Topic: How close are you to your father? (Read 398 times)

This two can only be balance depending on the kind of work a father is doing, there are some work that when you leave in the morning your coming back home is in the evening and most of this company don't work on Sundays and if you are in this type of company work you can spend some time with your children every Sundays but I don't think it's necessary to be staying with your children often when you have to provide for their needs but people who do this kinda of work can balance it partially. That's why it is good to be self employed because you decide when to work, time to work and what to work.

Omo I no grow up with father love o, no be say e don die o but e no dey with us, so I no dey close with my father, which is very very bad, assuming say I dey close to my father, e get some kind things wey I for learn from am but my mother dey always tell me say my father no dey carry me play based on say na me the first child, say e dey always pamper me, say e no dey gree mk my leg touch for ground, say anything wey I need say e dey mk sure say I get am but as I come grow reach as I reach like this, e no dey close to us because of separation and na why dem talk say divorce no good because na the children e go dey affect because assuming my father dey close to me, e for the advise me for the some kind things I been do for life, some kind mistakes wey i make but nothing spoil sha, dey say experience is the best teacher.

Good morning all ,this is a nice topic discussion
When I grow up with my dad as his only son ,he train me to be his friend and one and only,I see him as a brother ,friend, father,I see my daddy as everything in this world to me ,my dad tell me everything about him likewise me he knows what I like and the one I don't like ,I tell him about my  girlfriend if we have issues my dad already knows my fault,the bond I have with my dad can never be broken,am his eyes he doesn't want anything to happen to me,am so close to him ,even we debate together my dad make me to read burning grass, African night of entertainment and things fall apart
After reading this book when I was in school when I came back home .

Me and my daddy dey fire each other questions,if he fails the question I laughed him ,and he will tell me is been long he read it ,then I will tell him the correct answer he will say yes am correct, people jealous the way me and my dad do ,infact is extract ordinary,in all I thankGod for the kind of Father he has given to me no matter what ,he is the best ,when I was growing up he doesn't care if am the only son he caution he beat when nessacery,he is the best same hands he train me we be same hands I will train my kids ,I love my daddy.

To be honest, my father, even with all his work and all was always around for his children. He wasn't the type to travel for a long time or stay too late at work. He was a business man which made it easier for him to be around us. But growing up, I wasn't the emotional type to want to cling unto anybody. So, I still ended up not having any sort of bond with any of my parents infact.

As for being a good parent to my kids, I will still end up raising a family just the same way I was raised.

A family without children is not complete and there will be no happiness in that family. The matter the parents get money for the family dem no go happy if dem no get children. And even though you have children if you did not treat them well they will not come close to you and instead they would come close their mother more than the father. And in the whole world if you hear and Listen or see, children who love their mother are more than the ones that love their father.

Well we all know shey dis topic na one of di Ogbonge off Topics for we local board but we just dey use dey old body so support our discussion dey go. Make pipo no think am too much.

You are correct any family without kids is not a complete family yet because they wouldn't know what's there to train up children because of their work and some of their children would could lack home training and some morals principles. Whenever you meet such family's it's very easily to be identified if you watch careful and of course when the man of the family or woman of the family is being brought up and raised carefully you would see the difference between those families that is lacking home training.

Hence we should endeavor to take care of our family and also help our wife at home to help train our children most times the influence of the father alone makes their children to behave responsibly why because they wouldn't want in a way where their father will start shouting at them.

I rather not prefer the working class parents. There is this parental distance that start when you send your children to boarding school. Normally there are advantages of disadvantages of boarding school but ill point out a few disadvantages that has to do with family not being close to another. My very close friend started boarding school at the age of 8 and from there he go admission to the university that is where we met. Because of all these long distances he has no bond with his family like that family love and all that. He can stay two to three months without calling his dad or mom. And this was how all of them in their family were brought up. Currently now no one cares or checkup on each other, hes father has realized and is trying to pull the family back but to no avail because they are already used to that live. They cannot miss home or remember home because they have been far from it in the past.

The most successful family in the Earth needs the children as well because the division of labour will be circulating to everyone and everyone would bring things to the house. And that is why a success of any family must be plan base on the family trees. The man been the head of the family has to direct the rest people to achieve their potentials. And that is why a family without children is always not really a happy family. And children are trained from the childhood by the parents and when they grow up, they would not deviate from the family norms.

And these days working class parents hardly have time for their children and that make some of them to put their children in the boarding schools so that they would have time to work.

As una dy so, life na only one e dy so and e go better say make we make use of d time we get to spend with that person wey we love, make I use our papa as example as d tori b.
No matter how e b, make we show love and care because if we lose our father that closeness no go dy again, even if we quarrel make we try come and comot that quarrel quarrel face and put smiling face.
Our papa dy try and if them use work matter as wetin make them no dy close to us, at least make we no repeat am with our children. Me wey no see my papa again and I just go burial on Thursday I go try to use him mistake on us to learn lesson.

When I been dey small I no dey close to my father, since na army man him be and him hardly dey dey house we dey see am once a while when him return from outside work but like this him don join him ancestors... Na my mother I dey close to pass when him been still dey alive and as the first son for the family... Na me come be father like this so.

Fatherly care and support is not just providing money up keeps for children, doing this alone is not enough for the child. Their are lessons every father needs to give every child,  the mother can't play the role of the father. Sometimes just the presence of the father is just enough for the child to learn many things. Fathers needs to learn how to make themselves available to their children,  I know it might not be easy for them due to the kind of the work they involve themselves with, staying away from kids as father can really affect children up bringing and the bond between the father and child won't be a good one.

I love this topic that says how close are you to your father?

Well I am going to tell you a little story about my closeness with my father..i have a very good and close relationship with My father more than my mother, I could remember back then when after cooking in my mother 's kitchen I will take mine and my father's food together to my father 's  room and both of us eat together and I have be doing that for a very long time, to the extent that I and my father sleep in the same bed and my father love me so much..

Even when my father is going for a meeting I must go with him in every where he goes, some times I will not be aware that there's a meeting somewhere, and I may have gone out to play with my fellow children and immediately he has finish preparing himself he will come me to come and get myself prepared that we are going somewhere and I will hurry up and do that and he will give me his hand bag, this is an elderly people 's hand bag not all this one you are seeing now oooh and I will hold the bag and whatever they share at the villages square where the meeting was held we will always put ours in our bag and take little bit of it..

So my relationship with my father is very very nice and lovely, I feel very bad the day he left me in this world..

Sadly. I had no relationship with my father till he passed away and that's one of my main regrets in life but this wasn't my fault. I will have to get a bond with my children

I don’t know about others but for me ,am very close to my dad ,the bound started right from the day I was born,according to my Mum she said I was born at the time when my father’s grandfather died .and for some reason my father and his grandfather was always having a fight not a serious fight tho .so he promised him that he was going to come back through one of his son ,and when turned out to look like him 😂e funny abi ,cus me self no believe am😂😂so that was how I became my dead’s favorite.Omo you sha no touch me say na beat you won beat me cus my dad will definitely come for you .that one no mean say him no Dey put am for my body when I mess up  .my siblings at some points became jealous so my dad tried as much as possible to balance things up.it got to a point where  my siblings will have to go through me to get something from my dad .

I literally tell my dad everything.the worst of it all is that I can’t even stay a week without seeing or hearing from him .it sounds funny right.I know that woman are usually closer to there dad and men are always close to the Mum but my case is different.my and my Mum na soap and eye😂we are also having a fight .but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t love me as much as my dad .

Father is the most important thing for a family in every part of the world. We can Dey that it is God's gift because a person who does not have a father understands how difficult the world is. We can say that a father is like a banyan tree that overshadows its child as long as it lives in the world. Running a family requires a lot of money and food, which only the father works hard too provide for his children. A family only depends on the father too move forward, father's role is essential in every country in the world. From childhood, we grew up only with the love of our parents, they never let us suffer but they themselves worked hard too keep us happy. When we were children, father worked very hard for us and gave us everything, including food. That's why we should keep parents happy now, and we earn hard-earned money too spend it on family. And just as our father raised us and worked hard, we should raise our children when we become fathers.

Father is blessing of god. My father is a good person and from his position he always try to complete my every demand and needs. But im not close to my father. I see my friends the told their father what they do what they want. But i can't. Beacose may father is a angery person and what he say I've to do the work and he don't care what I say. That's create distance between me and my father. Sometime I feel sad when I see others fathers who are closest to their children. But what to do it's my luck.

Truthfully, alot of father's have made certain mistakes when it comes to their child's  upbringing and care, not because they want to be that way, but because they do not know any better. If most of them, talking about the present father's, can trace the mistakes their fathers made and try adjust themselves, things could possibly turn out differently .

Family is one of the most valued asset of a man but yet the most difficult thing to manage or control in a man's life. There are a lot of energy to be put into the standardization of a family. For the kind situation wey we dey inside now for this country, e difficult make you have that time wey you for dedicate for your family as much because na for the same 24 hours you dey go work come dey follow am with other side hustles.

An average civil servant working in Abuja is probably collecting 250k monthly for workplace and him house rent reach 2.5 million naira yearly which means that even if him dey gather him salary keep and hin no touch am, e no go pay am for 10 months as other service charges dey join.

Now that person dey among people wey get small privilege somehow for Abuja. Alas, the person have no choice than to share his house rent with another friend or colleague at the office making it practically impossible to bring his family because if he does, where will dey stay?

Another thing is that he will need to pay other bills like house utility bills and transportation as well as other miscellaneous expenses. Imagine if that person intend to bring his family into the apartment, how does he feed them and pay their school fees too as a father. In the end, he has no choice than to leave them behind and go out to the world to fend for the family.

I think the abovementioned is just one single reason amongst many other why people do not have time for their families because the time which their income source takes or consume from them is way beyond that which gives them the ample time or opportunity to take good care of the family through quality time.

Me and my father dey close well well we dey like 9 and 10... E reach were be say if my father won commot for house e go tell me were e dey go as if say I been e wife way e marry keep for Hux.. Na later I con no say all the like way e too like me and on how me I like am too na say I be the only son of the house before e con born e last born way con be boy e still dey show me the love and among my father and my mother na my father I love pass as every pikin dey say na their mother them like pass me i dey tell them say na my father because if any small thing just do me na him the thing dey affect pass my mother na e make I choose to love my father. And the thing way dey sweet me pass na say e no take me like e son we dey behave like two brothers. I too like that man way God carry give me as my father.

Family are not meant for one alone be it woman or man the family needs the both parties to be able have a successful home any family that is lacking one parents almost lack everything because you would see them misbehaving especially the girls when they noticed their father aren't there they feels like they have all access to do whatever they wanted, somehow the boys are more cultured due to the presence of their mother but the girls don't care about what their would say.

That is why today as a man of the house no matter how tight you are at work place endeavors to come at least twice a month to seat and meet with your family to spend quality time with them so that none would go astray due to bad influence from friends and relatives it's important that your kids feels your impact to the family than spacing them due to work nature.