I am at uni and usually I am alright with girls but the ones at uni are ok but they can think a lot of themselves but the guys I hang around can just talk to them and hang around with them.
And you thought seeking help from a community of geeks on this forum would help you?
OK.. here's my advice: buy them and say "come here pum'kin, I got sumthin' sweet for ya" - they love it.
You can also try with "I'll take you to the candy shop. I'll let you lick the lollipop", sometimes it works. But you must look like 50c.
Don't build confidence with girls.
Build confidence in yourself. Until your truth includes confidence in yourself, don't even look for women, it'll be fucked up with co-dependent drama (a natural effect of conditioning and beliefs).
If you just try to know yourself completely, you find that all the shit you believe in (include girlfriends) isn't real, it's just a conditioned reaction. You feel like you need a girlfriend because you're conditioned to think so (to say nothing of the evolutionary drive to fuck -- but fucking does not require relationships).
What I did was look at all my beliefs, ended up throwing 99% of it out, am still looking at the last 1% in case it's probably not as real as I think it is. I feel complete in myself now.
Now, as long as I have clothes on my body and food in my belly I am happy, anything beyond that is a gift (which I try not to get attached to).
So, to sum up, the answers are with you now, but you might have to sit with yourself to find them. No girl will complete you, that's a fucking lie.
You are already complete, your only task is to realize that, then realize your work, and give yourself to it completely -- in that order.
Cheers.
. Works for me! 
