsible and provide all the things that their kid/s needed.
I think if the first time that you had your kid there going to stop your hobby for a while but once you are back and probably your child is already capable of being independent it would come back. I agree with your statement that you can be still responsible as long as you are giving the kids what they really need especially in order to have their education.
You can stop for awhile so that you can focus taking care of your kid. If you're a hands on dad or mom then you have to sacrifice gambling for it. I think this isn't really an issue for those people that are starting to have kids. What matters is on how you are going to take care of that kid while it is growing. Are you going to allow him to know gambling and be like his dad/mom?
If God has blessed someone with such a gift as child, he must pay attention towards it. Parents are responsible for all the basic needs of a kid. That baby should be the top priority. But if someone still does not give up gambling, it is fine as far as he is taking care of his child. For such people, I have just one thing to say, they need to look around and see real beauties of life. Gambling cannot give as much fun or relief as a kid’s smile can.
Yeah, it is a high level of responsibility when you become a parent and it is a high level of gross irresponsibility for someone who does not care about that but still carelessly end up doing some crazy things, even if it does not have to do with gambling.

However, in this context, I believe a sensible parent who has been gambling carelessly before will have to start considering dropping or limiting some stuffs unless of course he is just a full blown addict which someone responsible will also get help, I believe.
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I commend you for not following you father's foot steps, you are a great example to the kids if they know that their grandfather was a drunkard but not their father. I do agree that every person, even your own flesh and blood, will have a different tendencies in getting addicted or not into whatever like gambling, drinking, or, worse, drugs. But the best thing for a parent would probably still be guidance.

I, for one, have tried drugs and I am not too proud of it and regret doing it. I was young and the peer pressure was hard, but when I did try it I did not get addicted and, believe it or not, I did not enjoy it. Probably thanks to the inner voice I hear. I hear my parents talking in my head telling me it is bad to take drugs. Well and good, I never did it again.
That is why I've said that not all kids will be influenced and won't be affected even they have gambling parents. It is base on my experience and drunkard is an addiction to alcoholic drinks and that can be compared the same way with addiction to gambling. You shouldn't be proud that you have taken drugs but you must be proud that you have changed and that's a different scenario in your case that you have those voices coming in your mind and that's the voice of your parents, we're getting far from the main topic here.
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