Topic: How do you make friends after college? (Read 1108 times)

I normally made friends just by chatting with co-workers, and then if we get along, we chat more often, and then it turns into hanging out after work and exchanging cellphone numbers. I think you need to find people you have a common interest with and start from that. I think the reason why you don't have co-worker friends is that they have other more important responsibilities like having a family to take care of, so hanging out after work is not even on their minds. That is understandable, so I guess you should try to just randomly be friendly with strangers when you go out, like if you go to a bar or even the supermarket, make an effort to initiate small talk with strangers. Who knows, they eventually may become your friend later on.

You don´t.
Friends are just in the way on your way to glory.
Stab the fuckers in the back, steal their BTC and move forward 

It's definitely tough to make new friends that aren't a part of your current social circle. It's even tougher if you tend to always go out with your girlfriend.

I find that it's been easier when I lived in large apartment buildings. If you're into any sport or sports, just go to a sports bar/restaurant during game day. Beyond that, meetup.com and even Facebook can help...

But yeah, it's tough!

Exactly! Fine somebody that has the same interest as you, then go see a movie.

I made a lot of friends through gaming. Just play any coop or RPG game, after few months of siting together on teamspeak we knew each other quite well and organized meetups. Easiest way to make a friend is to have something in common to talk about, like someone suggested be a gym member, have a dog, have a kid, whatever.

well that's understandable, since people getting too dangerous, you know what I mean,  like not innocent anymore. people could just use our friendship and take advantage of that
making friends  probably just go outside and start talking to people.

So you were the one increased the Friendship Hash Rate at that end of bar rackin' up your tab, thus making it more difficult for us common folk to score. You Bastard!

That book recommends the exact opposite of what you are trying to do. I think one of the chapters talk about being GENUINELY interested in someone... don't try to fake interest or conversation, it will eventually show and no one likes people who do that. If I'm not interested in finding out something about someone I won't ask for the sake of small talk. I ask things when I am genuinely curious, this makes me a better listener and more engaged in the conversation. I do this with girls too, I don't care what they are thinking about me, I ask them things that I genuinely want to know... when people worry about what to say next or try to plan a conversation to avoid moments of silence, that's where they go wrong. You gotta talk about what YOU want to talk about. When you want someone to like you talk about things that they enjoy talking about as well.

Sorry I just had to say something since you mentioned that book and you are trying to do the opposite of what the book suggests.


OP-- maintain a good relationship with a close group of 3-4 people form college, that's really all you need. A few close friends are a lot better than many acquaintances. I agree, it's much harder to make new friends after college, but it's still not that hard if you try. Go out with your current friends on the weekends and have some fun. Don't worry too much about making a new friend every time, just put yourself out there and have fun, try to be social and approach people and you might find someone who interests you. Go on meetups and networking events that you are interested in. If you talk to someone interesting, suggest another event or plan another time to hang out.



Gym is not really a good place to meet people imo. I've been going for 2 years and I see lots of familiar faces who consistently go as well. Some of them seem cool but I have no interest in approaching them, because I'm focused on doing my routine and I would find it annoying to engage in a conversation too. There are some super fine girls in the gym though, I wish I did something about that but I am too chicken...  




PS- do you live in Atlanta or Dallas by any chance? If you do maybe we can be friends, I don't know any fellow bitcoiners in real life

Yes, there are pretty much no friends outside of work

When you start working, co-workers are your friends..

I've been in the same place that you are right now. My suggestion is join classes , courses , etc of thing that you would like to learn or do. In that way you will meet people with similar interests , and it would be easier to befriend them

Now that there is quality advice. Nevermind the specifics, OP, just get your ass outside of the house in your free time and people will be there to be met.

Hey maybe you could go for a jog before work. If American film and television tells us anything you can meet your future wife and live happily ever after, all starting with bumping into a woman while jogging.

Just go out any where and you will find people.


You are not going to find people to hang around with if you stay indoors so try a bar or gym is the easiest one and cheapest.

As cliche as it is, gyms and bars are a great way to meet people and potential friends. I know I turn into a social butterfly after 2 drinks

As somebody else said - the gym is a great place to see regular faces and in some cases get to know people.

I think that once you make a few friends you can get more of them easier i.e. their friends, people you meet when going out etc.

Reddit has the same thing on the front page today: http://redd.it/1vuhvg

Have kids. Suddenly, the majority of people on Earth have become your co-worker.

Welcome to life.  College kids still live in a bubble. Just wait until you have to get your own health insurance.

And you know what sucks even more, if you're en engineer. You're gonna be stuck with other dude engineers for a very long time. 

I suggest you join some clubs in your city and become involved more as a citizen.

I think your signature may have something to do with it

it's tough