Topic: Does having children have an influence on gambling habits? - page 10. (Read 1964 times)

When we have a family, in my opinion, we should focus more on our family relationships, even though we don't have children but if we are married, I think we should put aside our habits, especially habits like gambling that only allow us to lose money, because otherwise there may often be problems with family relationships because of unstable finances that are only spent on our gambling habits. Unless you can make consistent profits, but with gambling, there is no profit that can be obtained consistently. But maybe there are people who still prioritize their gambling habits even though they are married, but maybe there will be more frequent conflicts. That's the fear.

It's true what you said, if we still like to do gambling habits and we and we are at the point where we have to have a family or a habit then what will happen is most likely that we choose our habits, because I often find when families have problems they end up separating because they prioritize their own ego, that's what I often find including in my environment. Also what I'm afraid of in my opinion is that this habit can be passed on to our children later, it's terrible because it will damage their future.

When a new member is added to the family the financial aspect of the family changes and there will definitely be some changes in the person who conducts the family. Those who are regular gamblers try to reduce the family expenses and some money in gambling but when household expenses increase, they will be constrained to make that expenditure. Moreover, it is normal for every gambler to change their situation. I saw a friend of mine who was very active in gambling but since he got married he can't put much money in gambling even if he wanted to. He cites the increase his daily expense is the main reason. And when a new child is born in a family, the consumption rate will increase a lot. As a result the gambling habits of that person will definitely change.

It depends on individuals and how the aim at running they life's, sometimes I disagree with any views that make it sound as if responsibility should be a basis for gambling,  or gambling to make earns needs,  this is a wrong assumptions and as far as I know, gambling is far from that in reality and since gambling results are unpredictability that makes gambling out of choice for many of us.

And most of the times, wether a gambler have one kid or two, it doesn't really matter, and what you do is based on your personal convictions.

Surely taking care of a family is not an easy task and with a larger home, it becomes more difficult to do so you just have to cut down from gambling expenses. Moreover, gambling itself is not really profitable for total average of gamblers so most likely family people also lose their bet too .

It could lead to break in homes which will take more resources, time and apologies to come back especially if you have a wife who has warned the husband off it and he refused, she might take a drastic decision to leave the home and that will definitely affect the man or the children whose growing up will be full of pain and lack of parental control of either the father or mother depending on whose arm they eventually grew in.

We should not be selfish and be the only family member who enjoy gambling, that is why we should introduce it to kids I am joking

People here have strange vision on life. When children appear, then we must dedicate every single second, every single cent to the kid. Dont you think that it is way to much? For example I spend a lot of time with my family and specially with the kid. There was never "I am busy" for the kid from me. Family isnt starving. We are all well dressed. We travel a lot. We arent in need of money. So why should I then drop all my hobbies and activities? For me it seems, that many think, when kid is busy doing something on his own, parents must either work, or stand will and wait when the kid has free time. So that they can immediately do something together.

Of course my without that rare gambling habit has changed. I will never go all-in with my or family entire savings. But I would not do the same even without having a child.

When we have a small family, we have to let go of all the selfishness we have, including our enjoyment of gambling. I mean even though we can gamble very responsibly, we must prioritize our responsibilities to our family. If we are men, then we are the head of the family, and as a family we must set a good example. If we can fulfill all our family's needs, and we can guarantee that, then in my opinion it's okay to gamble. However, if we feel there is still something missing, then we should not do that.
Especially if we already have a child, our responsibilities will increase as a father, and we must be able to ensure we can meet all their needs. For me, gambling is an ego that we have to create pleasure. And we can suppress the ego that we have because there are responsibilities that must be prioritized. I believe we can do it if we are truly aware of the things we should prioritize in life. We can't always just do what we want, because there is something more important than that.

Having kids indeed changes one persons life, but not radically. Yes people do spend majority of time with kids and do things for sake of kids. However, they dont drop their hobbies or passion completely. They either reduce time they spend or put it on a pause. For example, before having kids I used to go to gym on regular basis, play video games, spent fun time with friends (parties, outdoor activities). When the kid was born, I put everything on a long pause. It was probably 5 years pause with gym, less parties. Now as kid get interested with video games (thanks to youtube and letsplays...), I play with him and have some of my own games. I havent dropped gambling. I never gambled frequently, never wanted to earn with nor spent a lot. It was just for entertainment. Btw, after having a kid, I have passed motorcycle driving exam, bought myself a motorcycle

I believe that once you have a family, it is necessary that you will focus more on them and their needs. If you know that your gambling habit will have a big impact on having your own family, you will come to the point where you will have to choose who you need to let go of, surely you will choose your vices, right? It's hard to do especially when you're used to it, but it doesn't mean that once you have a family you will immediately break your habit, you have to go through the right process to get rid of it more smoothly. I know others whose parents are addicted to gambling and that's when I saw the impact of what they do on their children. There are other children who imitate their parents, some of them do not have a good relationship to their parents and the worst is having a broken family because of the vices of the parents.

Actually for those who are not addicts it's actually much different when you have got children because you have to begin to make budget for every expenditure a d that Also includes entertainment of which gambling actually falls under but if you don't have a budget as this it will actually tell on your family and that alone can cause a whole lot of problem in the family between the wife and the husband.

The Children actually contribute to a different levels of responsibility so it's very important you begin to watch your expenses and when it comes to gambling, in other to have some more you will always be able to fall back to whenever you loose, you will ha e to reduce your staking power and in some cases reduce how many bet slips you take a day because all these also contributes to the amount of funds you will be spending on the bets at the end of the day, and then the number of kids too will aswell have its own influence on how much you will spend gambling too.

Sometimes you may even have to cut down on how often you gamble aswell that's if you really prioritize the welfare of the family and like I stated earlier for those who are yet to b addicted but for the addicts it may even be a trigger to why they will even gamble recklessly because they would say they want to win big so they will be able to meet up with the bills of the family but then it turns around against them in the Long run.

As you get involved in the upbringing of a family you lose time to the family and have less free time for your vices and hence they are no longer attractive. This is perpetuated if both parents are involved, if only one is involved, the other will continue their older lifestyle like usual.

Eventually their addiction will relapse but this can be a good impetus to control it and if effectively done can end the addiction for ever.

Still for some it is tough and it will be difficult for them to balance both eventually leading to dysfunctional families.

There's got to be some other explanation as to why having a children doesn't have an influence on your gambling habit besides being an irresponsible parent and that you don't deserve to be one in the first place, but to answer your question, it definitely affects you, there's no way that it doesn't, that's another individual right there and it's growing for you there, you need to be the adult in the household and make sure that their needs are being met first before anything else, being a parent means you'll have to stop being so selfish and start thinking about other people, that's the only way out in this situation, you can still gamble but there's a voice at the back of your mind that will constantly remind you that the money that you've put in could've been put to something that would benefit the kid or the children.

This is actually true on which these are the ff: i'd totally stop when i have already a family.

1. Smoking
2. Gambling
3. Dota2
4. Motorcycle touring

There are really indeed things that you would really be that leaving just for the sake of your own family.
Priorities and interest are indeed that would be stopped since you are already that having other important matters which it is really just that right.
Habits that cost up money or something that ads on up expense should really be stopped.

Somehow our responsibilities will change our decisions toward how we deal something especially on other past activities we do especially that it involves financial matters. For sure gambling will be less priority since we would provably take care first the basic necessity if we are just earning enough money and don't have any amount left for other extra curricular activities. Family is more important than anything else and that sign of maturity but for sure a gambler will always be a gambler and they do this activity when they have extra funds and seeking some short time fun while they don't have anything else to do.

On the time that you do have your own family then this is the moment you would really be that ending up on being mature on which those things that you are fond off when you are still that single
will definitely be changed up or would be left behind and wont really be coming back since you do have that kind of priority or you would really be giving out that kind of importance
and its just understandable that family is more important before anything else but just like on what those things mentioned above that there are some foolish parents
do make priority with their gambling activity than with their family.

I have kids, and obviously they do affect it. They should affect it if you are a mature and responsible parent. Because you are not thinking about just yourself, and there are just some things that you can't take too much risks off, and raising kids is on the top of the list of any responsible parent.

I sometimes can't gamble when i want, but that's a low price to pay as more then anything i want that i afford to take care of my kids. So gambling usually isn't an issue because when you have kids, your priorities will change a LOT. Not only with gambling. I would stay away from gambling completely if i had a severe gambling problem and kids. Just like i would stay away from the booze if i was an alcoholic and had kids.

It's actually now sounds funny to me that people need to ask something like this, but i can remember the time when i didn't have kids. And i remember wondering similar things, and what priorities i would have to have. But i really didn't know how major and complete that shift of priorities was. But i guarantee you, things like this become obvious soon after kids are born or before it. Or your partner will explain how essential budgeting is going to be from that on.

And again. If you don't have gambling problem, you can still gamble. Just with fraction of the budget you used to, because you are not the only one winning or losing anymore.

It depends from parents. Remember the case when father has left two 2yo kids and went gambling? For him, children definitely made zero influence on a habit. For me, the kid has changed only my attitude to money. I have realized that I have to earn more. So I have found a better job, that allows me to spend a lot on a kid, and not to limit myself in money. I still do stupid things (like riding a motorcycle, or bungie jumping or something extreme), I still buy myself expensive toys. I still gamble. But my gambling was never about money.

Having children makes you more mature (usually, but not always as some people remain stupid and childish).
In my case, I had no problem managing my money before having a child. I used to be financially responsible since I was very young because my parents divorced and I lived with my mother so I had to help her a lot with chores. That taught me a lot about paying my bills, managing money and all that, but I started to be even more responsible when my baby was born. You grow from counting yourself into counting a whole family when you plan for future. It also affects your gambling as that little voice in the back of your head is telling you that there's this or that to buy, a baby seat for your car

If I were in a position of having responsibilities towards a family, with an unstable financial condition I would choose to stop gambling temporarily. The purpose of gambling is purely to have fun, so don't sacrifice other family pleasures. Being a responsible person is cool, and even in gambling we must have that attitude to manage risk. Why have a family if in the end we prioritize games, which will not necessarily make us profitable. Stop for a while and look for a stable income, when it is established then in my opinion there is no harm in trying again. But it all really depends on one principles, one priority scale certainly varies. However, I am quite sure that most people would think the same as me if faced with a financial crisis.

Budget would be everything and something that you should really be minding on.Just like on what most people been pointing out on this thread that you should be stopping on doing gambling when you do already have a family which i do somewhat disagree because you could really still be able to play as long you do make yourself that minding about your budget without compromising your family budget then i would
say that it is really just that still fine for you to be able play gambling but of course you would really be needing to lessen up your dealing up with it because once you do find yourself that still doing excessive
then this is where things should really be started to changed up on the time that you do already have a family. This isnt really just that affecting on gambling also in other things as well.
Just like on what been said above on some users that i do agree with those things that once you do have a family then priorities and responsibilities will really be there.
You cant just ignore the fact that you would be needing to make it first in your priority rather than on putting up some focus into other activities specially if its really that spending up tons of money.

Even as a gambler you must gamble the way your budget won't be affected, when your budget is affected your families will suffer. If you are a gambler without any responsibility then spending 70% from your salary every month because you are alone and no responsibility, then when you have a responsibility you should limit your weger on gambling. Gamble is kind of something that's not meant to be taken with seriousness, the more you gamble I also believed that the more you get addicted. IMO when you lose more than you can afford to risk with rate of your responsibility you won he happy because when you use those money for family things it might go a long way for you an hour families. You don't have to lose everything you have before you learn to gamble carefully.