Topic: How to build confidence with girls ? (Read 2368 times)
Find yourself and you will find your soul mate. I found my soul on LSD, it may work for you.
I think the food store is a great place to practice or meet women. EVERYONE has to buy food, unless they are Madonna, etc.
Start with asking typical questions a guy wouldn't know or what aisle to find something in. Then walk away without any obvious intent to be trying to pick them up. They might suspect that you are and this will show that you really just had a question. But, because people typically shop in the same store week after week at the same time frame, you may run into ones you like again. I like the suggestion of starting with ones you don't find attractive.
Start with asking typical questions a guy wouldn't know or what aisle to find something in. Then walk away without any obvious intent to be trying to pick them up. They might suspect that you are and this will show that you really just had a question. But, because people typically shop in the same store week after week at the same time frame, you may run into ones you like again. I like the suggestion of starting with ones you don't find attractive.
Is everyone in this thread autistic?
If you're referring to Asperger's Syndrome, then in a way, you might say that; however, you must first assume Asperger's is a real condition, which just happens to have the same traits as a specific personality type. I've seen actual autistic people who have an actual disability, and "high-functioning autism" is not autism at all.
So it depends on how you're looking at it, whether or not you believe Asperger's is even a thing. AFAIK the only confirmed autistic member here is kokjo, but most everyone else is just of the INTP/INTJ sort.
What do you mean by that?
I have seen you alot around here recently. Want to grab some dinner? 
What do you mean by that?
Is everyone in this thread autistic?
I am a girl and the only way to build confidence is to talk to them. You won't be able to get better at talking to them unless you actually practice and you can only do that by talking to them. It's a catch 22. Girls aren't harder to talk to than guys it's just that your putting too much pressure on yourself as to where the talking could lead to. You can start by talking to girls that you don't have an attraction to so you can see them just as another person and not an intimadating girl and then when you feel more confident you can more easily approach girls you are attracted to and see how that goes. You do not have to talk about anything inparticular just be yourself and you will be able to connect with others. Also just take a breath and relax, as you said your friends talk to girls and people everywhere talk to girls so don't make it too much of a big deal in your head.
Hope that helped you.
Good Luck.
Hope that helped you.
Good Luck.
To everyone:
Clearly your difficulties with regard to making overtures to members of the female persuasion are due to this missing ingredient: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmQTmFizuFY
Clearly your difficulties with regard to making overtures to members of the female persuasion are due to this missing ingredient: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmQTmFizuFY
I've already read it, you need to proof read your previous post and use the edit button 
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Be yourself. Changing for anyone is pointless and very short term. If you do what you like and someone likes you for it, you have the basis for a long term relationship.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender. Then you already have something in common to talk about. but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender. Then you already have something in common to talk about. but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.
Gotta love these self-contradictory motivational speeches, you just said changing for anyone is pointless and then tell them to immediately do change themselves by being more social etc. some people just don't do well in the usual social settings, I know I don't
READ, before attacking the comment!!
Not self contradictory. I said "Change for yourself", never change for a girl or for anyone else). Obviously, your current habits/hobbies don't put you in a place conducive to meeting girls you like/want/care to be with. So change THAT.
There may be a problem with your lifestyle in that you may not place yourself in enough situations to be able to find "the one" to be with. What would you offer a girl? Think about that. Are you interesting? Are you boring? Are you funny or really smart? Everyone has some quality that makes them interesting to someone else. Find yours and capitalize on it.
I am at uni and usually I am alright with girls but the ones at uni are ok but they can think a lot of themselves but the guys I hang around can just talk to them and hang around with them.
Girls are not much different then guys if you think about it... So just pretend your talking to a guy!!
That is the worst advice ever
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Be yourself. Changing for anyone is pointless and very short term. If you do what you like and someone likes you for it, you have the basis for a long term relationship.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender. Then you already have something in common to talk about. but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender. Then you already have something in common to talk about. but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.
Gotta love these self-contradictory motivational speeches, you just said changing for anyone is pointless and then tell them to immediately do change themselves by being more social etc. some people just don't do well in the usual social settings, I know I don't
Be yourself. Changing for anyone is pointless and very short term. If you do what you like and someone likes you for it, you have the basis for a long term relationship.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender. Then you already have something in common to talk about. but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.
You are awesome just the way you are, you just have to find one more person that sees that. I struggled with similar issues when I was younger, beating myself up emotionally for not being "popular", being a geek and not having the clique of people around me, but all it takes is 1 person, and you won't find them sitting in front of a monitor all day.
Try to be more social, Go outside, get rid of the monitor tan, bike or play soccer or something that you like to do that results in you meeting people of the opposite gender. Then you already have something in common to talk about. but the most important rule is BE YOURSELF!.
You are awesome just the way you are, you just have to find one more person that sees that. I struggled with similar issues when I was younger, beating myself up emotionally for not being "popular", being a geek and not having the clique of people around me, but all it takes is 1 person, and you won't find them sitting in front of a monitor all day.
stalk them on twitter, and invite them to ice-cream (over twitter).
worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:
Thats probably the weirdest love story I ever heard so far.worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:
No pain no gain
No.... I was switching topics to landing an awesome gig. :-p
That's just because they want you to draw them.
Have you considered working for a gaming company like Uibisoft?
Have you considered working for a gaming company like Uibisoft?
To pick up hot gaming industry chicks? Duly noted and archived.
stalk them on twitter, and invite them to ice-cream (over twitter).
worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:
Thats probably the weirdest love story I ever heard so far. worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:
stalk them on twitter, and invite them to ice-cream (over twitter).
worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:
worked for me 2 years ago, we're still together D:
That's just because they want you to draw them.
Have you considered working for a gaming company like Uibisoft?
Have you considered working for a gaming company like Uibisoft?
I say to myself 'OK, lets do this' and after taking 2 more steps towards her I say 'Screw it. Not today.'
That's usually how I am, but I'm a total introvert so I'm like that with anyone I have or want to meet. Lucky for me, women usually ask me out first, so I've never had an issue with making the first move. Only problem is, the same types of women ask me out, whom I assume are extroverts, and considering I'd probably get along much better with another introvert, which I'll likely never meet as neither of us want to make the first move, I'm always stuck with chicks I really don't like being around for too long, which would explain why my relationships never last longer than a few months, tops.
But anyway, those types of girls are usually interested in just sex so I guess I'm supposed to think that's pretty rad, or at least that's what I'm told.
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