Topic: Does having children have an influence on gambling habits? - page 13. (Read 1964 times)

It is true that when someone has family responsibilities, their priorities shift and they must be more careful with their financial decisions. Gambling, which was formerly considered a fun hobby, now has more serious consequences.
It's evident that the risks are significantly larger when other people rely on your financial security. While some people regard gambling as a fun way to pass the time, it's a quite different prospect for someone who has to worry about paying bills and providing for their family.

As far as I can see, you don't read my messages 

Women must be so rare on this forum that many of you think you're answering to a man. Interesting 

even if I already have children, it will not have any influence on my gambling activities.
this means that even though I have family members such as children and a wife, I will not consider all of that as a heavy burden and indeed as a husband I have a big responsibility to provide support for my children and wife, but it is a ridiculous mindset if there is a gambler who gambles just because the pressure of responsibility from his family who have to provide for their children and consider gambling as a place to make money.
even though I gamble, currently I never have the slightest thought of gambling any time to earn extra money because I prefer to work in a company to earn a salary and give that money to support my family members.

as a married man, of course everything will change when you have children and the stress of your mind becomes heavier, you have to keep thinking about earning money to raise your child, but my advice to anyone is never to put hope in getting money from gambling and if you want to earn extra money, it's better to open own business and continue to work at another company.

What I recommend to OP is that when he has children he has a good financial situation first, because the expense is normal, from the moment you get your wife pregnant, from there your pocket begins to be emptied of a very Cruel mother , because I treat them, every month, every month, the exams, all that is money, well at least in my country it is like that, so that it is and has a good average attention because you have to pay for that, for the rest you can do whatever it takes to get free things for governments or aid, but it will never be the Same, and it is inevitable to have your Money pay for your clinic and guarantee the safety of your son and your wife, so if OP wants to have children, well, you are the best in the World ,  but you have to Affer them Everything, what are you going to change your game habit? Of course yes, Absolutely, that is a reality, you cannot be forced to think that you are going to take care of your child and then you are going to Play for hours or with the intensity that you do now, no, it did not Work like that.

In fact, from the first moment she gives Birth, Your Duty as a father is to help your wife, help your son and also work at the same time, because they do need to go to the doctor, take your wife to the doctor. , that is not something so Easy and all of that, as I Told you, translates into expense, also the diapers, metaqerna milk, vitamins, all of that must be Guaranteed , if she gives birth by cesarean section everything will be more difficult, for you, Because you have to say Goodbye to sleep, because you won't sleep, you will be on the day almost when you fall Asleep, you will only be able to sleep when the baby sleeps and every 3 hours you should help your wife so that the Baby can Breastfeed , in reality this is For Parents who are responsible, because there are many who ignore it and prefer their parents alone, even if you don't want that , then you must hire a 24/7 Nurse,  Always with your Wife and your baby, to take care of them all. Just if you see it that Way it's better, but that's still a big expense, so what about gaming habits? You Won't even have time to play, but you know, all that is nice, it's not ugly.

On the time that i have been married or on the time that i have decided to settle down with my loved ones then everything is really that changed. The things that you are getting involved with when you are still single
would definitely be left off behind and there's no way that you could be able to bring out on the time  that you would really be raising up with your own family.Lets put up for example about gambling,
on the time that you are a heavy gambler way back when you are still single, then on the time that you would be having a family then everything would changed up.
You cant really just that continue on what you are spending or doing because you do know that you do have that responsibility to bare off with.

You cant really just that proceed and continue on what you are doing because thats a sign of irresponsibility on the time that you would really be having those kind of
approach on things.Its not ideal on spending up unwisely on the time that you do have a family to raise up.

Yes. I'm absolutely devastated! Turns out casinos frown upon toddlers flinging sticky candy at slot machines. Who knew? Now I have to spend all my precious winnings on a babysitter. The struggle is real.


Yes, absolutely! The wife stashed away all my credit cards again. And my teenagers just realized college ain't cheap and started bugging me about saving up money and  guess that family trip to Tahiti will have to wait a few more years. . . or decades at this rate!  Oh well, that's life..  

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What's not easy? Just express your thoughts differently!

As far as I can see, you assume that men are in charge of managing the family budget. Obviously, you're not married yet... 

It's not easy to rephrase this question. I'll think about it ... (Sorry)

For someone with a family, especially one they financially support, gambling becomes a delicate act, like walking a tightrope. It requires a careful balance between responsible entertainment and fulfilling family obligations. When you become a family provider, your priorities shift. The needs of your loved ones take center stage, and responsible financial management becomes paramount. Gambling, once viewed as a casual activity, now requires careful consideration of its potential impact on the family's well-being.

Gambling, by its very nature, demands time. Whether it's online or at a physical location, the time spent engaging with it comes at the expense of other activities. Balancing this time commitment with family time is crucial. Neglecting family responsibilities for the sake of gambling can lead to strained relationships and a breakdown in communication. When resources become limited, like in a family setting, responsible budgeting takes precedence. Gambling should never become a drain on essential family expenses. Individuals need to assess their financial situation realistically and gamble with strictly limited funds that wouldn't jeopardize their family's basic needs and financial security.

Can you elaborate clearly on what you are trying to ask? Sorry if I'm too slow lol.

How does it go to manage the budget concerns when it comes to more men being involved in gambling?

As much as I want to understand the second question, the question doesn't have to do with gambling in general or anything about gambling habits.

I don't have children yet, and if I do have children, I will prioritize my responsibilities as a father, and if my finances support me, maybe I will set aside some of it to allocate my gambling capital.

Thank you for all your answers, it took me a long time to read them all. Now for a second question: it seems that more men than women play, could this have something to do with managing the family budget? Would mothers be more involved in managing the family budget?

PS: and I've seen the question passed around: I have two boys and I saw BTC at $800, but I considered then that it wasn't reasonable at the time.

Before you were a parent, your spending might have been like a pie chart with a big slice for hobbies like gambling. But when the little one arrives, that pie chart gets a whole lot more complex. New slices pop up for childcare, education, and all sorts of other stuff. Naturally, the "gambling" slice gets smaller, not because it's suddenly bad, but because other things become more important.

Being a parent also means being a role model, and nobody wants their kid to associate gambling with bad feelings or losing control. So, even if you enjoy it, it's important to do it responsibly and keep those negative emotions in check around the kiddos.

Different cultures also have different views on gambling. Some see it as a harmless way to unwind, while others might consider it a no-go. These cultural norms can definitely influence how parents see gambling, especially if they want to raise their kids within those values.

Ultimately, it's all about finding balance. Parenthood doesn't mean giving up everything you enjoy, but it does mean being mindful and making sure your hobbies, like gambling responsibly, don't come at the expense of your family's well-being.

I think this is the same ignorance that gamblers go into thinking that they can generate money in gambling.  Gambling is unpredictable, and the worst thing is to have a mindset that money can be generated from gambling. Gambling is always dangerous when you expect so much from gambling win . I will not advice one to see gambling as form generating money to depend on  because depending in gambling to make money can lead one in getting addicted and it is so dangerous to expect much from gambling as a source of income.  Gambling lifestyle like this has led many people into problem that .

I think it is better to get something else a hustle than thinking of taking gambling as a source of income,  gambling should be seen as a fun and not away to generate steady income because it is impossible to make money from gambling always.

Gambling is known to be an addictive activity where most of people spend huge amounts of money impulsively.

Now for a single person,  it can be bearable as the person who gambles is responsible on his own self and can manage the losses he receives sometimes. But for a person who is responsible on his family especially if he has kids it is risky to have gambling habits.

In my opinion, a gambler should always know how to stop and when to stop,  for a case like this when you get to the age of making a family you should be stable by then having enough money to provide for your family being away of anything that is risky.

In my opinion, the important rule is: only play with money you can afford to lose. It works for all scenarios, for example if you have a very young child and other children and you see that the bills are very tight, then in this scenario it is best that the person should do and stay away from gambling because paying bills is a priority, and If a person wants to play then they need to make an effort to earn more money to pay the bills and have more money left over to play. I always say that people shouldn't look at games as the only forms of fun that exist in the world, if a person doesn't have money to play, then that person can find other ways that are less expensive to have fun.

example of a person who has children because they spend more time having fun with their children, they can play video games, they can play cards with their wife, they can take their children to the beach, they can take their children to the animal park, these are cheap things that a person can do it to have fun, many people get depressed because they are not playing, they keep crying and complaining because they are not playing as if games were the only forms of fun that exist. I've even been wondering why people keep thinking that gambling is the only way to have fun? The only explanation I can see is that people know there are other forms of fun, but they want to gamble because they are dreaming of high profits

No one knows. There are even broken families because of gambling as a main reason.

 Sometimes, gambling habit becomes even worse too after having an own family. If it's just simple to change a person's too much addiction to gambling, we shouldn't see families today having gambling as one of the big problems they encounter in their everyday lives.

The change in gambling habits will depend on how serious and responsible the person is to change for good.

criminals turned to be responsible after having a family sounds better than that father who left his 2-year-old kid. i remember that thread. he won actually but too late, his neighbor already reported him to the authorities.

new parents i think yes will change his gambling behavior, he may even quit on the spot because he knows the hard part is yet to come. fathers think of the future and want to ensure their kids will have a better chance of getting success in life.

me for example, the only coins i gamble are the ones i also earn from staking. its all just extra and sometimes the free spins. 

Well, people change actually, and there is nothing like being an purely irresponsible person, the father who left his two year olds kids to go gambling did that on his own, it's his habit or character, and we can't because of that, conclude that people don't change from their old ways to being better when the need arises and they care.

I've seen hardcore criminals whom the world believed will never change, but surprisingly, they got married, had children, and the men completely changed for they of their children, like one confessed, he said he just wanted to be there for his boy, watch him grow into an adult and be there to correct him any time the boy tries to go the wrong way, since he himself have being there in all and have seen there is no benefits in such lifestyle.

Some parents who gambling have destroyed their lives, or have seen gambling destroy other people's live, destroy their homes and so on, and do not wish or want same to happen to their own family will definitely change, either by reducing the way the gamble, or stopping gambling completely, so as to be able to give his or her family the complete attention they deserve.

If you are a responsible father, I couldn't think we have to spend more money and time on gambling but rather give priority to our family and kids. If you are a heavy gambler before, that will really be changed.

I'm not in that kind of experience but I know how to control my gambling habits even though I have no big family yet. For the word responsible, it means a lot, and even though we only have 1 kid, I don't think we need to wait to compromise our finances before controlling our gambling habits. It was not a good idea nor we should have to experience that thing before we realized our wrong financial practices.

I think for a lot of people, children are the reality check that is needed for the individual to turn over a new leaf and become more responsible with his actions and habits.
Infants and young children require a great deal of care and attention and they’ve got a whole lot old needs that has to be provided. Someone irresponsible just cannot juggle between being a good parent and being at the casino gambling.
Read a thread way back about a father who was supposed to watch over the kids but still left them to go gamble.

If you’re purely an irresponsible individual, having kids won’t change anything.