Topic: Have you ever argued with a friend about a bet that wasn’t honored? - page 3. (Read 381 times)

I don't know how people would define friends with each other but a snack or more, even if that bet we won, we don't need to force someone to fulfill the previous bet promise, it's self-awareness. If our friend is not self-aware or really forgetful, that is also normal, there is no need to calculate small things because once we put too much emphasis on these issues, relationship problems will appear many cracks, that is why I think people should limit intervention and bring money into the relationship, it is easy to increase conflict.

not really because most of my friends don't bet neither like betting
though I can see this happening
must be really frustrating when a bet is not honored, a situation full of anger.

how often do you think it happens?

I don't know for others but I'll speak about myself and my experience as well. Just like you, I also had a friend that whenever the football club o support is playing against his favorite club or maybe a supposed strong club, we'll always bet against each as he'll pick the history club or my club's opposing team and we also do the reverse when his favorite club is playing. Now, because we don't want our betting against each other to affect our friendship or ruin our relationship, we do stake with affordable amount of money that'll not be too big for us lose to each other. We do banter after these games like friends but every banter that comes with the results of the games ends with the games as we still maintain our bond as friends. So my advise is if you have a friend who's not mentally and emotionally matured enough not to allow betting against each other to cause any kind of conflict between the both of you, you should desist from betting against each other so you can still maintain friendship with him

I will ask my money, even it's as small as $1, if they didn't want to give it, I will choose to cut off my relationship with them since they didn't respect me. Why should someone make a bet if they don't want to lose? it's really like a joke. This kind of friends is only want to advantage over other people, I will avoid this kind people because they're toxic. I don't have time to argue or convince them to pay my winnings, but they will not be my friends anymore.

No need to be ashamed, this is just a snack bet you won't spend much money, maybe your friend hates Real Madrid so he chooses Lille as his bet even though this is just a bet for fun with friends.

If your situation is that you bet a large amount and your friend forgets, maybe you won't talk about it until he realizes, but what is held is a promise before the deal starts, then what is more worrying is that you don't pay because of the large amount.

I've never bet like that with a friend, and in my opinion this is just a trivial thing, you just need to remind your friend and if he refuses it could be because your friend doesn't think it's serious, and friendships shouldn't be damaged because of things like this, gambling with friends should be just for fun.

Well, yes, but way back when I was young and with similar things. Like one gamble that you invited to a dinner for all your friends if x team won, the team won, and then play dumb. It was a time when none of us had a lot of money, still living with our parents, so these things are a bit within the normality, someone in a moment of exhilaration will go out of his mouth but when he sees that he would have to pay he sees that he can't or it would be very difficult for him.

Nowadays if I bet it will be seriously and only with someone I know will pay me or in casinos.

Just remind him that he lose on your discussed bet then see his response. If you see him didn't pay attention on your claims towards your bet made then this a red flag for that person also this mean that you cannot trust him with certain amount of money since it change his attitude.

There's really such person don't have plans to honor those things they say and they just like everything will be in favor with them. So If your so called friend will not honor your bet made and say that he was just joking then you will get an idea that next time you should not deal with this person. Also provably avoid any future financial deals with these person since there's huge risk that he will do unimaginable things that can possibly disappoint you.

There's nothing wrong with reminding him, but do it in a nice way. Maybe your friend doesn't have enough money to pay for the snacks, or maybe he did not take the offer seriously, If you are really friends with each other, you will not mind telling him, and your friend will not be offended.
Friends should not argue on this matter; it looked like a friendly bet, so remind him in a way that he will not be offended, It never happened before, but if ever this happens, this will be my approach, So far, all my friends honor their bets to other people and their friends and relatives.

To bad you already see his true color for small amount of money and that indicate that you cannot trust him. Much better to avoid any future deal with that guy since you know what will happen especially with more bigger amount.

But just give a benefit of the doubt first and make him remember on your past deal. If he will not honor it then that means that person is not trusted and will avoid them. What he did is already a disrespectful act towards you since if he really aim to have good relationship with you then he would never do those things and honor everything you deal with.

Also for what I see their he's not really your friend. He just know you and for sure that he will take advantage your kindness when there's opportunity to attack.

If I bet with my friends and I win the match but she forgets to buy food, I consider that will be okay because I don't force her to buy me something. We don't have to thinks serious with that because they are our friends. We do that for fun so we should accepts whatever they do and we don't have to feels sad if they don't buy something to the winner.

That is a small matter that we should not take too serious. I never bet with big amount of money or big prizes because I know my friends. They will not take it serious as before and that will be a joke only.

You should have reminded him because a friend, if he is really a friend to you, will honor his word, and by ignoring and forgetting your agreement; it just shows he has no respect for your friendship, It happened to me before, but my friend is the kind of guy who easily forgets everything, but when I remind him about my winning, he easily obliges to treat me as what was agreed upon. He even thanked me for reminding him because he will be worried if I think that he disrespected me for not honoring our agreement.

Friends should honor their agreement because its a sign of respect for your friendship and a way to prove that you are an honorable man, If you cannot keep your words to your friend, what more to strangers.

Well keeping to the agreement would have been better, situations like this needs a third party that would seal the agreement deal which enables each of you to put your own part of the deal so when the winner turns up, the deal for the bet is giving to the person that won that ways it's fun but I think you felt pity for him to even bring up the issues to him after the game was over and that shows a sign of true friendship but if in turn you were in such position to have lost to him would he have done the same and let you walk freely. So it's a normal Case to have such quarells with a friend but the understanding matters,tho I walk away from having to do with anything arguments.

That was funny, though. I really understand. Sometimes, if it's even something small like a snack, you feel embarrassed bringing them. Even if part of the deal. I had moments like that with friends. We would place little bets on small things and, whenever they forgot, I just simply ignored it, but you're right because when the money is big, like real money, it can really complicate friendships. If someone is impatient with negotiations.

Luckily, I didn't make any special bets. And it creates problems for my friends, but I can see how it can be tricky if there's a lot of money involved. It is always a good idea to keep it simple and fun when betting with friends to avoid any problems or problems that may arise down the road. Have you thought about sending it randomly next time? Is it to be a joke or something?


Having someone confident in taking money from the worst bets can really prevent misunderstandings and make sure everyone takes their bets more seriously. I like the idea of ​​a "down payment" rule that increases the level of effort. Especially when money is involved. In order not to create a mess later.

You're right that sometimes the difference between a free bet and a bad bet can be blurred. Especially between friends, in my case it was just for fun. And I'm not too worried about it. But if I do more myself Maybe it would help to make sure we were both on the same page from the start.

However, when it comes to money I agree that placing the pot upfront is the best way to keep things fair and no one feels cheated. He avoided embarrassment later. And both sides knew what was going to happen. I will definitely keep this in mind for future pairings!



I completely agree with you. Whether it's a bad bet or just luck. There is still some respect. Even though the numbers are small But there is an unspoken code that makes betting fun. And part of that is tracking. Especially when everyone is on the same page. as you said If you're not serious Sometimes it's a good idea to let it go. But only when it comes to high quality or everyone putting in a lot of effort. It's important to make sure everyone endures their end.

Sure, the best hope for the worst bets is escrow or a trusted third party, since it upholds accountability and guarantees better results. It prevents much of the misunderstanding or embarrassment later on. I think it's worth it. Small, big bets; it's all about everyone up front knowing how awful it is. And since that's obvious The size of the bet is terribly obvious.

If he agreed to the bet between you too then your friend has no honor, I could be wrong as some friends pretend as if they can afford something but they really can't, next time you need a third person, when you bring up the bet discussion make sure you both drop the money for Snacks after the game ends to the third person, so that similar situation won't happen again.

We are all human, some people just don't know how to keep their promises, you bring it up it turned into something else, I like that you decide not to say anything, atleast you know who your friend is on this part, you can be able to predict him next time.

I don't and won't do such deal with friends, unless I am sure that he or she is someone who takes honor very seriously, like I've said before, always carry someone else along, to be the escrow between you two.

This is certainly not a serious bet, had it been it was serious, little or big, it has to be honoured. Even the unserious settings have class, there are some that the other party will make sure it is honoured, that's the beauty of betting, it is either you have the nerves for it or you don't dare it. I've won enough betting with friends and family that they didn't honour and I didn't bother, and the same with me too, some people I'd won me that we just let it go. But if it is serious, the parties involved must find a way to make the loser accountable, this is why the escrow is good or you give the winning to another person the two of you can trust. By this, no one can take the bet lightly anymore.

In those cases, you will need to use the rule "money down". Then, someone trusted will handle the money until the match is over. That's what we do.
Sometimes the problem is how serious the bet will be. Friends could sometimes just joke around while the other takes it seriously.
What you did is an example of it. For him, it could be a "just for fun" thing but for you, it was a serious bet. You should've told him how serious you are about the bet and maybe the result will be different. Try asking him politely about your bet and maybe he will pay up.

Now when money is involved it should be a different case. You will both need to put the money in a pot so that you can also be sure that you will reap the rewards when you win because the money is already there.

I do such kind of bets with my buddies more than often but our arrangements are opposite to yours - those who win will pay drinks snacks and so on to celebrate their win, Seems strange arrangements at first  , however my  winning friends were always comfortable   with them and never refused to pay for me and others who lost the bet because they value the spirit of comradeship between us.  

It is just a snark. But the friend can ask him but he should not be serious about it. It is nothing. That also does not mean his friend can not be trusted. He may just not think his friend can think up to that extent because he may not even see it as a bet. Just like I have said before, if you bet with someone and there is no mediator and both of you does not give the mediator money to bet, that is not a bet.

You would be surprised how little things will cause argument between two close friends when it has to do with betting, there are so many cases of people getting into arguments and then even escalating more and some of them are exact same little cases like you said it is. For me what you would have done is to actually honor the deal so that there won't be chances of any excuse when next you gamble cause this is same as gambling.